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    What Song Are You Listening To Right Now?

    Morrissey - First of the Gang to Die
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    What Did You Eat And Drink Last?

    For dinner I had potatoes, carrots and red onions roasted in the oven, fried slices of halloumi cheese, cooked cauliflower, half an avocado, some small tomatoes and a sauce made of creme fraiche, feta cheese, garlic, honey and some spices. I thought I took a photo of the whole thing, but I guess...
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    What Song Are You Listening To Right Now?

    Eiko Ishibashi - Drive My Car (Kafuku)
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    Photography Club

    I have never thought of photography as a hobby for me. Maybe because it has been my mother's domain. She can take great pictures with the simplest of cameras without knowing anything about composition and exposure. I have an interest in graphic design and web design, so naturally, I wanted to...
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    Sexual attraction towards abuser/people who remind me of abuser

    That's a red flag. He knows you have been sexually abused, yet he chooses to be physical when he gives you directions.
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    What Song Are You Listening To Right Now?

    Wild Nothing - Paradise This is probably my most listened to song on Spotify.
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    Photography Club

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    Preparing for the end.

    The biggest issue here, as I see it, is that your husband isn't acknowledging his own mental health issues. It's hard, if not impossible, the help someone who doesn't want to be helped. So what should you do? Try to have a talk with your husband. Turn off the TV and go for a walk together. Tell...
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    What Song Are You Listening To Right Now?

    Suzanne Vega - Luka
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    Reconnecting with family as you heal?

    I think it's a bad idea trying to reconnect with your parents. I just finished reading your heartbreaking diary thread (as it is one of the shorter ones) and you write about how your parents denied what your late grandfather did to you. I think it's dangerous for anyone's mental health to be...
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    Quote Of The Day

    “Sexual desire presents us with a choice; adoration or appetite, love or lust. Lust is about taking, but love is about giving.” Sir Roger Scruton
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    What Song Are You Listening To Right Now?

    ROME - One Lion's Roar My favorite song when doing heavy squats
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    Trouble discussing family with friends

    That's great, that your friends would take your side. Cheers to that! 🥂 If I had a partner that had suffered from abuse from a parent, it would be painful for me to see her interact with the abusing parent if the abuse had not been acknowledged by the parent, followed by all the hard work to...
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    What Song Are You Listening To Right Now?

    Elliott Smith - Angeles
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    What Is On Your Mind Right This Second?

    Thinking about this girl at the grocery store two days ago when I was buying ice cream. I was looking for a cola popsicle in the freezer and there were some food delivery documents (?) on top of the freezer. So she appears from nowhere (she's an employee there) and tries to grab these documents...
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    What Song Are You Listening To Right Now?

    The Roots - Now or Never
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    Trouble discussing family with friends

    In my experience, most people with basic social skills will pick up the cue if you answer "I prefer not to talk about it" when asked about your family. Similarly, I would tell the professor something along the lines of "I don't think it's a good idea." I know it can be hard to speak with that...
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    Self Help Books

    I have a bad habit of starting to read books and not finishing them, but there are a few titles that still has made an impression on me. No More Mr Nice Guy by Robert Glover. I stumbled upon this book in my late teens as me and a friend were interested in pickup culture. The title of the book...
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    Self Help Books

    I'll take the liberty to answer the first question even though it was directed towards @caroline_13 Alice Miller writes about how the source of mental illness and suffering can be found in our childhoods. Her main thesis is that as parents have unmet childhood needs, they will seek for those...
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    What Song Are You Listening To Right Now?

    Khruangbin - So We Won't Forget
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    Undiagnosed I want to get better

    Tack! 😊
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    Relationship My Girlfriend is currently dealing with Trauma from a past relationship.

    Why shouldn't you? You write about the effort you're making to help her. What is she doing? If I were you, I would only stay in the relationship if she decided to get help and tried communicate with you. I would tell her that in a as compassionate way as possible. It won't be easy for her, but...
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    What helps you feel safe, comforted and in control?

     Safe I feel safe when I'm in my room early on a Saturday and Sunday morning. I think it's the feeling that everyone else is asleep and that the world around me is a less hostile place. I can give myself a break. No one is there to judge and belittle me. Laying in my bed watching a good movie...
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    Im 23 and never dated after abuse

    I'm sorry to hear about the abuse you suffered as a child. You seem to feel awfully lonely. Reading your post brought back memories for me from a time, a few years ago, when I had no close friends. I took long walks outside and felt a painful longing when I saw other people walking together...
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    What Song Are You Listening To Right Now?

    The Tallest Man on Earth - Love Is All