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    I slept with my therapist, now what?

    Hmm. If she was black out drunk, she couldn't consent to sex. I might be scared to report because of this, although it is clear she engaged in some ethical violations even if she did not consent to sex. What a mess. If nobody's mentioned it yet, TELL (Therapy Exploitation Link Line) might be a...
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    Have you ever talked to your therapist about specific triggers...

    Yeah, I've discussed some triggers. For example, I have a very low tolerance for being hot and sweaty. This is pretty inconvenient as I live in a region where summers are really hot and extremely humid. Every year, I go through an adjustment period where I get flooded with flashbacks when the...
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    Going to discuss something I'm really ashamed about

    @Rumors I don't really want to get into the details here (because, shame), but the origin of the shame is not a mystery. It has a lot to do with violating cultural/societal values and norms, and the fact that it was a situation I couldn't control actually just compounds my "offense." These...
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    Virtual/Video/Telehealth Sessions

    Yes, we've been doing teletherapy for a few weeks. I didn't find the idea scary personally. I had done tele psychiatry with a former psychiatrist before, so it wasn't my first time doing something like this. I usually don't look at her in my sessions. I guess it feels kind of weird because she...
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    Going to discuss something I'm really ashamed about

    Thank you, @osiris, I really appreciate that!
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    Going to discuss something I'm really ashamed about

    Update I had my session yesterday. I was feeling pretty awful due to staying up extremely late. While my natural sleep rhythm is inconveniently outside the average range by a wide margin, I had stayed up late even for me (until 4:30 or 5 in the morning). Anyway, when I do that, I tend to feel...
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    Going to discuss something I'm really ashamed about

    I'm not sure exactly what you mean, but we have talked a lot about things that have happened to me. She does know a great deal about the topic. I just find it really difficult to talk about certain aspects. @grit I am not ashamed at all of having control to terminate the session. I don't find...
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    Not an actual diagnosis

    Qualification is determined on a state by state basis and LCSWs are deemed qualified to diagnose in most states. The National Association of Social Workers defines clinical social work as: Clinical social work is the professional application of social work theory and methods to the diagnosis...
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    Show therapist self harm scars?

    I'm not judging you. I do think you should be cautious about this, though, because your motivation is likely that you wish to provoke some display of concern and caring from your therapist. From what I've read from others online, many therapists react neutrally when shown self harm injuries so...
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    Going to discuss something I'm really ashamed about

    I was originally going to title this thread "Going to discuss shameful topic." However, I think that it is a cognitive distortion. At least, if I am to believe things the therapist has told me in the past related to this topic, I do not need to be ashamed. Still, the shame is intense and...
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    CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy) - Can you explain it to me?

    The basic premise of CBT is that you feel bad because of your thoughts. There is some value in CBT theory. Cognitive distortions are certainly real and do have a definite impact on how we feel. It is probably reasonable for your therapist to start therapy by identifying what sorts of thoughts...
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    Should I go into a group home or not

    I was in a group home a long time ago. This was a group home for teen girls, not adults, but I'll tell you my experience anyway. First, I want to emphasize that I don't look back on the experience as a wholly negative one or one that massively traumatized me. The home I was in was much better...
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    Uncomfortable making eye contact

    I don't like to even look in the therapist's direction at this point. I think I start feeling really vulnerable as soon as I walk into her office. I don't have issues with eye contact outside of therapy. She has brought up this issue before and it is something she wants me to work on. I asked...
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    Incoherent Rants

    @Gs172003 Thanks for the response. Yes, I am in therapy.
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    Incoherent Rants

    I've been feeling a lot of shame lately about physical symptoms related to sexual assault. I feel broken and dirty and just... damaged. I feel angry and hurt. I remember being a kid during the CSA and the constant ache in my lower abdomen. I feel like having sex so young damaged me. He took...
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    Frustrated With Therapy

    I think the ethics codes tend to discourage therapists from behavior that might infringe on client autonomy. A client not making more appointments is not considered abandonment by the therapist unless the client has been unable to schedule appointments due to therapist negligence (such as...
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    Ashamed of Angry Texting

    @DharmaGirl There was nothing about how the therapist works in any of the paperwork, apart from mentioning the no-show fee. @Justmehere As I have said, I don't seek to do any sort of work over text. I also don't tend to avoid confrontation in sessions and that is not the reason for the texts. I...
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    Ashamed of Angry Texting

    I do have two sessions per week. Unfortunately, that's all I can afford. I'm a student and the $80/week that I am already spending already puts a strain on my finances.
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    Ashamed of Angry Texting

    I'm glad you provided that example of mindfulness. One of the things I would do when I was being abused was to count things to distract myself from what was happening to me. For example, I would count the ripples in the sheet. Or I would focus on the feeling of some object I was touching in...
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    Ashamed of Angry Texting

    Checked with my university library and they have several DBT workbooks available. I'll be seeing what they have to offer me. I seem to recall that mindfulness is often part of DBT, and like the person who posted the thread on that topic, I find mindfulness reminds me of being in a trauma space...
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    Ashamed of Angry Texting

    My session today was pretty good, although it got off to an awful start when she called me the wrong name. That hurt my feelings.
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    Ashamed of Angry Texting

    No, she said she "allows" me to text. So please don't assume that I am actually breaking a boundary. She has not forbidden me from doing this, she just doesn't like it. I don't know what action you are referring to when you say she has to take one. I get angry at her, yes. I don't understand...
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    Ashamed of Angry Texting

    No, I'm not. I don't think trauma therapy is causing my issues. I don't know where you're getting that from. But the fact remains that I don't have issues acting out in my real life relationships at this point in my life. Does that mean that my underlying trauma is resolved or that everything is...
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    Ashamed of Angry Texting

    No, you are fundamentally in error here. She does not have a problem with text specifically, she has a problem with communication that is not positive. She would also have a problem if I expressed myself in any other way, including writing a Yelp review, sending a letter, etc. etc. Anything...
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    Ashamed of Angry Texting

    Maybe. I'm not really sure I would have much to work with if I didn't encounter triggers in therapy, though. My anger in my regular life is under control these days. I'm definitely not saying I don't have a problem - just that I'm not sure I would have sufficient opportunities to learn how to...
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