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BradChristi
Hey, I’m Brad and my fiancée is Christi. We’re both 27 years old and we’ve been together 6 years. Her mental health has fluctuated throughout the relationship, and it’s been definitely a lot of work keeping her feeling safe and stable. However I think we’re at one of the worst points right now then ever. She has sensory processing disorder, PTSD, and variety of trust / attachment issues.
Right now, she’s having panic attacks almost daily, and then dropping with depressive behavior and insecurity. Normally, in response to a panic attack, we’d do sensory calming exercises or breathing stuff, or sometimes if she wants it just hold her, but it hasn’t been working lately.
It’s pretty much been her wanting to be held and crying for, at times, hours while being held. I’ve tried using a lavender essential oil diffuser, tried promising she’d be safe, and it’s ended up pretty much being a waiting game while trying to get her to meet her basic needs (food water rest)
When she drops off from a panic attack, 8 times out of 10 she’ll be depressed. Along with that, she makes insecure statements, saying she doesn’t deserve me, saying bad things about herself, etc.
Only way I know how to react is disagree, and the other day we went and I got body art markers and wrote (genuine) compliments on her arms and stomach. Along with drawing because we both are artistic.
I don’t really know, though. She’s also acting like she’s reverted to early childhood. Does anyone have any other ideas, especially creative ones for things to do during panic attacks or insecurity spells? Calming exercises, sensory things?
Right now, she’s having panic attacks almost daily, and then dropping with depressive behavior and insecurity. Normally, in response to a panic attack, we’d do sensory calming exercises or breathing stuff, or sometimes if she wants it just hold her, but it hasn’t been working lately.
It’s pretty much been her wanting to be held and crying for, at times, hours while being held. I’ve tried using a lavender essential oil diffuser, tried promising she’d be safe, and it’s ended up pretty much being a waiting game while trying to get her to meet her basic needs (food water rest)
When she drops off from a panic attack, 8 times out of 10 she’ll be depressed. Along with that, she makes insecure statements, saying she doesn’t deserve me, saying bad things about herself, etc.
Only way I know how to react is disagree, and the other day we went and I got body art markers and wrote (genuine) compliments on her arms and stomach. Along with drawing because we both are artistic.
I don’t really know, though. She’s also acting like she’s reverted to early childhood. Does anyone have any other ideas, especially creative ones for things to do during panic attacks or insecurity spells? Calming exercises, sensory things?