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    Relationship Accidentally hurt my fiancée. What to do?

    @throwaway107 Hi and welcome to the forum. You can reach out and ask her what she needs from you. Communication is key to solving any issue in a relationship. How do the two of you normally communicate when one or both people are upset?
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    Relationship It hasn’t been a fairytale in a long time

    @KrystalwithaK sorry your going through this hard time at the moment. As hard as it is, working and focusing on yourself is a great step to take. You’re starting the process of your own journey and personal growth. Putting yourself first with self-care, learning about boundaries and how to set...
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    Relationship Desperately seeking help and understanding

    Yes @Florida2022 I have been there. I felt like I woke up one day and everything changed. Right now try and focus on you and therapy can help you a lot.
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    Relationship No one can relate

    You have a lot going on and I can understand the stress your under. I think therapy would be a good thing for you and trying to let go of the things you can’t control and focus on what you do have control over.
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    Relationship Broken Heart: UPDATE, Alone and wondering if he will come back

    Educating yourself is the best thing you can do. I know it’s hard to stand back, it’s natural to want to help. But the truth is, it’s up to him to fix himself. He has to be the one to do the work. Being a supporter is just that, supporting. If you want to help, taking care of yourself mentally...
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    Relationship Broken Heart: UPDATE, Alone and wondering if he will come back

    Hi @BrokenHeat, I’m also a supporter. I’m more than happy to share my experience. It sounds like we have a lot in common. Having a good relationship with our hubby’s and then bam!! It is very hard right now, you don’t know whether your coming or going. My husband went numb also and didn’t feel...
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    Relationship Broken Heart: UPDATE, Alone and wondering if he will come back

    Hi BrokenHeat, I understand your hurt, confusion and loneliness. I was in the same place 5 years ago. Is your husband in therapy? I know it can sound a little crazy when you hear us say, “you need to put yourself first”. But the truth is, your on a new journey in your life. Part of that journey...
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    Relationship Calling long time supporters! Tips on surviving the early years!!

    I was married for 18 years before PTDS came into my life. Hubby’s a firefighter and it felt like I woke up one day and BAM!!! The first year is definitely the hardest. I agree with @Sweetpea76 .
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    Gaslighting confusion

    I want to make sure I’m understanding before I reply. You sleep better with the Bedroom door close and he likes it open a bit? Do you feel he has always gaslighted you?
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    Relationship WHY IS THIS SO HARD?

    Take a step back and focus on yourself. I know it sounds crazy to say that but the truth is, you only have control over yourself. When we focus on the things we don’t have control over, it brings frustration, depression, anxiety. Understand your needs, desires, focusing on your journey. Let...
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    Can empathy be taught?

    Yes, empathy can be taught to most people. Empathy can be taught from early childhood and up to adulthood. Emotional intelligence can also help with empathy and there are many courses out there. Where I live empathy is taught in schools from Jk to grade 12.
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    General Do men with ptsd want your empathy?

    Empathy is a persons ability to recognize and share the emotions of another person, seeing someone else’s situation from his/her perspective, sharing his/her emotions, including his/her distress. Empathy is stronger and more intimate. “ I feel your pain.” @Sweetpea76 in her example showed...
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    Supporter So is this a place I could talk things out?

    Welcome to the forum, you came to the right place. We are here to listen and support you, your not alone.
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    Relationship Was it her diagnosed complex PTSD that made her act like this?

    I’m sure tomorrow will be hard. Just go in with a plan and stick to it. I understand it’s hard to just walk away, but she has made a choice to end the relationship. Which also means losing you and financial support. You have to look out for you, that’s part of your process of healing from...
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    Relationship Too much to handle

    Hi @Between the Bars, welcome to the forum. I’m glad you found us and please know your not alone. We are here to help support you. I’m sorry your going through a hard time and your feelings are understandable. You in a pretty hard place right now. Please take sometime for yourself and do...
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    Relationship Taking over care of a mother and child after a 10 year abusive relationship

    Hi J welcome to the forum. This could be just normal behaviour for a little girl her age. Kids have emotions that they don’t understand or know how to label it or deal with it. Taking the time to talk to her and help her identify her feelings, giving and teaching her how to cope with...
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    General How’s Everybody Holding Up?

    I’m doing good @Sweetpea76 . I started a course , just as all this hit so it’s keeping me busy. Hubby is doing pretty good to. He’s been working and keeping himself busy. When he home we do things around the house. I’m happy to hear everyone is doing well.
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    My dad (VENT)

    Sending a hug if you except (hug)
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    Traumatized as a group. Can we lean on each other?

    Hi @Sac welcome to the forum. Sorry your going through a hard time. I think you’ve answered your own question ^^^. You have been there for them and their willing to be there for you. I understand you worry about bring them down, but they can decide what they can and can’t handle. I’m glad...
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    My dad (VENT)

    I understand your fear. Can you make another appointment with your doctor and if you find it hard to say something, write it out in a letter and hand it to your doctor. You said your mother isn’t in good health, is she wanting to leave the situation or is it something you don’t talk about...
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    End and Beginning

    Hi @abbynormal1929 I’m sure it’s hard being in lockdown. Do you have any fear of your sons safety? It would be good for you to keep a log of these kinds of things, in case you ex wants to move your son away from you. Keeping notes, picture and bills ( like the window being replaced) just in...
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    Relationship Will I Hear From Her Again? Supporting Isolation

    She has a lot going on. She’s back living with her mother and sister, which can be hard. She has relatives sick with the virus, which is crazy in its self. If she had contact with them would add stress, wondering if she could have it. I guess you have 2 choices, give her the gift of space...
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    Relationship How to get through to him?

    I would look for a different therapist. Just because your not letting go of the relationship, doesn’t mean you can’t work on yourself. Yes you can’t work on the relationship, but you can work on yourself. Understanding how you can change the way you see, feel and deal with things in your life...
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    Relationship How to get through to him?

    @Rosan1507 I respect your decision to see where the relationship goes. I hope within that time you work on yourself. Getting yourself in a good place to set boundaries and to know and understand your boundaries. Learning to not take things personally and having a plan in place for yourself...
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    Relationship PTSD Divorce?

    @BanjoraLost I understand your hurt and confusion. With everything going on in the world today is stressful and now adding this stress to your life must be hard. Are the kids with you now?