Justmehere
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I head up a volunteer team offline. A friend's sister has asked to be on the team. Initially I added them to the team. 4 weeks in a row they contacted me with an angry raised voice. 3rd time I took them off the team. 4th time I tried to explain the angry outburst needed to be under better control to be on the team, but we never got that far. She started to make all kinds of accusations that I had told her she couldn't do all kinds of things I never said. She became so fiery and adversarial that I was about to say something stupid and instead, I just hung up the phone. I texted her and told her that I am very sorry but I can't talk today.
It was a few days after a massively triggery funeral and my symptoms were too high. I figured that hanging up was the best of a lot of bad options.
Now this person is going around at various events telling all the other volunteers on my team she and I had a disagreement - which sure fine - but then trying to triangulate everyone into it. So far people are contacting me indicating that she's coming across as a nutty loose cannon.
i'll keep running into her and running into hearing about her. Not sure how to respond right now. i'm thinking of offering to sit down with her at a public location with the boundary that I'm leaving if she raises her voice. The goal of the conversation would be for me to lay out very clearly for her why she's not on the team and what would have to change for her to be on it, and outline some other groups and organizations that she could get involved in as well if our team continues to not be the right fit. I'm not sure if I should deal with the accusation she's making with others or not.
I'm not sure if I should even meet at all / it just doesn't work to simply ignore her.
It was a few days after a massively triggery funeral and my symptoms were too high. I figured that hanging up was the best of a lot of bad options.
Now this person is going around at various events telling all the other volunteers on my team she and I had a disagreement - which sure fine - but then trying to triangulate everyone into it. So far people are contacting me indicating that she's coming across as a nutty loose cannon.
i'll keep running into her and running into hearing about her. Not sure how to respond right now. i'm thinking of offering to sit down with her at a public location with the boundary that I'm leaving if she raises her voice. The goal of the conversation would be for me to lay out very clearly for her why she's not on the team and what would have to change for her to be on it, and outline some other groups and organizations that she could get involved in as well if our team continues to not be the right fit. I'm not sure if I should deal with the accusation she's making with others or not.
I'm not sure if I should even meet at all / it just doesn't work to simply ignore her.
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