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    Have you found value in "talking about it" with friends?

    not entirely sure. My spouse is the one who has the most of the story, and now we're in couples counseling and I'm not sure that that was a great idea. Now it feel like ammunition like back then. As in, I am not sure i will be able to really be part of couples counseling for a mostly-partner's...
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    You Know You Have PTSD When...

    --In. Freaking. Deed. (even fictional portrayals if too realistic or flippant) Swap heartburn and being surprised by migraines or muscle spasms and i'm with ya. Look, we're just not going to mention being blindsided by literally ALL of that stupid disney movie Encanto, all right? Watch that BS...
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    Living on own terms (or is it just "avoidance"?)

    @Sideways - you're right, that's probably not realistic. Maybe "reduce the overall effect" though. I also realize, reading y'all's thoughtful answers to my question, that i should've asked something else entirely. That was me not wanting to cave in and actually make a post about having issues...
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    Living on own terms (or is it just "avoidance"?)

    OK, the ridiculously long post i did in "you know you have ptsd when..." thread brings me here. Specifically this part: I'm 25-ish years post actively living in the circumstances that brought me here. I can go months without any incidents now. Have built a nice life with my partner...
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    You Know You Have PTSD When...

    ... you are, again, on the not-so-merry-go-round of 1. why am i so irritable lately? 2. oh, it's (identify reminder or stressor here). 3. well that's stupid it was NBD and it's been forever since then anyway. why the f*ck is that ancient crap still even registering? (bonus points if the thing...
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    "calm under pressure" but also need to work on emotional intelligence?

    Thank you. I did end up having to talk to him, mediated and facilitated by our managers, last week. Right now it's only with him, and thinking back on other times I've reached a true impasse in a work context this stuff only happens rarely. And it's only specific extremely rare individuals who...
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    "calm under pressure" but also need to work on emotional intelligence?

    Update, then a question. The update is that last week the person contributing most to situations that led to my rant above & I were summoned to a meeting with both of our managers to "clear the air" because now he's being assigned primary on a very important project I have developed. Although...
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    "calm under pressure" but also need to work on emotional intelligence?

    This comes from work so I'm putting it here. I'm annoyed that I keep getting ridiculous praise for basically just doing my job competently (I am in regulatory compliance and risk management and, sadly, it's my Time to Shine) AND AT SAME TIME getting told left and right that I need to say hard...
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    Finding doctor for 100% NON-trauma stuff, but DO have serious nopes about medical providers

    @somerandomguy, How'd you phrase it when it wasn't working out? Do you have to explain about tthe ptsd and cause or domyku find you can just tell them "I need XYZ from you guys" and they honor it without too much poking? My fear is that I will get frustrated or flustered right from the start...
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    Finding doctor for 100% NON-trauma stuff, but DO have serious nopes about medical providers

    How do you vet a prospective doctor for, shall we say, PTSD or "issue" awareness or even friendliness? Especially when contact with the medical profession for a non-psych complaint has been repeatedly turned into a psych issue and you thus have troubles with dealing with ppl who appear not to be...
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    Core Beliefs & Counters

    It would have been better for all involved if that one situation had gone ahead and resulted in my demise. Sibling would have been better off as an only sibling after that. The sibling one is a BFD right now because Sibling is pushing for more interaction and I really f*cking failed Sibling back...
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    Dissociation from abuse - emotional numbness but increased empathy?

    Not sure if it's empathy exactly but I am sometimes still am (and used to always be) attuned to others' negative states. Like I "catch" their stress or anger, even after they are over it. Still trying to squelch this at work. Am an ACOA and I had some other things happen in my teens, some thanks...
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    How have your symptoms changed during lockdown (improved/ worsened) ?

    TLDR - more irritability and some heightened sensitivity to feeling like my agency is being infringed on. I have had basically NO family/holiday exacerbations since family gatherings were off the table this year, which was nice. I had some almost dormant reactions come back when the pandemic...
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    What is the purpose of your life?

    generally speaking, to solve or prevent problems and "leave the campsite better than i found it." Looking out for certain others in my life. Acting with integrity and objectivity. Not being a hypocrite. Competition/winning, doing whatever it is as well as possible. This is the healthier side of...
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    Remission & done with this or just longer than usual period of quiet?

    So, no, not done. I didn't want to start a whole new thread because I am pretty sure I just didn't use the right search terms. The simmering "something's about to happen" feeling has been developing for about a week now. But I am not snapping at people or having nightmares at this point so I...
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    Anxiety at doctor

    I think I am in a similar situations sometimes. I expect that medical professionals will dismiss physical stuff that's legitimately causing me issues, including issues affecting work, and when they ask about stress in my life and glom onto that it feels like yet again it's just "all in my head"...
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    Study Nurture trumps nature in determining severity of PTSD symptoms

    The things I'd read seemed to be saying that often, yes validation concern etc. could be a buffer for the impact that traumatic happenings could create. It's probably part of why victim-blaming/shaming and "silencing" people is/can be harmful. And why "isolate the victim" is such a pernicious...
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    Study Nurture trumps nature in determining severity of PTSD symptoms

    Dang. I would guess it would hold. I'd been thinking along similar lines - what if you had/assumed/thought you were securely and normally attached and then just 'failed' to go back to that after finding that the caregivers can unilaterally break or reinstate that relationship? I read the study...
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    What is "Rage" as a behavior or symptom?

    Thank you, @Justmehere! Communication's half of it, although much less so nowadays. I have gotten to a point in life where I just plain ask how i'm coming across if it's important. I can read a person or room at least well enough to realize when things are going awry. The other half is because...
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    "Why don't you just stop self injuring?"

    @Justmehere - your reply #26 - I was cheering for you for standing up for yourself. I hope you are doing ok-er today and that if you give another T a shot they are experienced in the areas you are looking to emphasize. Green/new or not this guy and the "I'm steamrolling past your boundaries for...
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    What is "Rage" as a behavior or symptom?

    Gonna preface this by saying THANK YOU for the comments. I hope my questions don't come off as argumentative; they are asked in the spirit of honest-to-deity info gathering. 1. Supposing the evaluator, even a psychiatrist or other "trained professional," has never met or observed the person...
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    What is "Rage" as a behavior or symptom?

    @Friday - would an outside observer know that someone was experiencing "rage" just by observing them (while the person is sitting quietly and minding their own business, without the observer actually knowing their thoughts) WITHOUT the "raging" person even knowing he/she was upset him/herself...
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    What is "Rage" as a behavior or symptom?

    Thank you! I have never been good at naming emotions, and often don't realize I am having them except "i'm fine" or "definitely not fine". Quiet, self-contained thoughts & no snapping at people or other clues would not occur to me as being possible with "rage."
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    What is "Rage" as a behavior or symptom?

    What do psychiatrists mean when they use the term "rage" to describe a person's behavior? Does it require actions that are observable by others like yelling, throwing things, physically aggressive behavior, or would it include just angry thoughts in a person otherwise behaving calmly and going...
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    Childhood Another "Is this normal" thread - Isolated in room

    GuyBloke, I "liked" basically this whole thread, although I definitely do not "like"/approve of the fact this happened in your life. You & Truthseeker both describe things that hit really close to home for me and honestly it sort of helps just to read that others also had it AND are now...
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