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Derek
Hello, I feel really terrible because I messed up... My girlfriend has PTSD, Depression, and anxiety. And her trauma has to do with the cops. A couple days ago, my girlfriend was getting this really bad urge to commit suicide. I was gonna meet up with her and she told me we should because she feels like she'll do something stupid. Also, she said she can't shake the feeling, and really wants to do it. Overtime, we weren't able to meet up sadly because of parents and distance, and she started saying she'll be fine right after. She said to give her space, and I gave her a couple hours, which then she wasn't replying. I told her I'd call someone to check on her (I didn't have the parents numbers sadly), and after another hour I called the suicide hotline and I thought they were gonna have someone pick her up... but apparently they called the cops. I really tried to stop them and called the station but they were already there and refused to.
She was avoiding me the last 2 days, and she finally told me that she knows that I said that I won't do it ever again and apologized for it, but she's lost alot of trust in me and can't believe in me. She even couldn't talk to me those last 2 days because this triggered her PTSD badly. Today were able to talk for a bit today and we stayed up all night. She finally fell asleep so I'm making this post. But after she said that she said she wants to be in this relationship and wants to do a list of things with me, as well as she wants to get better for me. She doesn't want to pull an impulsive stunt and lose me. And I reciprocate this feeling and want to continue this relationship too...
We talked things out and she's actually willing to try therapy again (her 2nd time). I'm trying to see if she can do EMDR therapy because it's apparently a really successful treatment. I just wanted to ask how can I support her in this... or support her better in general. How can I support her in therapy as well, she might try to avoid it.. but how can I support her in that as well (we looked for therapists but we took a break since it was overwhelming for her). And when she does the sessions how can I also support her, if she doesn't want to go I think I can see if I can help motivate her but I won't force her to go. Finally, how can I regain that trust and help her believe me, I know what I did was wrong and I really regret it, it wasn't my intention at all. Thank you for reading and I hope you all have a good day.
She was avoiding me the last 2 days, and she finally told me that she knows that I said that I won't do it ever again and apologized for it, but she's lost alot of trust in me and can't believe in me. She even couldn't talk to me those last 2 days because this triggered her PTSD badly. Today were able to talk for a bit today and we stayed up all night. She finally fell asleep so I'm making this post. But after she said that she said she wants to be in this relationship and wants to do a list of things with me, as well as she wants to get better for me. She doesn't want to pull an impulsive stunt and lose me. And I reciprocate this feeling and want to continue this relationship too...
We talked things out and she's actually willing to try therapy again (her 2nd time). I'm trying to see if she can do EMDR therapy because it's apparently a really successful treatment. I just wanted to ask how can I support her in this... or support her better in general. How can I support her in therapy as well, she might try to avoid it.. but how can I support her in that as well (we looked for therapists but we took a break since it was overwhelming for her). And when she does the sessions how can I also support her, if she doesn't want to go I think I can see if I can help motivate her but I won't force her to go. Finally, how can I regain that trust and help her believe me, I know what I did was wrong and I really regret it, it wasn't my intention at all. Thank you for reading and I hope you all have a good day.