coraxxx
Policy Enforcement
Hello. I’m currently living in a shared household where life is rather communal and shared. It was hard but feasible before a roommate left and was replaced by another one.
The thing is, mornings are my most difficult moments and I’d like to have a routine that doesn’t imply to see others right off the bed because I need to adjust my head and wind down the stress before being able to appear in front of anybody. I’m considering buying a coffee machine just for myself so at least I have coffee in the morning if needed.
But in general it’s complicated for me to be in presence of others that I perceive as threats even if honestly, it doesn’t make any sense. I transform awkward interactions into a casus belli and it’s not good.
I always struggled to "arrange myself" before being able to go anywhere. If I cross with a roommate in the corridor at that point it’s likely that I brutally "switch" to autopilot and it becomes very difficult to do a normal interaction. And I’m more and more paranoid as I can sense others don’t see that as normal. It’s taking a toll on me, it’s taking a toll on the atmosphere of the house and it creates a vicious circle.
I can’t afford living in a place just by myself and honestly the space I have here is exceptional, so moving isn’t really an option by now.
I just would like to know if any of you have some insight in shared housing and how you manage isolating phases in these situations.
Thank you xx
The thing is, mornings are my most difficult moments and I’d like to have a routine that doesn’t imply to see others right off the bed because I need to adjust my head and wind down the stress before being able to appear in front of anybody. I’m considering buying a coffee machine just for myself so at least I have coffee in the morning if needed.
But in general it’s complicated for me to be in presence of others that I perceive as threats even if honestly, it doesn’t make any sense. I transform awkward interactions into a casus belli and it’s not good.
I always struggled to "arrange myself" before being able to go anywhere. If I cross with a roommate in the corridor at that point it’s likely that I brutally "switch" to autopilot and it becomes very difficult to do a normal interaction. And I’m more and more paranoid as I can sense others don’t see that as normal. It’s taking a toll on me, it’s taking a toll on the atmosphere of the house and it creates a vicious circle.
I can’t afford living in a place just by myself and honestly the space I have here is exceptional, so moving isn’t really an option by now.
I just would like to know if any of you have some insight in shared housing and how you manage isolating phases in these situations.
Thank you xx