You don't get her back. You give her agency to choose what SHE wants.
And clothes are not "provocative." I can understand why she is upset. Do what is best for her and let her choose what she wants. Sit with your feelings, as uncomfortable as they are.
I'm not blaming the victim, but ...
Congrats to you for speaking up about it. You've done so much already.
I don't know how to help you with your questions... I have been there, so all I can say there is no "wrong" in terms of how you feel and act. Try something that lets you vent your rage: I used to go to a really noisy (the...
I do. I have "leisure reading" time and a set number of books to read, and workouts to do.
I actually call these "rules." They have to be, because they truly keep me sane.
I completely relate. It took so long to get to the place where I saw my Dad, the person who will forever choose to be a victim, as an abuser. Perhaps MORE powerful and damaging than my mother.
I would caution against labeling your PTSD as "fake" or not "real" because it is not from a war. I too have struggled with this, in my opinion everyone's experience is unique. And not being able to talk about it or have it generally understood by the public can be a trauma in and of itself.
Exercise, esp. hikes in nature, strength training & free dance with a pole, stretching to get more flexible.
Crystals and rocks - make me feel on track with my goals, connected to the Earth even when working in front of a computer.
My cats.
Meditation.
Reading books that remind me of this...
I understand the part about work being triggering. I often have to read things that are difficult and it sometimes gets to me.
But, we are bringing our positive energy to the situation just by being us, even if we are one or more steps removed from it. And taking care of ourselves is always a...
I feel that. It's normal to feel so much more anxious when we're worn down. And it's okay for you (and me) to be like that today - this sensitivity and worry. It won't last forever.