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    Exercise and depression

    Been so much trial and error and a lot of greif to was doing lots of different yoga classes and pilates settled on pilates but needed to find something which got my blood going a bit went to Jujitsu as I find martial arts exciting and enjoyable enjoyed it to a point but my physical...
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    Accepting what you cant have right now

    I think its wise . healing from this requires so much time and energy its difficult to give to much to others its not fair on either person. I have identified as well that for me right now it can turn in to wanting someone to rescue me or fill a hole and I know now only me can save me from...
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    Accepting what you cant have right now

    Really like someone in work so much you cant choose who you like. was sensible and did not try and make a move but also found out yesterday there seeing someone so that kind of made It final..couldent believe how much greif and misery I felt because to be honest even if they was not I know I am...
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    Dealing with people trying to draw you in to conflicts

    hello hoping for some tips as nothing in my life has really prepared me very well for dealing with the wider world. I am feeling very angry with a colleague who keeps on trying to get me drawn in to issues with another colleague I get along with . I am not blind of course this person is not...
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    Trauma therapy is exhausting. But I'm doing it because I want.... (fill in the blank)

    Really got me this topic and has required a lot of soul searching on my part. This is exhausting anyway without doing it all just for the sake of others and I have realised It will be a whole lot easier to learn how to do it for myself instead of it coming from a place of rescuing and people...
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    Trauma therapy is exhausting. But I'm doing it because I want.... (fill in the blank)

    I experienced a lot of greif around this as I had to think quite hard about why am I doing it and a lot of it seemed to be about doing it for other peoples sakes a lot of I should do it for them and to help them which is all well and good but I am finding it hard to understand why I would do it...
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    just saying - "I push you away to protect you from ME"

    indeed to be honest I did not even know what complex ptsd was for most of my life I am only just learning how to understand it my self. good analogy. my own analogy is I feel like I am a dog sort of in pain squealing and people come to put there hand out to try and stroke me and suddenly all...
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    just saying - "I push you away to protect you from ME"

    its so hard as I can not tell you as you cant or wont understand but I push you away to protect you from ME
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    books about CPTSD

    Hello can anyone recommend any good books about CPTSD. bear in mind I have read the called suriving to thriving by pete walker. Was good , was presenting a twelve step approach which with all due respect is not the model I am following. Would prefer to read something which is not professing a...
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    Neice taken in to care

    I am hoping so just need to work out the beuracracy around accessing a child in care
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    Neice taken in to care

    just checking in as sometimes this place is the only place I have some outlet to express my upset at the ongoing situations I have no control over. in the past I would judge my self for being upset over other peoples predicaments saying to my self well its not happening to you its happening to...
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    The pros and cons of using cannabis for ptsd

    don't know anything about medical use of cannabis...personally I have always thought it was the devils brood as my sister has been dependent for years with disastrous consequences. But I am open minded that its different strokes for different folks. The thing is with recreational use as there...
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    work christmas party

    I agree I do not think the decision to must not be taken lightly in any circumstance but if your absolutely certain no one will get hurt or cheated as a result..in fact everyone benifets from it ...of course the most desirable thing is to avoid getting in to situations were you feel like you...
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    When the truth might hurt to much

    i guess your right we can become very intolerant by becoming intolerant of the intolerant . I think another way of saying it is to avoid relationships with people who want me to beleive what they believe .
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    When the truth might hurt to much

    Thanks for your input I did walk away from the relationship but said it was for another reason which was true but not the main reason. I will elaborate on it in a way that is respectful to others. It was basicly around certain religous beleifs which i became opposed to because i beleive it had a...
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    work christmas party

    Yes every case has to be judges on its own merits. In my own case its a very small departemnt and a flat no could be taken as a snub. and I do really like my team i do not want to hurt anyones feelings while at the same time I do not want to annihliate everyone with the ins outs of how my...
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    When the truth might hurt to much

    What would you do if telling someone the truth of how you really feel about something that is important to them which you know may hurt them on a deep level but not telling them means you can not go on with the relationship .
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    Study For some young adults, the 2016 US election was a 'traumatic experience'

    I have observed recently in the celebrity culture and magazines it becoming quite trendy to have PTSD after things such as break ups with partners and checking in to rehab I know of a couple of celebritys apparently have it now .
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    Can you lose your soul? PTSD and emotional "reduction"

    I myself have always thought of trauma as being a cancer of the soul. I also have thought of my soul being in a coma rather than dead. as for the other selfs I know I would have been without the trauma I see them as something which has died but with another self that can be reborn from them...
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    Maladaptive daydreaming!

    Relate to this a lot . When I was a child I could create all sorts of fantasy worlds to live in based on all sorts of things . its kind of waxed and waned at different times in my life. How it manifests in my relationships is I write stories...a beginning a middle and an end and constantly get...
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    work christmas party

    please excuse the ranting and raving ..its really brought a lot of stuff in to my awareness
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    work christmas party

    Thanks for everyones input I have ruled out going and saying I can not drink for medical reasons as this would have been fine if I was in a place were I was feeling in the right place in my recovery wanted to go but just not drink. Its more a case of feeling like I do not yet know how to handle...
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    work christmas party

    defences will not be overwhelmed rather
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    work christmas party

    I have decided I want to duck out of the work Christmas meal . I thought the time was right to give it a try as I know I cant spend my whole life avoiding socialising but I have to many alarm bills ringing around the whole alcohol issue as were I work is very much a drinking culture...people...
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    I am an ex sex worker - facing up to something I've been running away from

    thanks for the advice . yes indeed its not appropriate or nesscarry to tell everyone everything about your self. Even though this sort of thing may be more common than we think its defnatly outside the range of most people experience and comprehension. Its best not trouble people with what they...
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