>Have you ever experienced this?
Yes I have but the shoe has been on the other foot. I totally identify with your description of your new friend. If you want to respond and react constructively, I suggest asking her if she wants to hear about how her behavior affects you. You can add that your intensions are coming from a good place and either way it's ok with you. The value IMHO of having friends like us is that your being triggered by us provides a wonderful opportunity for you to self reflect inwards. What are your unmet needs and desires? Sadly, most people make it about us, our weak boundaries, our messed up childhoods and our know it all attitude. Whatever way you choose to heal, make it about you and not about the external trigger. Once you clearly communicate your needs and expectations, you can together decide if there is a basis for any relationship imo. I am respectfully not sure what you want from this person. But she is the one that should be the holder of that information. And thanks for posting this, we "know it alls", only really learn anything when our views are challenged. We tend not to let on but we are grateful ?.
Yes I have but the shoe has been on the other foot. I totally identify with your description of your new friend. If you want to respond and react constructively, I suggest asking her if she wants to hear about how her behavior affects you. You can add that your intensions are coming from a good place and either way it's ok with you. The value IMHO of having friends like us is that your being triggered by us provides a wonderful opportunity for you to self reflect inwards. What are your unmet needs and desires? Sadly, most people make it about us, our weak boundaries, our messed up childhoods and our know it all attitude. Whatever way you choose to heal, make it about you and not about the external trigger. Once you clearly communicate your needs and expectations, you can together decide if there is a basis for any relationship imo. I am respectfully not sure what you want from this person. But she is the one that should be the holder of that information. And thanks for posting this, we "know it alls", only really learn anything when our views are challenged. We tend not to let on but we are grateful ?.