Divorce Incoming.

Update. I'm back home and my husband is seeing someone else which really hurts however he is being very discreet and respectful about it. He had started mourning our relationship a long time ago and we both admitted our faults in the marriage.

I honestly think it's one of the best conversations we've had in years. Very honest, kind and understanding, especially regarding my curent mental health status. We set ground rules. There was no yelling or shouting. Just kindness and understanding. I sincerely hope this continues and works out.

Besides my Dad passing, this is the most heartbreaking experience I've had. I haven't just lost my husband but family as well. Theres not a lot of people in my life but the ones I have are being so supportive.

Thank you to everyone here for the advice and support, it honestly means the world to me.

I know I'm late to this thread, but I really hope you’re in a better place now than you were last summer. CPTSD is no joke, and that feeling of the world ending is so heavy.

Honestly, when I was going through my own mess, the only way I kept my head above water was outsourcing the stress.

I probably should not be saying this....but I am going to anyway. When I read that the counselor only wanted to see him in the future (I recognized that as familiar in counseling) that he was already done when you went.
I know that you say and I do believe you, is shared fault. Usually the case.
When you say that he has nowhere to live, is that your problem. I know it may sound harsh but you need to start separating what is his problem and what is yours.
I once thought that you dont know someone until you live with them, then I learned that you really dont know someone until you divorce them. Ugly does come out. Protect yourself.

@oliver767 @mamachick Hey guys! I'm doing a a lot better now. I live in the same city as my friends, I have my own cosy little place and I've learnt to take care of myself.

I survived what was the worst year of my life and although I struggle, mental health kicks my ass, I'm a fighter!

I get extremely overwhelmed sometimes but I have turned my life around. Now I'm focusing on my health and a possible streaming career.

Good to hear. I’m going through the same thing. In many ways life is better but it is still painful that it happened.

Lost in the Woods said:

Good to hear. I’m going through the same thing. In many ways life is better but it is still painful that it happened.

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I'm sorry you're going through it, if you want to vent or talk about it, I got you!

I joined this community last year and there are so many people who reached out. I got a lot of support and advice.

Thanks. I am doing fairly well with all of it right now (knock on wood).

Lost in the Woods said:

Thanks. I am doing fairly well with all of it right now (knock on wood).

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It gets easier. I know from experience.
If you need a chat about it, just reach out.

thanks

I could have written this myself a few years ago. CPTSD, depression, husband had an emotional affair, and I thought my life was over. Nightmares, shaking, tension headaches every day.

I called a lawyer and she didn't just listen, she gave me a timeline. Laid out what a divorce would actually look like in my situation: how property would be split, what custody could look like if we had kids, how long it would take. She also told me what to document and what not to say to him.

That alone pulled me out of the fog. I stopped imagining the worst and started seeing a path. I still waited months to file, but I wasn't drowning anymore.