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WonderWriter
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December 27, 2020
Progression and regression in the same day?
My mom and I discussed at length the fact that I never felt safe growing up. We both cried guilty tears as our parenting crime is mirrored. I felt better after we talked.
Later that evening, my daughter and I saw “Wonder Woman 1984,” and what did my curious eyes witness? Two themes that hit me in the gut like sour milk. I cried through most of the movie
My melancholia woke up with me this morning, that compelled me to have a talk with my husband. I (tried) gently reminding him that our daughter is hurting inside and that he needs to do more than just talk to her. As soon as I mentioned him making any effort or being responsible for some of her pain, he got defensive. I told him, “I’m not saying you’re a bad person; I’m saying you should have a talk with her and not just tell her how you feel about her, show her you care. She relied on us to keep her safe, and both of us have failed to do so - miserably. Now, whenever you get loud or upset about something, she gets anxious because she’s used to being yelled at by you and your mom. You’ve got to fix your relationship with her.”
Progression and regression in the same day?
My mom and I discussed at length the fact that I never felt safe growing up. We both cried guilty tears as our parenting crime is mirrored. I felt better after we talked.
Later that evening, my daughter and I saw “Wonder Woman 1984,” and what did my curious eyes witness? Two themes that hit me in the gut like sour milk. I cried through most of the movie
My melancholia woke up with me this morning, that compelled me to have a talk with my husband. I (tried) gently reminding him that our daughter is hurting inside and that he needs to do more than just talk to her. As soon as I mentioned him making any effort or being responsible for some of her pain, he got defensive. I told him, “I’m not saying you’re a bad person; I’m saying you should have a talk with her and not just tell her how you feel about her, show her you care. She relied on us to keep her safe, and both of us have failed to do so - miserably. Now, whenever you get loud or upset about something, she gets anxious because she’s used to being yelled at by you and your mom. You’ve got to fix your relationship with her.”