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    Relationship Broken Heart: UPDATE, Alone and wondering if he will come back

    Thank you @Freida I’m trying to learn as much as I can. I hate standing by and not being able to be actively participating in his healing. So I’m going to educate myself
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    Relationship Broken Heart: UPDATE, Alone and wondering if he will come back

    Wow thank you for letting me know. You are a wealth of information. I wish u all the best as well. Take care❤️
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    Relationship Broken Heart: UPDATE, Alone and wondering if he will come back

    @Mytime You are my saviour right now! I have been scouring the internet to find something that talks about a sufferer detaching from his spouse. Your story sounds like what I have been living so far. My husband doesn’t have angry outbursts but has gone from being one of the most patient people...
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    Relationship Broken Heart: UPDATE, Alone and wondering if he will come back

    BTW: it will be three weeks on Thursday that he left. And I’m already wondering when it will end but maybe that is bcuz of the back and forth with him too.
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    Relationship Broken Heart: UPDATE, Alone and wondering if he will come back

    What would I say; call me when u are better? sounds stupid but really. I did ask him once if it would be easier just to cut ties for a while to see if he misses us. He said no he couldn’t do that. It would crush him. But I wasn’t clear...I maybe should have said just me and not the kids.
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    Relationship Broken Heart: UPDATE, Alone and wondering if he will come back

    If I remember correctly @Deanna you are a sufferer right? So does this shit sound familiar to anything u went through?
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    Relationship Broken Heart: UPDATE, Alone and wondering if he will come back

    Okay. Fair-I do know that sleeping together probably isn’t good for either of us. It just felt so nice to be wanted again. we agreed when he left it was to work on himself and not a “separation”. He said he doesn’t want to be separated. Are u saying maybe I should suggest that would be better...
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    Relationship Broken Heart: UPDATE, Alone and wondering if he will come back

    These days I get through the day by mostly wishing time away so I can ask him about progress. That is no way to live-wishing time away!!! But I don’t know what to do. At least of time goes by there has to be some progress or no progress. But then I can start seeing how this will play out and...
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    Relationship Broken Heart: UPDATE, Alone and wondering if he will come back

    Thank you Deanna. Post doesn’t need to be long to be effective....do u think he moved out and now he sees it as easier to get away with the drinking and not having to be accountable? But how can he see his children’s faces and do this to them even? Hmm I guess I can answer that. The same way he...
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    Relationship Broken Heart: UPDATE, Alone and wondering if he will come back

    @Mytime @Friday @Freida @enough @Survivor3 Yes I am seeing a therapist and working out-I’m probably the healthiest I have ever been-physically and mentally. And I’m trying so hard to be positive and see this as an opportunity for growth for each of us individually. But I’m so scared of losing...
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    Relationship Broken Heart: UPDATE, Alone and wondering if he will come back

    @enough @Survivor3 @Friday Hello My husband decided to move out a week ago. Feels like it has been an eternity. I’m a complete disaster and feel very alone and sad and don’t know what the future looks like. Those of you that have suffered-please can u provide me some insight. My husband says...
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    Relationship Broken Heart: UPDATE, Alone and wondering if he will come back

    @Friday Thank you so much-I will definitely look into these links you sent. I value your input on the SGB treatments bcuz we would be coming from Canada so would be a HUGE expense. There is no price for his health BUT if it is a sketchy treatment at best then I’m glad to know before I book...
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    Relationship Broken Heart: UPDATE, Alone and wondering if he will come back

    Hello Does anyone here have any experience with the Stellate Ganglion Block treatment? Thanks
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    Relationship Broken Heart: UPDATE, Alone and wondering if he will come back

    @Friday Wow-that is very powerful and a view I never thought of. Thank you for presenting the other side to me. I needed it. I think you put it best when you said “finding the way to make it suck the least and then embracing the suck.” So here we are today embracing the man that is our entire...
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    Relationship Broken Heart: UPDATE, Alone and wondering if he will come back

    @blackemerald1 Thank you. He is moving out tomorrow; we told the kids and I’m exhausted. We were honest with them and we are better for it. will update later
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    Relationship Broken Heart: UPDATE, Alone and wondering if he will come back

    @blackemerald1 Thank you for those words. Yesterday things kind of came to a head. The day before he was drunk and still trying to participate with the family watching movies on the couch. Nothing major happened-it’s just uncomfortable and weird for everyone not drunk. Most importantly-our...
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    Relationship Need support-spouse of PTSD sufferer

    @Freida Thank you-you all have been such an amazing support to me!! One question; I’m from Canada and I have seen the term “LE” profession twice now in these posts. What does that stand for? I assume it means first responder type work. Just curious!
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    Relationship Need support-spouse of PTSD sufferer

    @Sweetpea76 Yep makes perfect sense!! You could not have showed up at a better time. Thank you so so much for sharing your experience-it really has made a HUGE impact on me and my perspective. ❤️
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    Relationship Need support-spouse of PTSD sufferer

    @Sweetpea76 what do I do if he wants to go??? I feel like he is waiting for me to tell him to go. He told me about 5 weeks ago while we were trying to sort some stuff out. That he had been waiting for me to tell him to leave. but we both knew that was scary and we can’t afford it. But now I...
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    Relationship Need support-spouse of PTSD sufferer

    @Sweetpea76 Wow. Thank you for that. You are so right and I have had some moments of clarity Iike this but it has been a long time. I needed that reminder that this is not about me. I know better-I am a social worker. But isn’t it funny how when things get personal, no matter our...
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    Relationship Need support-spouse of PTSD sufferer

    You have been a godsend-thank you so much for your advice. It has been the most I have received since this entire thing started. I hope your wife is healing well. I truly appreciate you taking the time to type all that for me!! Take care Such valuable information to have. Thank you thank you...
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    Relationship Need support-spouse of PTSD sufferer

    Thank you. He believes this is PTSD and a therapist has agreed with him. So he knows what this is ....but I guess in the end I cannot force him to get help. That has to be his choice. He gets very mad if I suggest ideas or names of therapists. It has to be done on his terms completely. Hi...
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    Relationship Need support-spouse of PTSD sufferer

    Thank you for your insight. You are the first PTSD sufferer I’ve heard from. Nice to hear your perspective on things. My husband has a very hard time explaining any of it to me. He hates to talk about it. I’m learning not to be “the problem” as that can really set him off. I’m also realizing...
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    Relationship Need support-spouse of PTSD sufferer

    My husband told me he has been suffering with PTSD about 6 months ago. However, it did not come out that way. What came out was "i dont know how i feel about you anymore or if we have a future. " He kept saying he had to fix himself before he knew. My life was turned completely upside down. I...
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    Relationship Broken Heart: UPDATE, Alone and wondering if he will come back

    My husband told me he has been suffering with PTSD about 6 months ago. However, it did not come out that way. What came out was "i dont know how i feel about you anymore or if we have a future. " He kept saying he had to fix himself before he knew. My life was turned completely upside down. I...
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