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    Preparing for the end.

    Thank you very much. I can try but it usually ends in blaming me. And as a former scapegoat I will take it and then run free. I have done this before. It took work help etc.but I did. I am not sure my husband wants to understand this. I just did what you said. I told him I will not follow this...
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    Sufferer Hi. Mid 40’s male with complex trauma, including domestic violence.

    Welcome. Domestic violence survivor myself
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    Emotional support animals

    We have 2 dogs. They are pitbull mixes but very sweet and protective. I have looked at the esa law where I live. I will get letters for both of them. I got my very first dog in 2017. She became an ESA where I lived then. There legal benefits to taking this step
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    Preparing for the end.

    Yes. Thank you. I have considered personality disorders too. Narcissism and it traits exist on a spectrum. This is the issue my father has . I believe. Many of the traits that resulted in the outcome now facing him. My husband is impatient can be controlling definitely thinks in black and white...
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    Preparing for the end.

    If he self sabotages will prepare to go it alone. I have done it before. It is just scary. Thank you.
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    Preparing for the end.

    Thank you so much. Very helpful He is on the spectrum . I would asses going toward the extreme. I saved myself once. I have no power of agency over him. I know there is great power in letting go. Working on this.
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    Help understanding why I allowed husband to do this

    Thank you. I can answer yes to both. My husband was pretty difficult. He feels everyone should focus on the news etc. Unfortunately I got into the same behavior leading to compounding stress sleep debt etc. Typical codependent/ trauma behavior. I have stopped. Your post was helpful and I am...
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    Help understanding why I allowed husband to do this

    I am now just seeing what harm my marriage has done. I don't even understand how I remained seizure free. He is a good person. Has been there always. But preparing for the end of the world? I received a Prevnar 20 vaccine yesterday. Tired today. It is late evening where I am now. I set more...
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    Sufferer Hello, fng here… Police & Ministry. Dealing with death and misery.

    Welcome to this group. I am a new member also. Thank you for your service. I have been through spiritual abuse and have needed to sort out my beliefs. God does not punish. People do.
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    Question- need insight

    Thank you all for your comments on my husband news consumption. It is very helpful.
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    Question- need insight

    Thank you. I have begun to do this already. I like to keep up with medicine psychiatry pyschology etc. It helps improve my health and I work better with my health care provider treatment plans. I am going to set more boundaries with myself beginning today.
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    Question- need insight

    Thank you for your reply. He has been harsh critical with me. Yes there has been some change in his behavior. He comprehends the damage he has done. I have changed my behavior. I tried earlier in our relationship to get us into couples therapy. His reply was I don't need a psychiatrist telling...
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    Preparing for the end.

    Thank you. I am new to this site and still learning
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    Denial by society

    I have done work on cognitive distortions . Today I met and spoke briefly with a homeless transgender person. She cannot get or even apply for federal assistance for housing until she has been homeless for 7 more months. Unable to stay at shelters due to being targeted. The system is rigged for...
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    Question- need insight

    I made a later post about this. He has buying freeze dried food. There are things he has purchased for self defense. I am not afraid of him so much as the I am of the indocrination I occuring to so many people. I am concerned about undue influence and letting critical thinking go by the wayside...
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    Why am I even alive?

    My brother the so called golden child once said to me as I was recovering from a craniotomy and bacterial meningitis of my brain- stand on your own 2 feet. He got what he wanted. People say unhelpful things . I got enough help - therapy lawyers medical treatment- he got what he asked for.
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    Preparing for the end.

    My husband was in the military. He is a good man. However he is constantly looking at the news and is convinced there will be a " throwdown" probably this November 2022 or November 2024. He has PTSD but denies it. I am just now learning after over 2 years not to engage with this idealogy. People...
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    Challenging Someone Else's Assertions About Me

    We are not defined by our abusers words etc. No one deserves what they get , being told it is all your fault etc. I do not define myself by abusive words of my past abusers. Be safe and continue your healing. Toxic people are very good at manipulating. Advice from my domestic abuse treatment-...
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    Dom Violence Insight

    Thank you.
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    Dom Violence Insight

    I am a domestic abuse survivor spiritual abuse survivor survivor of a major health crisis. My family of origin was dysfunctional controlling authoritarian. I came across this statement and it helped further my healing. I am working on not blaming myself focusing on all the " bad" things I did...
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    Help understanding why I allowed husband to do this

    I now allow myself to feel. I had the same experience as you. Not allowed to laugh scream etc. Now I do feel these emotions. It is a gift.
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    Help understanding why I allowed husband to do this

    Yes I get taken off guard. I have had help understanding indocrination media bias undue influence etc. He was in the military in war zones. I have a medical condition in remission over 8 years due to pretty strict compliance with medical treatment plans. Unnessary emotional distress could cause...
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    Please help me, I feel like i want to die

    Can you call your local mental health crisis line? They may be able to help you connect with support counseling resources etc
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    Other Too much over 2 days

    One of our dogs-;the female pit bull who gives me kisses- got her leg caught in the chain of our pit bull this morning. We secure them in our car while driving. We were on the way to his job and she began crying out in pain. I panicked and I could not release her leg while husband was driving ...
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    Overwhelmed and burnt out

    I am new here but my first husband was in this situation. Type 2 diabetes myleodysplactic syndrome in continent etc. In the end I placed him in a nursing home. He was placed on hospice and died 6 weeks later. That was nov. 2012. In May 2014 I was admitted to hospital with bacterial meningitis of...
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