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For a long time I thought I was the problem with my wife projecting all her fears onto me. Don’t get sucked into that nonsense. I just need a way to figure out how to explain to her what projection is to a ptsd sufferer.

One thing that took me time to learn is that when my spouse is symptomatic there’s nothing that I can do that will be right. Her brain twists everything around.

It’s been an emotional read for me. It’s bringing to light how much my spouse is suffering and knowing there’s nothing I can do about it hurts

I highly recommend reading, The Body Keeps Score by Bessel Van Der Kolk. It really opened my eyes to how PTSD really changes the human brain and helped me become more empathetic.

I’ve been dealing with my spouse who has been ptsd symptomatic for months. There’s good days and bad days. Don’t try to force a conversation that will backfire on you. I try to remember that my spouse had been through an trauma that was so unbearable her brain’s natural defense system was...

Couldn’t have said it better. I just wish I took her more seriously when she disclosed her diagnosis to me when we got into a serious relationship

I’m still learning the terms associated with ptsd. She has been symptomatic for a few months

Yup the lawyer says she’s never seen anything like this. Didn’t file for divorce or child support. She’s been isolated at her mothers house for a few months. She petitioned for full custody. Didn’t serve me papers until the last day she could. Her petition was insane claiming all kinds of...

Nope! She dragged me into family court last week seeking full custody of the kids

My head is spinning. It got to the point where I had to tell her that the elephant in the room has a name, and it’s ptsd. I only can hope she is being honest with her therapist. I’m still seeing the marriage therapist we went to two times. She lost it in the second session when i brought up...

She says she’s going to therapy, but I don’t know how honest she’s being with the therapist. It seems like the road to going back to normal is one step forward two steps back then three steps forward. I’m seeing a therapist as well and he’s just as confused as me by her behavior

Oh it didn’t go well at all. I thought I’d be able to point out some obvious things she was doing that led me to believe she was symptomatic. Even going as far as getting books on ptsd and trying to read passages to her. Thought it would help if she knew I was trying to educate myself about the...

I can see the truth in that statement. I tried to “fix” what I thought I could and it backfired big time. Now I’m just trying to be patient and supportive and I can see this wall of isolation being taken apart brick by brick.

If a loved one were to talk to you about your triggered state do you think it would make it worse? I tried a few times and it seemed like that did not help at all it made it worse.

Posted on here this summer when wife had her ptsd triggered. Seems like after months her symptoms are quieting down. Is it normal to be in a triggered state for months?

I’m at the end of the rope. I had to let it out today. With her isolation and projecting fear/control/trust issues onto me I had to tell her. It was the first time I used the term “PTSD” for her condition. I’m pretty sure she’s devastated right now but she had to hit rock bottom before she...

Definitely exhausting, and I’ve been helping out as much as I can when I’m not at work. And her mother is constantly helping. Maybe she did see me as blaming her, but I was sure to include all the layers of stress involved in out lives. From being grounded by our government for 2 years because...

I think postpartum issues deal with bonding to the baby or separation anxiety. I really don’t see that right now. Just her isolating and projecting control issues along with fear and trust onto me. What lead me to believe it’s ptsd is when I mentioned it she lost her shit in a therapy session

Her reasoning is that she can’t trust me, for why…she has not given me a reason. And that I want to control everything. Which makes no sense because we always consulted each other on deciding anything in our relationship. We have 3 kids one is 3 1/2 and 10 month old twins. It’s a god damn shame...

Should I keep pressing her to talk more about it? This morning she acted like nothing happened and my head is spinning. She said something like it hasn’t been a problem for years so why now

This morning I gently let her know that whenever she was ready to talk about I brought up ptsd inside of marriage counseling I’ll be ready to listen. Put no pressure on her whatsoever. She said that she doesn’t remember telling me that we can discuss later and denied it being a problem. I’m...

Well she quit a well paying job at a public school district and is isolating and pushing me away from her. I’m trying to to hold it together for her and the kids it’s that she is in the mindset that she needs to protect them

This is another conversation I need to have with her. I’m doing my best to be empathetic by learning about ptsd and I wish I did it before it got to this. But for years she was fine. She’s flip flopping with all of her statements and it’s been a wild ride the last month

And now today she is acting like nothing happened the other day. This is like living a real life Dr Jekyll and Mr Hyde story.

This is the first triggered event I’m going through, I’d say been a little over a month now since she’s been symptomatic.