This comes from work so I'm putting it here. I'm annoyed that I keep getting ridiculous praise for basically just doing my job competently (I am in regulatory compliance and risk management and, sadly, it's my Time to Shine) AND AT SAME TIME getting told left and right that I need to say hard things in a way people and their stupid egos will feel less wrong about.
First off, my job IS keeping things safe and legal whether it's "fun, nice, the way we always did before" or not. Secondly, you bunch of feely-mc-feelings-wallowers keep being astounded and ridiculously effusive with weird gratitude that I am "so calm under all this pressure." And supposedly you "appreciate the directness" but somehow want it to feel less like I'm saying you've been doing stupid things stupidly and it's come to bite you in the ass?
I am having trouble reconciling all this.
And, for the record, I'm not all that calm or relaxed but running around like chickens with heads detached is counterproductive AND this is hardly the most stressful thing I've ever been involved in.
The "thanks you're awesome but you're making us feel like we're doing things wrong" (which yes, you were) is driving me batty. I don't know how much of this is older sibling role stuff, basic personality stuff, or being way too responsible too early fallout but it's making me tired of hearing work people talk. And starting to affect how I interact with Spouse, which just isn't fair to him.
What do other people here with overdeveloped watchdog/sense of responsibility who made a job of it do when it goes into overdrive AND is actually part of your job?
First off, my job IS keeping things safe and legal whether it's "fun, nice, the way we always did before" or not. Secondly, you bunch of feely-mc-feelings-wallowers keep being astounded and ridiculously effusive with weird gratitude that I am "so calm under all this pressure." And supposedly you "appreciate the directness" but somehow want it to feel less like I'm saying you've been doing stupid things stupidly and it's come to bite you in the ass?
I am having trouble reconciling all this.
And, for the record, I'm not all that calm or relaxed but running around like chickens with heads detached is counterproductive AND this is hardly the most stressful thing I've ever been involved in.
The "thanks you're awesome but you're making us feel like we're doing things wrong" (which yes, you were) is driving me batty. I don't know how much of this is older sibling role stuff, basic personality stuff, or being way too responsible too early fallout but it's making me tired of hearing work people talk. And starting to affect how I interact with Spouse, which just isn't fair to him.
What do other people here with overdeveloped watchdog/sense of responsibility who made a job of it do when it goes into overdrive AND is actually part of your job?