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    Seeking codependence

    Not sure I can support, nor do I want to. They have made it impossible, I'm afraid.
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    Seeking codependence

    I agree with everything you have written. And have made all of the suggestions, and also do look after myself. I'm now leaving them to live with their decisions, that's my boundary in action
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    Seeking codependence

    They've been doing trauma based therapy (EMDR) for 3+ years on and off. Their fear remains disproportionate to situations reality and they struggle to see consequences of their actions.
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    Seeking codependence

    Does his research indicate whether this 'damage' can be rewired. As fear seems to drive my survivor to make decisions that are detrimental to themselves and others
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    Seeking codependence

    But I would appreciate knowing more about LeDoux's work.
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    Seeking codependence

    They have had lots of EMDR, and that always worsens the symptoms, mpulsivity and increase dissociation whilst they are processing. In terms of neuroplasticity, this seems to have increased their self interest and decreased their empathy
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    Seeking codependence

    I am taking care of myself. And some of that means stepping out for a while as tolerance has worn thin. I've no doubt trauma is at the heart of their knee jerk responses. They keep referring to potential damage to their orbitofrontal cortex. Linked to some research by LeDoux
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    Seeking codependence

    Hmmmmm...very hard to when they are making poor decisions that are so self interested.
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    Seeking codependence

    They've had huge amounts of therapy. But they are driven by fear and shame, and make little progress due to the impact of both at such a young age. It's so hard to remain supportive when your unconditional love is tested so much. I have sought support for myself and it is helping.
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    Seeking codependence

    It's not me, I am a supporter. One that is about to step out of that role as I am not codependent, and never have been. Unfortunately, this seems to be what my survivor is hell bent on being around, people who have the same experience.
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    Seeking codependence

    Hi Dr Catalyst Is it possible for a CPTSD sufferer to seek codependent relationship whilst processing their trauma?
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    Self disgust

    Not gonna lie, I'm fed up of validating their feelings and encouragement. It's exhausting supporting and getting little back in return
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    Self disgust

    They seem to have shut down a bit after being open about the impact and decisions that the self disgust has brought about. This can be a pattern for them.
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    Self disgust

    It's crucial for your sufferer to take self-care seriously during this time and reach out for professional support when needed. They do have professional support, but it requires a level of honesty to access this fully. They are about to join a larger support group.
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    Self disgust

    Yes I have done this, they seemed to be shocked when the reality of this is pointed out to them and say "I thought I was going to die because of how I felt so I didn't think about the consequences". But they have now made things even trickier for themselves. Which in turn is increasing the numbing.
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    Self disgust

    My sufferer also reports feeling "dead inside" and this seems to have exacerbated some reckless spending.
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    Self disgust

    Yes, the dependence on one other person is very pressurising. And they seem to encourage each other to avoid and/or dissociate.
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    Self disgust

    So there is a trauma informed therapist supporting them, but this group they have developed is very small and one member has now left. Leaving two people with similar experiences, but my sufferer is probably significantly more challenged by their symptoms due the age at which the cptsd began...
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    Self disgust

    And might this validation and reduction in symptoms be a helpful way to learn how to function more healthily?
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    Self disgust

    Are people able to identify like minded sufferers that may make them feel less self disgust?
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    Self disgust

    Yes, is it possible to actually support someone who feels this way. As without a shared experience, surely the self disgust remains present even when therapy is in place.
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    Self disgust

    I haven't had these feelings, I am a supporter, and this is what I have been made aware of. That the feelings of self disgust make treatment through therapy really hard, that it makes being honest really tough and the only time they don't feel the self disgust is around others who have had...
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    Self disgust

    Hi Dr Catalyst If abuse in childhood has left you feeling dirty and disgusting, and this has affected you throughout your life. Why would this not happen with another person who too has experienced sexual assault. Is this because you recognise trauma on each other and don't need to ask any...
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    EMDR impact on personality

    Have you any resources for managing feelings of disgust, and mitigating it's impact on others.
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    EMDR impact on personality

    They believe that their brain is wired wrong and the disgust they have felt their whole life means they only feel 'normal' or rather a lack of disgust around people who too have been sexually abused. This makes it very difficult for them to relate to others as the disgust appears across most of...
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