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Whirlwind you are sooo nice and so right, I'm almost at the finish line.Courelly....and you ARE getting through these days!
Another day down!
Antidepressants do not wor...
No, I don't want to take the risk or leap of faith that would be required to give him a "chance" on the medication, as he's phrased it.
What you said about being an actor on your husband's stage is so relatable. My partner spent the early years of our relationship lamenting that I wasn't interested in participating in HIS hobbies, and always asserted that I didn't have any of my own (I do, but I don't insist that he shares them). I ended up just kind of fading into the background and only suggesting things I knew he'd want to do. He also really loves being as social as possible and doing plenty outside the house, but after years of trying to commute or travel places with the most negative and verbally abusive person I've ever known, I've become a relative hermit. I had driving anxiety before that I had mostly worked through on my own, but it's practically back to agoraphobia-level now. If we go out at all now, I'd rather pay tons of money for a ride share so that I don't have to brave my driving anxiety, and so that he doesn't drive. He's a much calmer driver where we live now that it's a more rural environment, but I'm scarred from years of his violent road rage when we lived in a busier city. I also tried to take him on a birthday trip to Hawaii a year ago, and though he remembers it fondly, all I remember is crying because he wouldn't stop complaining/unleashing on me over small, stupid things that made him angry.