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I'm sorry that you are experiencing a lack of resources. It's very frustrating and I think without access to a lot of money it's really hard to get access to quality treatment modalities. I

I'm with you 💯 here. I'm really trying to refrain my mistakes, whatever they may be, as choices made as results stemming from my trauma because that is true! That inner critic can really drown and the biggest thing I'm learning on my healing journey is how even a small once of it is a poison to...

Although I'm not in your situation with a family, this really resonated with me. I've been a hospitality worker most of my life. It's something I was born into but have never managed to escape even with a useless "liberal arts" college degree. Anytime I've left, I've returned because I couldn't...

Meant to say *Broken homes! But definitely Freudian Slip rings true too!

Welcome! Life is hard... harder for people that come from brown homes. Currently deep-diving in all of the ways that my extremely stressful childhood home left my nervous system a total wreck so yeah I get not being able to focus and living up to your potential. I didn't get serious about trauma...

Feel like maybe it's a piece of tile??

❤️ this thread! A happy sidewalk!

I wish I would have found this book sooner. It really does put things very clearly into perspective. I'm currently reading "Good Morning Monster" by Catherine Gildner and wow is all I can say...

Apology accepted. Many of us have family of origin trauma coupled by later-in-life traumatic events also. They are all equally important. Many of us also ended up in abusive relationships because of our family trauma. We cannot heal what we do not first acknowledge and then try to understand. ❤️

@Ecdysis I recently found Pete Walker's C-PSTD book as well and it has been extremely illuminating to me. I too find myself in these deeply ingrained beliefs where my inner critic runs the show. In fact, it has been for much of my life and I'm only just realizing this at 41....sigh....looking...

Happy Sunday to Everyone! This group is the only place I've truly felt understood and want to thank everyone who is here. I wanted to share a book with everyone that I've attached a photo of. For me, it has been the most useful book I've read. It is a blueprint on how to manage your symptoms...

Hi welcome! 🤗 we all seem to experiencing a lot of similar feelings and it's just so amazing to have anyone to talk to let alone a whole group of people. I'm reading this book here that I've attached and I think it's been the most useful thing I've read this far. It's really a blueprint on how...

Yes! Thank you. Self-love is the primary aspect of healing! The fog is a real event. I feel so spaced out some days it's like I'm watching life from a window. I really hope that we can find a way to some clarity and healing, mostly understanding that we deserve a life filled with joy too.

Thank you! The same for you. This group is the only place I've found where everyone is on the same page with endless amount of empathy. Thank you for responding

Thank you!! I affirmations is something I've avoided like the proverbial plague but it's high-time that I start!

Yes. I agree with everything you are saying here, especially that I've used up all my reserves for early trauma and then traumatic event with my sister as I was getting close to 30. I think simplifying life as much as possible is the only way I can make it. Healing requires time off from...

Yes! Thank you! It's really a circular problem of not being stable with money and housing while trying to manage trauma. You need a base level of stability to handle therapy, and then new traumas can throw curve ball. But you're right, if you did it once, you can do it again!

Thank you for your wisdom! It sounds like a full house for you. Crumbly could be a new word for the onset of a major crumble which is what we are all here to learn to avoid. It's so strange how where you are in the worst it and seem to have more together. The idea of matching our coping skills...

It does make sense! And thank you for the support. Definitely not easy to change your coping patterns when they've become almost a part of your personality! Preparation is best!

Thank you for your response. I'm sorry that you are in a similar place. I think you're right that 40- is a coming-to-a-head place in life. Maybe all the years of auto pilot catch up to us and we get into a serious burn out. I've thought about disability too because C-PTSD feels that...

Thank you for sharing your story. That's an unimaginable amount of things to have to deal with and it warms my heart to know that you found a good partner. I've had my share of horrible relationships that mimicked my home life. That cycle is so hard to break and you deserve someone good in your...

Terribly sorry about what you are going through but just know that is 100% valid. The hardest lesson I've learned since my diagnosis is to stop looking for other people to understand me. Friends, family, and everyone in between. We do not live in a culture where enough people are trauma informed...

Does anyone else have experience with being functional for so long until your not? I'm 40 and it seems like I'm doing worse than I've ever done even though I'm years away from my trauma. I'm not sure if the Pandemic just opened it all up but during that time was I living in an unsafe...

Same!! It's hard to find support but this group is definitely a blessing and a testament of how much we all want to heal, we deserve that.

Hi, just scrolling here and came across your post. While I don't have a first-hand experience with cults, I do have some friends who were born into one. So glad that you found this group and I wish you the absolute best on your healing journey. I wanted to recommend a couple of books to you from...