i am wondering if it’s just me or if others have this experience.
I have had a year-plus therapy relationship go sour. Partly because online therapy is not the same as in person, but mostly because of what she terms “failures of empathy“ on her part. The puzzling part to me is she refuses to discuss the failures. She has said “I’m Sorry” and states that no further discussion is needed.
I am bad at stories but i can give you any details you want. It’s mainly to do with meditation being uber-destabilizing for me, yet it happening at the start of each of the new process group sessions she suggested I attend. I would express my concerns at our next individual session, which wasn’t always before another group, and I walked away thinking she understood.
but then nothing would change at the next group, I would become destabilized and I had no polite or even functional tools to use to manage the situation during that group zoom session (first time in a group, totally didn’t know what to expect from it, and I am under the impression she and I were on the same page about how distressing his was for me.) i brought it back up, we talked, thought she got it, and then nothing changed and I again must begin this new group thing session already struggling to even stay present. It keeps happening. No matter how I express my needs and desires for help, she doesn’t seem to get it.
There were other issues too, normal therapy stuff, covid scheduling problems, her own health causing missed appointments, groups members bailing and demanding changes, and the group eventually disintegrated and she kinda reassured me about it by saying that had never happened to her before, was due to her doing it a new way, and making exceptions for new folks who came in later who weren’t her individual clients as well, which she had assured me before group was the way she did groups.
It reached the point at the end where my frustration and confusion over her lack of understanding erupt in more forceful complaints which made her defensive. She says via email she wants to repair it, but in todays session she was borderline spiteful and cruel, both about it being my fault, and at one point even said “group therapy won’t ever be modified for you”. I had asked her to reread something I send her before, which she did, aloud, in definitely not compassionate tone. Then kinda mocked me, but I was upset so I may be exaggeratin.
She has known from our first session how I felt about meditation, she did not tell me beforehand it would be part of group or else I would have worked it out then or declined to join, and although I brought it up as an issue no real action was done over the six months of group, and then today she gets ugly with me about it.
Did I do something wrong, or just draw the short straw, or what?
I have had a year-plus therapy relationship go sour. Partly because online therapy is not the same as in person, but mostly because of what she terms “failures of empathy“ on her part. The puzzling part to me is she refuses to discuss the failures. She has said “I’m Sorry” and states that no further discussion is needed.
I am bad at stories but i can give you any details you want. It’s mainly to do with meditation being uber-destabilizing for me, yet it happening at the start of each of the new process group sessions she suggested I attend. I would express my concerns at our next individual session, which wasn’t always before another group, and I walked away thinking she understood.
but then nothing would change at the next group, I would become destabilized and I had no polite or even functional tools to use to manage the situation during that group zoom session (first time in a group, totally didn’t know what to expect from it, and I am under the impression she and I were on the same page about how distressing his was for me.) i brought it back up, we talked, thought she got it, and then nothing changed and I again must begin this new group thing session already struggling to even stay present. It keeps happening. No matter how I express my needs and desires for help, she doesn’t seem to get it.
There were other issues too, normal therapy stuff, covid scheduling problems, her own health causing missed appointments, groups members bailing and demanding changes, and the group eventually disintegrated and she kinda reassured me about it by saying that had never happened to her before, was due to her doing it a new way, and making exceptions for new folks who came in later who weren’t her individual clients as well, which she had assured me before group was the way she did groups.
It reached the point at the end where my frustration and confusion over her lack of understanding erupt in more forceful complaints which made her defensive. She says via email she wants to repair it, but in todays session she was borderline spiteful and cruel, both about it being my fault, and at one point even said “group therapy won’t ever be modified for you”. I had asked her to reread something I send her before, which she did, aloud, in definitely not compassionate tone. Then kinda mocked me, but I was upset so I may be exaggeratin.
She has known from our first session how I felt about meditation, she did not tell me beforehand it would be part of group or else I would have worked it out then or declined to join, and although I brought it up as an issue no real action was done over the six months of group, and then today she gets ugly with me about it.
Did I do something wrong, or just draw the short straw, or what?