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Moving, I know I have faults and have worked on them over the years. My wife helps me all the time. I used to be extremely abrasive. She would say its not so much your point its how you put it out there or present it, it makes people want to disagree with you even if they do agree with you. I get that. I am a lot like how Rush Limbaugh presents things, very passionate and it just comes across as its in your face.
All of us brothers are like that. I put a lot of our issues collectively on my parents. We were not raised we were there to serve my father and when that was not done any longer he had no real use for us. So I absolutly know I can be a pill to get along with but I work on it and am much much better than I was. In fact when my father died my brother with the trash can wife and I went to my dads now our estate to sell the farm land and clean out the house and make it salable. We hired some people who my father used around the farm who I could see out of the gate were less than quality people, but we needed help as my father was a hoarder and we needed to clean out the house and garage and barns.
I kept notes on things they just took without asking, IMO stole. When we were done, I did not pay them for things I felt we did not owe them for such as the deal was they were to work the garage sale, me and my brother would bring in things to sell they would sit it and sell and at the end of every day we split the sales. But they wanted that and hourly pay. I blew them off after the everything was over but in a very tactful way. My brother got all pissy with me saying what happend to you you. You would blow up and call them every name in the book and where the cow crapped in the field. I told him, I came to realize the this only causes issues and almost never helps a thing. He was ticked at me for not going off on them.
But what would that have accomplished? That same brother will go off on a tangent cursing and attacking anyone who does not do what he thinks they should be doing. So I have come a long way and the road is never ending. I get it. But I can not see why I need to put myself in a place where I need to watch every word and worry it may offend someone. I don't believe in safe spaces or any of that snowflake crap. No one has a right to not hear things they do not like.
All of us brothers are like that. I put a lot of our issues collectively on my parents. We were not raised we were there to serve my father and when that was not done any longer he had no real use for us. So I absolutly know I can be a pill to get along with but I work on it and am much much better than I was. In fact when my father died my brother with the trash can wife and I went to my dads now our estate to sell the farm land and clean out the house and make it salable. We hired some people who my father used around the farm who I could see out of the gate were less than quality people, but we needed help as my father was a hoarder and we needed to clean out the house and garage and barns.
I kept notes on things they just took without asking, IMO stole. When we were done, I did not pay them for things I felt we did not owe them for such as the deal was they were to work the garage sale, me and my brother would bring in things to sell they would sit it and sell and at the end of every day we split the sales. But they wanted that and hourly pay. I blew them off after the everything was over but in a very tactful way. My brother got all pissy with me saying what happend to you you. You would blow up and call them every name in the book and where the cow crapped in the field. I told him, I came to realize the this only causes issues and almost never helps a thing. He was ticked at me for not going off on them.
But what would that have accomplished? That same brother will go off on a tangent cursing and attacking anyone who does not do what he thinks they should be doing. So I have come a long way and the road is never ending. I get it. But I can not see why I need to put myself in a place where I need to watch every word and worry it may offend someone. I don't believe in safe spaces or any of that snowflake crap. No one has a right to not hear things they do not like.