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I slept with my therapist, now what?

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Yeah, no.

Dude, you're dead wrong.

She's not a ~new lover, just human, just a mistake, what a dream come true~.
They like each other though. The therapist is really freaking out because he could destroy her career.
 
She destroyed her career just fine, herself, by deciding to get drunk so much, if that were it, And sexually exploiting her client.

On top of already improper conduct, the texting, friendship - not friendly professional which be kosher & all good, friendship / personal - she was up to quite a while.

Consequences.
To own actions.
Pinning any blame as a destroyer on him?
A victim who understandably is in vulnerable position / yet learning boundaries?
On an abuse forum?

That's so many shades of gross and untrue and unjustifiable nonsense I don't have words for it.

Muted did nothing wrong.
Victim blaming him & shifting blame is just f*cked up.
Just no.
 
I can’t imagine going to someone else. She knows me better than anyone.
You'll have too. It will be unhealthy to make her your girlfriend and your therapist.
She destroyed her career just fine, herself, by deciding to get drunk so much, if that were it, And sexually exploiting her client.

Consequences.
To own actions.
Pinning any blame as a destroyer on him?
A victim who understandably is in vulnerable position / yet learning boundaries?
On an abuse forum?

That's so many shades of gross and untrue and unjustifiable nonsense I don't have words for it.

Muted did nothing wrong.
Victim blaming him & shifting blame is just f*cked up.
Just no.

True.. She is a drunk. Good point.
 
Are you a guy or a girl @Muted? I do think sex is different for men than women, however I wouldn't go back to this person. There is an unbalance of power. What she did is unethical and clearly crosses boundaries. Perhaps you can just see that for what it is worth and allow that to sink in a little.
 
You can’t imagine leaving her, but are you ready to consider adding new support to your life and seeing a therapist for a consult, that’s all, about what happened?

This therapist does know you and drunk texting and sleeping with her client is a huge violation of various laws she is required to follow. It’s a good thing she is freaking out. She needs to go get help. She ain’t going to be able to help you anymore. In the back of her mind is always going to be the reality that she could lose her license for what she did to you. You’ll help her best by taking a step back and getting other support for you.

Everyone can suggest what to do... but at the end of the day, it’s going to be up to you. You will have to claim your voice and your choice over what you do next.
 
She knows me better than anyone.

She is a predator but you want to stay with her?

I seriously think this is why there should be limits on how long a therapist can see any one client. At some point, waaaay before the decade point, a therapist stops teaching you anything all that new aside from dealing with the daily fires.

Your therapeutic relationship should have ended a long time ago. She has victimized you.

She’s blaming blacking out to SAVE HER OWN ASS. That is, she knows she’s in the wrong and you are getting thrown under the bus. Nice, huh?
 
A therapist who has so little control over her drinking that she would "accidentally" sleep with a patient has no business being a therapist. Time for her to get her ass into rehab and salvage her own life before she screws up someone else's.

Just curious- what would you think if it was a male therapist sleeping with his client?
 
I think you posted here because you are conflicted and feeling bad about the whole situation. I am sorry you have been violated but maybe you do not feel that but whatever you feel is making you seek out others support here.

These sort of things usually resolve themselves very easily and very rapidly and extremely very badly for all involved. This therapist will eventually stop doing what she is doing. IT IS NOT YOUR JOB TO STOP. It is her job to stop and it is her to job to seek help and SHE WILL STOP because people like her get caught eventually. She is breaking her professional laws and breaking it really badly and probably she is violating many others like you vulnerable people seeking help...in all sort of unethical ways. Not only sexually, but harming them, re-traumatizing them, and who knows what else because she is not well and should not be in a position of power.

It feels like you are unable to stop but I really hope you have some support when all these falls apart and it will sooner than later (hardly do this type of experience go on long time) and you have to pick up the pieces. I wish you well. and I am truly sorry you are in this predicament. It is absolutely abhorrent you are put in this situation by a professional.
 
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