Oh the statement was in response to how I'd been recieved.
I was trying to be empathetic and understanding of the OP, not trying to dissect the dynamics of truthtelling and somebody took offence. Somebody other than the OP who I was addressing. Which actually really frustrates and ailienates me...
Well, I think it a little arrogant to think I have a deep onus on knowing how humans behave, as there is sooooooooo much diversity among humans and human cultures and often times, we are a mystery, even.unto ourselves, so if we don't even understand ourselves, how in heaven are we to assume we...
I'm sure it doesn't.
Sometimes, neither people are being forcoming with the facts and we all have blind spot, so both people could be not taking responsibility for their part in whatever has transpired.
And, I repeat, I didn't call you or anyone a liar. People tell lies. We all do if pushed into...
Nope. Not at all. Wasn't even aware of your viewpoint.
It only applies where it applies.
And I'm only talking about my own experience. I dont even know you. Not remotely, so how could I pass judgement on you, with any credibility?
I know absolutely nothing about you. Don't know who you are...
Actually, I shouldn't say "I'm very honest", that sounds disingenuous, just that, I, very much VALUE honesty and truthfulness and accuracy of fact, as much as is humanly possible.
Yeah. I often find that line of "the truth must be somewhere in the middle" somewhat glib and, slightly, or outrageously, (whatever the case may be) ignorant.
More often, in my experience, anyway, if the two stories differ, IS that someone is telling the truth and the other person is NOT...
Understanding oneself more and more.
Knowing one's limitations and learning, over time to accept them, to work within them and who knows? Maybe even transcending one, or some, that you might have thought were indelible.
But the learning to be ok with ourself, despite our limitations, is...
Sorry, but @ruborcoraxxx and @enough, I remember the OP explicitely requested and specified that this thread was NOT to be about politics. Myself, I found your posts very disheartenening. So I think it important to respect what the OP wanted for this thread and to be sensitive that some of us...
I am sorry you are suffering so much @sonnet and not receiving support from the one person who is supposed to be there for you "for better or worse". It is a heartbreaking situation.
Confusing and very hurtful.
I do empathise. I went through plenty of a similar kind of negligent disregard...
I think victimhood is very much the language and manipulative ploy of narcissistic people. Particularly any of them who have "covert" or "vulnerable narcissistic traits".
It's the blame games and refusal to take personal responsibility that is a key feature of narcissistic behaviour. And it's...
There's just so many things.
Embodying the most loving, truthful me that I can be.
Transforming fear into strength and courage.
Developing wisdom.
Raising my family.
Developing my talents and aptitudes.
Sharing my knowledge.
Enjoying loving the one's that I'm blessed to have in my life.
Working...
I can relate to quite a lot of your early experiences @goblin. I went through some similar early childhood and late childhood abuse.
As I get older and am finally not dealing with so much in my here and now, I reflect and realise how such experiences were formative and harmful.
I can make...
I made a cheesy, mustardy, mac n cheese with a twist, added ham and salami and some finely sliced chicken, frozen, spinach, peas, cauliflower and basil, and loads of pickled jalapenos. It was a thing I made one night as a side dish and then added more stuff to the left overs to make it a main...
I do understand. I'm still battling that one myself.
It's not easy to change the "self talk" nor is is easy to "rewire" the brain/endocrine system after abuse.
Learning to breath, in a restorative calming way, and recognising when your body is responding in a traumatized way and telling yourself...
It takes courage to expose your vulnerabilities like you just did @jch.
Maybe you can consider it a step along your recovery-healing path that you did that?
A lot of getting better is about taking risks, in my opinion.
Reaching out and not knowing if it will make it better or worse, but...
Super sweaty, hot and humid morning and then massive downpour and cool down. La Nina, I love you.
It was the coldest summer I've ever experienced, up here on the nth coast of nsw.
Excuse me if I'm a little sceptical about the "global warming" climate alarmists predictions.
Science is about...
Wow, lots of this post speaks directly to my own experience.
Thank you @Paul Shipman Smith for writing out this extensive, informative and compassionate post.
My experience was over a much greater stretch of time and the abuse was sneaker, very machiavellian, and the triangulation involved...
I can understand how vulnerable and frightened you are. Being psychotic is VERY frightening, as is ptsd (this is my diagnosis, too, mine is the c-ptsd type).
If you can, somehow, let her know that you are open to other support people, but, that its very, very frightening to let people in, maybe...
Ok, that's a lot to deal with; Homelessness, psychosis, paranoia, no other supports...really a LOT.
Have you a home now?
I know how much this is, because, all of those things I've also experienced.
I'm really feeling for you.
It sounds like you are doing everything you can.
Usually, it is...