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Janey

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My husband has recently been diagnosed with PTSD and is really struggling with insomnia. He sleeps during the day and when we do communicate is usually critical.I know he’s in a difficult place and I’m trying to be patient. I hope to understand a bit more from joining this forum as I’m really worried about the future of our marriage.
 
hi janey. welcome to the forum.

my own hubby helps me best when he tends his own needs while giving me lots of votes of confidence that i can work through my own psycho snot knots. i'm less confused when he helps me AS the love of my life and lets me trust my therapy network for the PTSD stuff.

i've been on both sides of the PTSD help desk and for my therapy nickel, the supporter side is the harder side, even when i'm not emotionally involved with the person i am helping. self-care just might be even more important on the supporter side of the equation. nobody ever saved a drowning victim by drowning with them.

don't forget to take care of you.
 
Hi
My husband has recently been diagnosed with PTSD and is really struggling with insomnia. He sleeps during the day and when we do communicate is usually critical.I know he’s in a difficult place and I’m trying to be patient. I hope to understand a bit more from joining this forum as I’m really worried about the future of our marriage.
Get yourself into therapy. The more support you have for yourself the better.
 
I know how you feel Janey , because I do it to my wife , I feel bad because I'm not trying to be mean or aggressive (no i would never hit her , just my demeanor) . Its hard to explain , for me something triggered me in January(because i was good even after my accident in march) and a rapid plunge down the rabbit hole i went and I'm still there , yet you can still see I'm able to talk / Its similar to when someone asks me when I'm "in love" , my answer is this "its a feeling i get" ,I cant explain it , of course being in love is a great feeling , PTSD, isn't a great feeling but a feeling just the same . I love my wife , she loves me , its not a perfect world , I don't expect the "till death do us part" thing , i wish i could tell you exactly how he's feeling , but i cant tell you exactly how I'm feeling
 
Hi I'm a supporter wife as well as have ptsd myself. We've had a lot of therapy and currently I have a personal therapist for my ptsd. And we have a good marriage therapist now too.

It's so hard both ways. I'm sorry you're concerned for your marriage.

I was too. I requested lawyers papers. Very different than your post thankfully.

I know you'll find great support here. I do agree maybe a bi weekly check in about yourself to start might be very beneficial. A good therapist will build you up. Effectively and efficiently. Please ignore if im off base.

I'm here if you ever want to talk. And I'm hoping it all works out for you guys!
 
Welcome! Two quick starters.
a. PTSD is annoying and frustrating. Frustration comes out everywhere.
b. Google "rejection sensitive dysphoria" as it's likely he has it.
 
b. Google "rejection sensitive dysphoria" as it's likely he has it.
Curious why you’d suggest this?

The only population of people it’s common in is ADHD, not PTSD. To the extent there’s talk of only classing it as an ADHD sub-symptom (IE not required, just a common byproduct of other symptoms) in the DSM/ICD.

There can be core beliefs & cognitive distortions (very much a PTSD thing! 😁) centered around rejection, and mental/emotional dysreg in spades… but that’s going to be both trauma specific, & personality specific… and still not universal. So even if we knew her husband’s trauma history, there’s no way to predict or say how likely what his core beliefs and cognitive distortions will be, ya know?

I’m guessing you’re being treated for both PTSD & RSD so the overlap has merged them into 1 totally natural if/then thing in your head? But also figured there might be another reason, like new studies I haven’t read, so best bet is to just ask!
 
The only population of people it’s common in is ADHD, not PTSD
But doesn't everyone with PTSD have some degree of executive dysfunction (working memory, brain fog) which is the same central problem as ADHD and ADD and Autism?
 
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