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    Relationship Emotional Support Dog Separation During Isolation

    Update! We talked and I followed everyone's suggestion of being firm, making clear that my pup is a non-negotiable and that if she wasn't allowed here I was not going to stay here, asking my fiance about his specific concerns about her and having her here, and talking about the longterm and...
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    Relationship Emotional Support Dog Separation During Isolation

    When she is with me, we have our routine set and she is a good girl for the most part. She likes to sleep in but after my morning shower she FINALLY gets out of bed, I give her her breakfast then let her out while I'm getting breakfast. We then go for a mile plus walk and then she naps for a few...
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    Relationship Emotional Support Dog Separation During Isolation

    OMG, if there was a heart button, I'd definitely heart that pic! So precious! What is her name? This is my girl. :)
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    Relationship Emotional Support Dog Separation During Isolation

    Surprisingly, he has mentioned getting another dog in the future. He just really wants it trained a certain way (ex. no dogs on furniture) and wants to be able to have a say in which puppy is picked, but that is a very valid point and part of my concern!
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    Relationship Emotional Support Dog Separation During Isolation

    No worries! I NEVER use a crate for her and she definitely gets enough exercise. We have our routine and we start the day with a one plus mile walk (even in frigid weather) after which she usually naps while I study and then we follow up with some playtime and more time in the yard. She is...
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    Relationship Emotional Support Dog Separation During Isolation

    That makes a lot of sense! I hope that we can come to some common ground for the short-term as well as the long-term. I don't think I have ever asked him what would need to change for him to be okay with her right now so that is a very good point and place to start the conversation...
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    Relationship Emotional Support Dog Separation During Isolation

    No worries, it was not taken that way at all! I appreciate you guys holding me and my SO accountable and in keeping me honest :)
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    Relationship Emotional Support Dog Separation During Isolation

    Yeah, it's a discussion that we have had multiple times as well. He has had family dogs but never any dogs that were HIS dogs or that he was particular close to. I think the one he was closest to actually died very suddenly and unexpectedly and so my SO is often concerned that given how much of...
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    Relationship Emotional Support Dog Separation During Isolation

    Yeah, that's what I kind of feel like sometimes too. In my previous discussions with him when I've asked him why he thinks later would be different in terms of accepting her (because she certainly isn't going anywhere!), he has expressed that when we are at that point, she will be older and more...
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    Relationship Emotional Support Dog Separation During Isolation

    Thank you! That is sometimes how I feel and something I've struggled with a lot. It seems unfair of him sometimes to ask me to make the drive because he can't (or won't) come to me and then on top of that to ask me to leave my dog at my parents' place because he can't (or won't) find a place...
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    Relationship Emotional Support Dog Separation During Isolation

    Thank you so much! That makes a lot of sense. It sounds like your relationship with your dog is very much like mine when I'm at my own place. Usually she comes most places with me and if she can't come, it's generally not something I'm interested in spending my free time on. I've definitely had...
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    Relationship Emotional Support Dog Separation During Isolation

    With that said, maybe I can more strongly show him to that I am not the only one who thinks this way about a pet and that she is my non-negotiable as other people have also been non-negotiable about their pets! Thank you!!!
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    Relationship Emotional Support Dog Separation During Isolation

    He is not all bad but thank you for validating how I am feeling. I’ve discussed the “coming to me” issue with him many times and it’s something he has recently stated that he will try to work on. He is also well aware that my fur baby is not going to be leaving my life and if there is ever an...
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    Relationship Emotional Support Dog Separation During Isolation

    No, I did not say she is a service dog. She is an emotional support animal and I clearly understand the difference having dedicated 7 years post-college of my life to studying animal welfare and health. For her prescription, I sought the advice of one of the 50 leading board-certified animal...
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    Relationship Emotional Support Dog Separation During Isolation

    Hey all, Hope everyone is surviving the isolation alright and finding new coping strategies (feel free to share!)! Just looking for some advice on how to balance needs with everyone going on. My fiance is a first responder and has struggled with cPTSD since before we met. Nowadays he seems to...
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    General Triggering losses and dc metro supporter group interest

    Glad to hear that time and amazing people are helping you guys through it! Hopefully the upwards trend continued for the rest of the week? Hang in there! Baby steps are still wins!
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    General Triggering losses and dc metro supporter group interest

    I’m so sorry. Wish I knew what to say, but have you looked at getting an outside perspective from someone who has a little more experience dealing with similar situations? I think the Supporter Relationships forum has some really good video links for supporters that talk about self-care and when...
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    General Triggering losses and dc metro supporter group interest

    Sorry, my phone is acting weird and sent that before I was done! Anyway, we’re here if you need to vent or shed some tears (I can’t speak for anyone else, but at least I’ve been there when my guy hasn’t exactly been as nice as he usually is as he’s been going through stuff) but just hang on to...
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    General Triggering losses and dc metro supporter group interest

    NaeNae, hang in there! I can’t even imagine, that sounds awful accident. I know there aren’t really words to change what you and your SO are going through but as I’m sure you already know, it’s just the waiting game and you’re not alone.
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    General Triggering losses and dc metro supporter group interest

    Thank you so much Mytime! I’d love your post if there were a love button instead of a like but right back at ya!
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    General Triggering losses and dc metro supporter group interest

    Oh my goodness, I missed the notification email, but thank you so much! I will totally accept the hugs, and thank you for the supportive words. He spent the first few days alternating between being at the bar (I know it’s not the best, but if it helps him cope, as long as he doesn’t hurt himself...
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    Relationship Starting out - have i already messed up

    Hmm, well for me, my guy and I have been through a few fights (inevitable for any couple of course!) that have basically boiled down to me feeling like things between us weren’t equal and him feeling like he was trying as hard as he could but that I wasn’t recognizing that sometimes it took much...
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    Relationship Starting out - have i already messed up

    Hang in there! For me, the beginning was the messiest part because it takes a huge amount of figuring out, and, as other supporters have already said, reading up. I can’t speak for what your sufferer is going through, or any sufferer for that matter, but in the case of my relationship and from...
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    General Triggering losses and dc metro supporter group interest

    Things had been looking up for so long and I hadn’t logged onto this forum for months, but this past week my first responder with cPTSD lost a fellow provider from a neighboring station with whom he had run a few calls to suicide and 2 days later lost a very close firefighter friend. I’m not...
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    Relationship Did i resume contact too soon?

    Hey MaggieRose6117, Has it been 10 days since he last texted you or 10 days since you've had a good stream of texts? Either way, a lot if us understand what you going through! My guy has never been one for texting constantly (even if I am) and while it's never been days since I last heard from...
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