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    General Boundaries?? What are those?

    I had a horrible time trying to set boundaries in my previous relationship and I think if it's hard to nearly impossible to be heard and have boundaries respected, then the relationship is likely abusive and unhealthy. I even got a therapist to help me explain what boundaries were, to clearly...
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    Relationship Partner of 8 years suddenly "needs space" and accusing me of things.

    Well, I did it! I got my cat back! I tried to be very "grey rock" when I was at his house, not really making eye contact and not saying anything to him at all, not even when he made a couple comments that got under my skin. I was only at the house for probably less than 3 minutes for my best...
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    Relationship Partner of 8 years suddenly "needs space" and accusing me of things.

    Perhaps part of his attraction towards me is that I look very young. I went and did a lot of lab tests this week and the nurses kept telling me that they thought I was in high school and that they couldn't believe my birth date was accurate, and I still get that a lot. When we first started...
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    Relationship Partner of 8 years suddenly "needs space" and accusing me of things.

    I am starting to come out of the fog of the relationship, 8 months later. As I've been reading more about abusive relationships and narcissistic abuse in relationships, I see that there are a lot of things my partner has done to me over the years that do qualify as abuse: -Telling me, "I'm...
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    Relationship Partner of 8 years suddenly "needs space" and accusing me of things.

    I am going into month 8 of him being mean to me mixed with ignoring me and the occasional little breadcrumb of hope. After he sent me the two pictures of our cats sitting next to a sign he had printed saying "Happy Mother's Day," I texted him and said, "Thank you. That's very sweet and it means...
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    Relationship Partner of 8 years suddenly "needs space" and accusing me of things.

    Well. I was on day 20 of my partner not speaking to me or sending me any pictures of our cats and day 10 of me not saying anything either because it seems like the more I say, the less he says, so I was just giving him the space that he asked for. I've also gotten very tired of his "friends"...
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    Relationship Partner of 8 years suddenly "needs space" and accusing me of things.

    Thank you so much for your replies and insight. It really helps me to hear from other people who aren't biased. My best friends all told me that the woman who said those things sounded full of it and not to trust her or anyone who would speak that way, but I have a tendency to think that they...
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    Relationship Partner of 8 years suddenly "needs space" and accusing me of things.

    Well. I seem to have finally hit the point where my partner is fully ghosting me. He hasn't sent me pictures of our cats since April 24th, didn't even check my text from April 26th, and hasn't said anything since, so that's over a week since he interacted with me and he isn't even bothering to...
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    Relationship Partner of 8 years suddenly "needs space" and accusing me of things.

    Thank you, Paul. I read your response and cried my eyes out, but it made a lot of sense and it made me feel like.. at least other people can see what is happening and that I am not crazy or imagining things. I felt more seen by your response than I have by my own partner in the past 6 months...
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    Relationship Partner of 8 years suddenly "needs space" and accusing me of things.

    Yesterday would have been mine and my partner's anniversary and I struggled with it a lot (with my own depression, self-harm and suicidal thoughts). I took a lot of anxiety medication and called some friends and managed to calm down through the first half of the day, but then I got an email...
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    Relationship I (33f) didn't know about my partner's PTSD and triggereed him hard. Can you help me analyze?

    Good for you for starting to speak out and get help. I hope that the people you have reached out to have been understanding and supportive of you. I know that it's really hard to ask for help and that it tends to be especially hard for men because of the societal pressures and stereotypes that...
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    Relationship I (33f) didn't know about my partner's PTSD and triggereed him hard. Can you help me analyze?

    If someone I was dating ever slapped me, I would end things immediately and not even be interested in a friendship anymore, much less a romantic partnership. Men are conditioned a lot by society to just take it if a woman abuses them and they often feel like they are being overdramatic or weak...
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    Relationship Help! CPTSD/BPD separation crisis (my first post)

    Your own therapist thinks that you need space and to work on yourself and that the relationship isn't healthy or helpful to you right now. You yourself want more space and time away from your wife. And when you wanted to do more couple's counseling together, she used the copout of saying "she...
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    Relationship Why this romantic tactile man turned into the Ice Man in the space of a couple of weeks?

    Hello. I can relate to several aspects of what you have written. My partner of 8 years is going through something similar right now, where he started making up things and blaming me for things and has pulled away a lot. He told me he needs space and I'm giving it, and he texts me once or...
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    Struggling to stay afloat.

    Several of my friends and family members have committed suicide, so I understand the impact that it leaves behind, and that's something that I try to remind myself of and think that I don't want my nephew, sister, brother-in-law, or mother to have to deal with. I still often wonder why the...
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    Relationship Partner of 8 years suddenly "needs space" and accusing me of things.

    There are no benefits of any of this to me. I feel like I am just clinging on in a storm and hoping that it passes and my life returns to normal. I want my partner back, my best friend back, my home back, and I don't want to split up our cats or move on and lose each other entirely. It is...
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    Relationship Partner of 8 years suddenly "needs space" and accusing me of things.

    My partner told me that he wanted space during our last phone call on March 8th, so I stopped asking him to call me on Wednesdays and so we haven't talked on the phone in over a month. It's April 12th and I can't believe that it's been over a month, but I have been having issues with my DID and...
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    Struggling to stay afloat.

    My partner was already isolating and treating me differently for about 3 1/2 months before I told him about my having thyroid cancer, and he didn't particularly care that I have cancer, as sad as that sounds. He was actually somewhat mocking about it when I found out that my best friend's...
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    Struggling to stay afloat.

    Thank you so much for the encouragement. I like to write and make lists, so I took your advice and did that these past few days, just made a to-do list of things I should do and things I might want to do or eat at some point, and things I'm trying to remember, and it does make me feel better to...
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    Struggling to stay afloat.

    My therapist asked me last week if I have a plan to commit suicide and I told her no, that I just suffer from suicidal ideation and I think a lot about hanging myself off of my back deck or cutting myself in the bath tub and watching the water turn red as I calm down (I'm a cutter and have...
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    Relationship Partner of 8 years suddenly "needs space" and accusing me of things.

    So very true about the communication highs and lows. I was happy when my partner texted me a couple days ago and was sort of funny and sweet and normal, and then he texted me yesterday: "When you packed the entertainment center, did you by chance accidentally pack my Drew Brees pop figure?"...
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    General A question for anyone having to live with CPTSD

    I can't remember if you've said, but has she actually been diagnosed with CPTSD? The angry outbursts and dramatic mood swings make me think bipolar or borderline and that she needs to be medicated. If she won't get medicated and get help, this up and down cycle and you going to jail and having...
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    General A question for anyone having to live with CPTSD

    I have to be the one to initiate it or it infuriates me, honestly, and I've felt that way my entire life. I like to choose and pursue and then I like when the person flirts back, after I've already decided on them and made my intentions and hopes obvious. I cannot stand feeling stalked...
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    General A question for anyone having to live with CPTSD

    Things like this really worry me. This woman attacks you and seems like she has been a nightmare for you to deal with and she could seriously put you in jail or stick you with a record or even just keep you tied up in court and paying lawyer fees for years and she is constantly abusive in her...
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    General Rant and complain thread open to all supporters

    Stop asking me if I took things when I moved out. You told me you didn't want anything of mine or anything that we got together during our relationship. I spent the entire two days sobbing my eyes out and triggered and throwing up while my best friend had to pack everything. I don't know if I...
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