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    how to stave off flashback

    How can you modify your relationship with a romantic partner so that you are acting from an adult ego state and not parent or child ego state?
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    how to stave off flashback

    How can you determine what ego state you are acting from in transactional analysis?
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    how to stave off flashback

    What behaviors distinguish the parent and child ego states in transactional analysis?
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    how to stave off flashback

    Can you describe the roles of parent, adult and child according to transactional analysis?
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    a new memory (maybe)

    What do I need from the coming year? To respect my financial limitations and live within my means (to expect others to respect this too) To re-engage with the activities of being a student but with an income this time and without so many time constraints or financial worries To re-engage...
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    a new memory (maybe)

    What are the things that I have deprived myself of by being in this relationship in this way? employment opportunities because they involved some months of relocation (she didn't want me to go and didn't want to come with me) acknowledgement that living with her mom affected how much power...
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    a new memory (maybe)

    Thinking about telling my girlfriend about what I've been going through. I was gearing up to do that before she got really mad at me, and now I'm not sure. I don't trust her completely and that has always been a problem. Sometimes I have thought that she would not side with me about my abuse...
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    how to stave off flashback

    how can you assess whether a romantic partner is equipped to handle sensitive disclosures with care and sensitivity?
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    how to stave off flashback

    how to do develop trust, safety, and emotional stability in a romantic relationship?
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    how to stave off flashback

    is it deceitful not to share that you have been abused as a child with a romantic partner?
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    how to stave off flashback

    under what circumstances is it not a good idea to tell a romantic partner about having been abused as a child?
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    It wont stop replaying..sorry so long

    wow this is such a good description. this is where i am too
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    Emotional flashback, unable to say no to sex?

    could you and he decide that (temporarily) you initiate all sexual encounters and are never in a situation where you just lie there?
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    How did you finally accept your abuse happened AND who did it to you?

    for me, this is a fairly long process that's still going on. i am SO MUCH closer to accepting it happened much more of the time now than this time a year ago. but i still question myself regularly, a part of me doesn't believe myself still but that part is shrinking rapidly over the last year...
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    How to break shame cycle re my role in csa

    That is absolutely a power difference on its own. When you add to it the very real gender difference you are talking about here: It's even more of one. When you also consider that you were young and inexperienced and raised (like a lot of us i would imagine) in a context where obedience is...
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    All the C-words getting stuck in front of PTSD......

    Yes, this is how it was explained to me by my therapist- and why it's taking longer than might be expected for me to recover: because my 'before' self also had PTSD. I think you're right about this. I wasn't a soldier but worked in civilian protection in war, which probably is even more...
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    how to stave off flashback

    is it possible for marginalised people to recover from ptsd without their marginalisation being acknowledged?
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    how to stave off flashback

    what is the role of acknowledging injustice in cbt for ptsd?
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    how to stave off flashback

    what is the role of acknowledging injustice in ptsd?
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    how to stave off flashback

    how can you identify problematic core beliefs?
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    Undiagnosed I am seeking help with PTSD-like symptoms after experiencing abuse

    Your post really impresses me with how clear and succinct it is. I think that is such a good sign for your recovery. Welcome to the forum. To me, it sounds very much like you might have PTSD and would benefit from diagnosis and treatment for that. I also spent many years languishing under...
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    All the C-words getting stuck in front of PTSD......

    This is the huge benefit I've seen of being diagnosed. Not having to tell a long and sad story over and over and hope the person knows enough about trauma to intuit how that might be affecting you. Yeah, same for me. I had childhood trauma and then at 20 got hit with a traumatic event that was...
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    How to break shame cycle re my role in csa

    Maybe it helps to ask what is your shame protecting you from? An older and more powerful child was using you sexually, and you likely didn't have the power to refuse or it depended totally on his preferences. If you had protested, and he didn't want to stop, could you have ensured he did? By...
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    Day after EMDR/Therepy is always rough?

    This, 100%. Because of this: For me it's also different every single week. Sometimes the day of I am so out of it, sometimes it doesn't hit till a few days later. Sometimes the insights gained feel liberating and sometimes it's horrible without a break. Because of this, it can be a little...
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    Telling an emdr therapist that his cbt is not helpful for you

    Thanks for your replies on this. I did end up contacting him and asking him some questions- and it helped but probably not enough. It was hard for me to understand why he thinks my opinions about this have to change- at its core I think he's assuming that this belief is limiting my behaviour...
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