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    Sufferer High School Gave Me Ptsd.

    @Philippa I disagree entirely, and with good reason, as research in P.T.S.D. has progressed significantly beyond the now extremely dated idea that the diagnosis pertains exclusively to the phenomena cited in your post as sole qualifying criteria. In fact, it's been quite some time since the...
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    Is it really a valid thing to do?

    @jess_trustno1 While writing self-deprecating preoccupations off as "just a symptom" is both legitimate, and necessary...that doesn't tend to help counter them much, at least first. So as a male, and imminently eligible batchelor (ok, just kidding to lighten the mood :) ) I just wanted to cast...
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    Is it really a valid thing to do?

    @jess_trustno1 To answer your question: No, its not a valid thing to do. But it is understandable, considering your trauma background...and even common in those like us. I've had similar tendencies all my life. And I agree, it's not an easy thing to change your thinking/thoughts. For...
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    Advice On Memory Recollection?

    @Smile Labels are "boxes", after all. And like any tool, they can be good or bad depending on how we use them/what we do with them.A gun can be used for murder or to defend your family. But boxes are necessarily arbitrary, in that they are expressions of a limited human intelligence. The...
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    Advice On Memory Recollection?

    @shimmerz Thanks so much for your inspiring account.
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    Advice On Memory Recollection?

    @Hashi I think your understanding of the diagnostic process involved in identifying PTSD may be skewed. While the above statement could not be said to be incorrect, per se, exactly--it leads me to believe that you have a misunderstanding of the criteria used to diagnose PTSD. It's certainly...
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    Advice On Memory Recollection?

    @franciemarnie I second the views expressed in your post, and was remiss in my own previous post for not mentioning the same. The cutting edge of Trauma Work/Research is focusing on releasing trauma stored in the body as more central to recovery even than more recent advances in "mind related"...
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    Advice On Memory Recollection?

    I understand being in that "noman's land" of "should I stay or should I go"...not feeling like you can go on as you were...but having no idea how to move forward or even in what direction. My heart goes out to you. I do hope that whatever you do, you'll keep in mind, continuously, that recovery...
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    Advice On Memory Recollection?

    I'm not a mental health practitioner or medical professional of any sort, but I have done my share of reading on the subject...and what I've found mentioned by numerous sources is that attempting to recover traumatic memories can be extremely dangerous ground, and potentially lead to a...
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    Struggling - Is Medication The Answer?

    I have to wonder why you started therapy in the first place. Surely there was some factor that motivated you, ie you were in crisis, or at least extremely dissatisfied. Or maybe not? Sometimes people do just embark on it out of curiosity, a self-improvement campaign, etc. Can you recall what...
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    The Purpose Of 'shame'

    @Survivor2Thriver Glad you found the forum, and that you've made such strides in improvement.
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    The Purpose Of 'shame'

    @Survivor2Thriver We most certainly do dissociate due to shame. Even a passing glance at any relevant literature would have informed you differently. I'm curious as to what chain of logic led you to believe that while humans regularly dissociate from pain, they would not do so from the pain...
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    The Purpose Of 'shame'

    @Survivor2Thriver Yes, I am in fact aware that women dissociate during childbirth...as well as the fact that most dissociate when in pain of any sort. A more careful reading of my post would have revealed that my description of dissociation (quoted above) is not exclusive to dissociation in...
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    The Purpose Of 'shame'

    Dissociation is exactly that...defense against feeling the overwhelming inadequacy of the "inner self", which is hidden from view behind the "compensatory self'..which is developed in order to "measure up" in the eyes of the world... And in "dissociation"...this "outer/acceptable" "composed"...
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    Afraid To Be A Woman

    @Ayesha Bravo, Ayesha! I know we don't know each other, and so therefore, any reassurance I might provide that you're doing the right thing may necessarily be of limited value...but it sounds to me as though you're doing exactly the right thing! It sounds as though you've begun to "take...
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    The Purpose Of 'shame'

    @Valentino Thanks so much for your voluble and valuable posts. I'm interested to know the sources of the quotes contained in your second post, if you could be so kind as to supply them (I would assume they're derived from Bradshaw's work cited above, as well, but not sure...as I don't have the...
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    Can I Get My Brain Back?

    @Notsowild What isn't hard at first?! Exercising, riding a bike? Everything! In fact, it's usually a pretty reliable sign that, if it's not hard...you're not doing it right! Sometimes I think there's no worse upshot of westernized culture, advertisement driven consumerism than assigning a...
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    Can I Get My Brain Back?

    Meditation has been a Godsend to me. Helped more than any other 10 things combined. I found it impossible to access my mental resources when I had no peace and stillness in my mind..when I felt continuously "under the gun", so to speak. In meditation practice it's referred to as "Monkey...
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    Already Decided I Don't Want Marriage And Kids. Does Anyone Else Feel The Same?

    I've decided that as well...but I've made a more important guiding, overarching decision--that decisions needn 't be commitments. In other words...I am not only free to change my mind at any time in the future...but that until my "symptoms" are less a factor in my life...my decisions are less...
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    I Sold My Soul For Less Than 50 Cents - Please Help....

    @ghotiff ((((((((((((((((((((((((ghotiff)))))))))))))))))))))) OH ghotiff..I'm so sorry...but not for the fact that you "sold yourself for only 50 cents"........sorry that an innocent child was exploited horribly, her innocence and child's ignorance taken full advantage of. And as you'll know...
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    Sufferer A Little About Shmeg

    My heart goes out to you. Yours is truly a terrible terrible history, and I wish I had the words to express...your post brought tears to my eyes. I'm so glad you're here. I was in a very similar place around six months ago, when I found this forum, and though I can't credit my significant...
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    How Can I Reduce Contact With My Mother? (and Get Away With It)

    @ghotiff kudos. From what I've read, you're making legitimate attempts to parse it out gradually, which I think is best. So often evidence mounts only slowly, as we finally begin the quest of assembling the puzzle. A good sign, I think--if you were to suddenly arrive at a snap decision, it...
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    Do You Like To Eat?

    I never eat because I want to. If I didn't force myself to, I don't know how long I'd go...indefinitely.
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    Do You Like To Eat?

    @ghotiff No apology necessary. Didn't mean to pry. Just curious.
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    How Can I Reduce Contact With My Mother? (and Get Away With It)

    @ghotiff I second the opinion of @Solara ( or at least what I've interpreted it to be)...in other words, that one of the most frequent responses/reactions seen in those suffering from trauma is "absolving their abuser". I know I did the same for a very very long time. After all, it only...
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