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Just inferring about how some real relationships start to make the point that she's not doing anything wrong just yet. I myself would not ask a guy out. But that's just me. Never meant to make you feel like you're alone in how you feel. But just being open-minded about the individual differences...

I was just about to ask a similar question so thank you for this thread. It happened to me the other day at the end of my therapy session. I'd disclosed some information and my T asked me if I'd felt alone. I just felt so exposed and wanted to block her out.. She moved onto something else to...

Well... Some people I know have asked guys/girls out that way. More so, let's grab a coffee or something with someone they truly hit it off with. Coffee is just coffee to see if you really have any connection. Honestly sometimes we just have to take a risk if you really like someone, not that...

Woah I'm so sorry it's turned into a stress before you even have it organised yet. Didn't you say she was a big travel guru etc? Surely she can plan a bit and budget for herself. It's a trip together so I don't see why you should be expected to do all the organising. Could you get hubby on...

Definitely not stalking. Lots of people hang out in places they feel comfortable and where the staff create a welcoming presence. It becomes more obsessive if she were to say, find out his working days, where he lives etc. If she would actually like to ask the guy out it wouldn't be all that...

Go mama! Sounds like you're doing a fab job. Your kids must be super excited about the beach. My 2.5yo has always been crazy about the beach, we're lucky to live close-by. Have a lovely time with your 2 little ladies.

I think @Suzetig really covered it. From someone who's had experience with a few therapists, I can say that speciality was not centrally important. Unfortunately in Ireland where I live, it would be next to impossible to find a trauma specific T. I started off with a T who almost put me off...

Welcome and hugs for making the transition :hug: I don't think I could leave this easily. I think you'll find a very supportive and close community here. I'd recommend trying out chat when you get a chance to get more familiar. It's taken me nearly 2 years here before I utilised this amazing...

Don't really have a whole lot of advice but just wanted to say hugs :hug: if you'll have them. Sounds like you're doing an awesome job. As a mum of 2, in college and working full-time I know how hard it is. But I'm not a single parent so I really admire you. Keeping on top of chores etc is...

I feel like you're being totally disrespected. This stems from your husband and your son is following suit. I get what you mean about spoiling your children as they grew up, but that doesn't lay the blame on you or give them free passes to disregard and bully you now. I would have a serious...

Yup tho they're only 2.5 and 5 months! The future sounds bright !! On a serious note though they are really triggering. Sounds rough with your 20yo though. Your husband really needs to stand by you though as he's getting a mixed message if you don't parent together. Can you think of any...

The reason I refused my T's suggestion that I do group therapy, was because I do not communicate my needs well in group settings. I think a skills based group setting could be possible as it's more directive and wouldn't be as triggering. I'd suggest building on one to one therapy initially...

This is the first time you've ever done this! So pace yourself. Stop beating yourself up. Can you give yourself a few days and if it feels right, reactivate your account and try reconnecting? This is PTSD unfortunately. Do you have a T to help support you thru this? It takes time. I never...

Yes our memories are sometimes distorted. Not that we confabulate them. There are both veridical and non-veridical recall. My T gave me a handout on it recently that explains it better. Like @Riot though, I also go back to a state where it's like I'm watching what happened, in the dissociative...

And I'm sorry about your gran, grief can do many things to us and it is still pretty raw for you.

I understand that it can be impossible to implement calming strategies when actively panicking. But glad you are practicing anyway as they do have a place, even if limited. It sounds as though your T has a good plan in place. It can only be done one step at a time. Hopefully, in the meantime...

Just wondering what your relationship with your gran was like, ie was it very significant to you and impactful when she passed? I can tell you that I never had the same anxiety about sex before I gave birth. I know it's a completely different matter but my psych team told me that the...

I feel for you deeply. My T is trying to get me to work on reducing self harm. Though I can't stop what happens when I dissociate after nightmares and flashbacks. I really urge you to disclose this event to a professional, be it your therapist if you have one or an emergency department, asap...

Looking back I now see that my symptoms were ongoing concurrently with continuous trauma. Though they weren't recognisable until a few years ago. I hid it so well I almost lied to myself and pretended it wasn't real.

So happy you were able to clarify things. I also always held that fear that one day my T would give up on me if I said something that was too much for them. But I appreciated her honesty that, while it was difficult to hear, she could handle herself so I didn't need to worry.

I don't think I ever said parenting skills.. I actually am a child and family health nurse so I know the basic skills.. It's about being a good enough parent in contrast to my own childhood so that's totally relevant to therapy and sometimes I need an outside professional perspective whether...

I guess that depends on what you're looking for. When it comes to symptom management, I'm given guidance on methods of coping, emotional regulation skills etc. But say for example, I'm questioning my parenting ability because I was never shown any positive parenting example as a child myself, I...

My old T also used to say that she felt her response/reaction would never be good enough. I think she just meant that what I was saying was very impactful and that it would be hard for her to match that in words. Like they know how hard it is for you to talk through it, but that the experience...

I don't think the problem is necessarily her giving advice, because sometimes telling a T that detail will inevitably lead to advice. I think the problem is her giving her opinion.

The kid I'm referring to was Philip Cairns, very local to where I grew up and went to school, but a bit before my time. Eamon Cooke is believed to be responsible for his death now and possibly others too. They believed he spoke out to the wrong person who in turn was partly responsible for his...