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    3 wishes

    You have friends on here. You have a good heart.
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    What Song Are You Listening To Right Now?

    I woke up this morning to "something just like this" playing in my head. I hadn't listen to the song for quite some time. I guess it came into my consciousness that I want someone who's not looking for More than I'm capable of. i'm going to have to figure out how to add the link.
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    Name three living public people that you find to be inspirational

    I've really been enjoying reading about the incredible people that I haven't heard of, living in my protected bubble, that people have been posting. Thank you!
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    Views on boycotting - Can you admire the work of someone who did something bad? Can you separate personal from business?

    I agree with you @Sideways. I think I just got triggered. Thinking of how people can make assumptions about another's behavior. How do we stop this stuff before it happens? I guess it was my appeal to the universe that we need to find ways to detect and stop abuse. Again, a lofty goal...
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    Views on boycotting - Can you admire the work of someone who did something bad? Can you separate personal from business?

    Michael Jackson is an interesting one... I love the heart in his music, like man in the mirror. I found myself wondering what kind of childhood trauma he went through that would cause him to pursue little boys. He was obviously deprived of a normal childhood. So, as an adult he never was...
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    Views on boycotting - Can you admire the work of someone who did something bad? Can you separate personal from business?

    I love that you brought up Ghandi. We are highly complex people. We, here, have strong similarities in life experiences that shape our perspectives. I prefer to believe that everyone has blind spots, where through lack of life experience, ignorance or focused insensitivity they minimize...
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    Name three living public people that you find to be inspirational

    That is sad @Survivor3 they were all incredible musicians! Beautiful. I love it when I hear about, new to me, great humanitarians. I should have added that their impact is still alive! I was binge listening to Hendrix recently.
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    Name three living public people that you find to be inspirational

    You never disappoint @mumstheword ! :) Isn't it interesting how similar our (this group) paths can be? I LOVE it :) All beautiful people that deserve a purple streak in their hair ... :)
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    Name three living public people that you find to be inspirational

    I love your choices! :)
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    Name three living public people that you find to be inspirational

    I absolutely love it @Annalyn78 ! Beautiful! Beautiful :hug:
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    Name three living public people that you find to be inspirational

    I was thinking about the current political divide and was hoping that this might provide some optimism. I really hope that this idea doesn't backfire on me... :blackeye: it's okay if it just fizzles away... it's not trauma related, but I believe that HOPE is a big thing for all of us! 1)...
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    3 wishes

    I have only one wish. That there was a way to tell, at first sight, if someone was: kind, compassionate, empathetic, loving, that they would give it their all to resolve every conflict in the most peaceful manner possible. When they did something wrong they were capable of being accountable...
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    What helps you connect to your feelings?

    My latest book is Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents. It has helped me to understand the parts of me that are unbalanced. It's also helped me to set expectations of what I can expect from others. The Tao of Fully Feeling has helped with seeing others emotional potential based on...
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    What helps you connect to your feelings?

    It's good that you can be around them during this virus time. Some of my most enjoyable conversations have been with wise elderly women and men to a lesser degree. :-)
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    How to use triggers as a means to recovery?

    Your words really resonate! I have made large strides towards not going too fast, but as you've read, it's not easy for me. I create this imaginary perfect match and my intensity would push them away. I've realized that it's my emotionally starved for human contact ( hand holding, snuggling...
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    How to use triggers as a means to recovery?

    I understand what you're saying. I know that the truth is that I need to control my severe need for attachment. I need to continuously comfort my inner-child and assure them that we're fine on our own. That way when I find someone, I will not be the one pushing the relationship forward. My...
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    How to use triggers as a means to recovery?

    Thank you for your kind words @Widow_of_one, I know what you're saying. But, when I want to do the things you suggested, they want more. I know that I need to assert myself. I know that. But, I'm a pleaser co-dependent and it's not that easy for me.
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    How to use triggers as a means to recovery?

    Thank you so much @Widow_of_one . I hear you. It's an internal battle. I want the human physical connection so badly that it hurts. But, I know that your words are true ?
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    always losing time, every day the day seems to suddenly vanish before my eyes

    Thank you for your post @flamesandgasoline I notice this same thing myself. For me, I have trained myself, or I was trained, to work for others. I can work very long hours and be very productive when it is for someone else. But, when it is just for me I get lost. Time slips away. There are...
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    How to use triggers as a means to recovery?

    I want to apologize, I'm new here and I responded with something unrelated to the original post. It doesn't have to do with triggers or stressors. I suppose it's dissociating or something? I also didn't mean the three smilies... I'll figure this out...
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    How to use triggers as a means to recovery?

    I know that this is an old post, but @Changing4Best I hope that it worked out for you. I kept jumping into the fire going out with new people until I ran into a woman that insisted on being whole before getting into a relationship. I took her advice to heart. I'm going to lick my wounds and...
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    The benefits in helping others - volunteering

    I have found it difficult to tie-in to charitable organizations. Granted, I have been a little picky. During my late forties, I chose to pursue a Masters in Teaching in order to teach in a low-income middle school. I wanted to make a difference. Around half way, or so, through the degree...
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    Inner Kid Work

    I love that @katz I have only recently been reaching out to my inner child. I have heard the suggestion of writing to them and allowing them to write back with my non-dominant hand. But I guess I'm scared of what they may write me. But, I love the way you described writing to your inner child. I...
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    Sufferer The power of commonality

    Bless you...
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