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Friends and family want the best for you, but it’s impossible for them to understand what’s in your heart and the degree of emotional investment you’ve made. You do what you feel is best and trust in your journey and your own intuition. ??❤️

I messaged from time to time, being mindful of not putting any pressure on or expecting any kind of response. On occasion, the situation lent itself for me to be more forthright and tell him exactly how I felt though. My biggest thing was wanting him to know exactly how I felt about him and the...

It’s been a while but I wanted to provide an update... Well, following two months of practically nothing, I had an unexpected visit and I have my amazing man back in my life! We talked and talked and talked and although there’s a long road ahead, I now know that our feelings are just as strong...

Yes, it’s diagnosed. He was at the tail end of having treatment when we met. Was having light therapy and I think she covered off some counselling too, but not ? sure. He then stopped, as they said that he was in a good place, then a short while later said that he was showing signs of it coming...

More than happy to share, especially if I can help anyone going through the same thing. I made contact with him last night and he’s suggested meeting up next week. Time will tell and I’ll update you if there’s anything useful to share. ?

Thanks. This helps ?

The best advice as always!! I’m going to muddle on and see how it goes. Much appreciated! ??

Thank you!! And it all helps!! I don’t know if he’s getting treatment at the moment as we’ve not spoken. I am thinking that counselling might be a good idea for me. Going to look into this! X Thanks so much @LuckiLee Our relationship currently is pretty non-existent. He’s got a few bits to...

Perfectly said!! Thank you so much @candor xx

Good luck!!! ??????

I’m definitely getting there!! Lost myself temporarily, but out of the other side of that now. I’m finding that a lot of positive stuff is coming out of journaling. Also reframing my story to be a positive one of personal growth is helping too. There’s his journey to consider in all this too of...

Gives me hope too. Much love x

Thanks @Freida for sharing ?

@Freida I’ve been following a lot of the posts that you comment in and it really is incredibly insightful and helpful hearing it from the other perspective. I know that you have also said that you’ve benefited from hearing from supporters about how it is for them. Would this be something that...

Yep this is a tricky one. I think I would be better with it if I had seen some of this coming, but I’m sure a lot of people say this! No contact for six weeks - only very minimal short text messages here and there, in some cases two weeks apart. I reckon I’m doing a pretty good job given the...

@Sweetpea76 Quick question... I've just heard from a friend of his who said that he seems to be doing okay and getting on with things. My partner said that he's not really opened up to anyone about what he's going through at the moment. Would it be expected that to some friends he would seem...

I’ll give myself some time to think about these questions and see what I come up with. I’ve been journaling a lot and know the benefits of writing it all down. Thanks @Sweetpea76

Yes definitely. I’m practicing self care, becoming more knowledgeable on the situation I am in and getting on with my own life in the meantime. I’m getting there with it for sure and trying to stay upbeat and not take his silence personally. This forum is just the first chance for me to reach...

Just read something from a sufferer on this - might leave it to him to make this move... I know everyone’s different and we need to find our own way, but I’d rather let him make the moves when he’s ready to try and reconnect. Just fearful of pushing him away...

@Sweetpea76 been reading the ‘what are they thinking’ thread which has been really useful!

Also been reading the ‘what are they thinking’ thread - really useful!

@candor Thanks for this. Useful advice. I suppose being that this is the first time he has isolated and we’re only a fairly new couple anyway, there’s an awful lot to try to figure out. Hopefully we will get a chance to speak on the phone or meet up and we can talk and establish some boundaries...

He may have been in hospital, but I was more referring to the EMDR that he’s had and seemed to help previously. I don’t think he’s all that open to the therapy side of things, but I might be wrong. He’s said he doesn’t have the energy for it right now and is plodding along without. Guess he’s...

Okay. It’s slowly starting to come clearer. I’ve been working on myself and moving forward with my life in the meantime. Also made I clear that I wanted to stand by him and for him to say if I am misleading myself or he wanted me to walk away. It’s all so tricky when you can only message. I’m...

Yes. It’s been 6 weeks since we came back from holiday and not spoken or seen each other, only messaged. Before all this, we used to talk on the phone and caught up most weekends. Obviously messaging was good too throughout the day at work to say hi. I’ve been holding off from messaging to give...