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My last T was late 50's and I preferred this (about my parents age too) as she was very nurturing and had that life experience I felt was helpful to guide me like a parent may. My new T is late 30's or early 40's and so about 10-15years older than me. It is like an older sibling relationship but...

Thank you all for your supportive comments. I just wish I could cope with simple life stressors more easily and be a little more adaptable to unexpected situations. Friday was just a crappy day. I had to go to the city to do some annoying paperwork. And while gone, my partner reversed my car...

My partner and I had a massive row yesterday. I feel like I'm under considerable stress right now and a lot of things went wrong yesterday in particular, only mounting this. I'm not good with things going wrong, plans changing, having to adapt suddenly etc. And because I've been working so much...

Thank you @Recovery4Me and for helping me through that dark time.

I know that right now, the only reason I'm still here is my child, so it's really important to mention children for me. Because he gave me reason to change my mind and to work on choosing life and dealing with my issues. I have lots of other reasons now of course - as does almost every human...

My little boy and our hopes to make a sibling for him soon :-)

I struggle with this too - I try to will myself to say I'm not doing okay when I'm really at my worst but of course the words that come out are 'yeah I'm fine, I guess'. I think I need to put some strategy in place to let my T know just how much I minimise things - like when I'm not doing okay...

@imok I totally agree - I find the public services here are ill-equipped and under experienced. I'm actually currently attending a free service myself and let's just say, it's been more harmful and stress invoking at times. The problem with these services is that they're overworked and...

I also do the same. In fact I quit with my last T partly for this reason as I felt it was moreso associated with my feelings of transference toward her. But now after about only 2 months seeing my new T, I'm right back there. It's so uncomfortable feeling like this when it is a fear-inducing...

Sometimes a counselor just isn't qualified enough in my experience. I can't believe your psychologist dropped you though after memories started to come up. Can you get back to see another psychologist soon? All I can say is trust your gut. If you've a logical reason as to why they are not being...

Personally I hate that it's so easy to accidentally click on the Facebook, twitter icons etc. For me it's just something I've almost accidentally clicked a few times and shared to my Facebook page, which I would prefer not to as I lose the anonymity I get here. But I can imagine that could be a...

You know I keep asking my new T to just contact my old one to get a basic low-down on my history as I'm afraid of it overwhelming her and being dropped as I felt was kind of the case with my last T, because it turned out she wasn't the right fit for me and my issues. But my new T won't because...

I'd just ask her! It's your right to know. But I can imagine the conversation was very general and that she felt you'd be a good fit based on your new T's experience/style. I doubt they meet up to talk about you and if they were to, it would be nothing more than 'things are going well'. I don't...

Yes @jaccat I've been told 'you only ever get one mother - you can't turn your back on her', I just replied with - 'you have no idea what you're talking about'. It's hard enough to do, and to avoid her attempts to lure me back into an unhealthy relationship, without ppl guiltily me over it.

For those of you who've had to cut ties with your mum or even more... It's been hard but everyday I realise it's the healthier decision...

@shimmerz I don't think it's that there's anything wrong with the idea - it's just that some of us have ingrained protective mechanisms. It may mean we avoid benefit because our fear inhibits us. But at the end of the day, it's down to how much we can put trust in the hands of a stranger. I...

Seems like a great idea - we have similar organisations over here to help elderly etc. But I can't see myself as a helpseeker so it wouldn't be something I'd look for personal help from.

Thanks for the reassurance and for believing me. I just feel like it's one of those things that people will always doubt you for. I read a thread from a local board just now where this girl got banned from this store because her friend forgot to pay for a pair of socks - they made out that they...

So I just got caught "shoplifting". Been feeling really crap all day - didn't sleep much last night due to intense nightmares. My partner decided it would be a good idea to get out and go shopping for a bit. I told him I'd rather stay at home but he didn't want to take our toddler alone...

I'm the same. However, this is my 2nd therapist - I left the other one for this very reason. This trait has followed me because I'm not really actually afraid of my T, moreso I just can't get those words out when I need to. I'm really afraid of talking about almost anything trauma-related. I...

I actually had a session for my son when he wouldn't sleep. The woman we met was full of bull if you ask me. And did more harm than good. Little did she know I have medical experience and what she was saying was unsound. Tbh I think it's complete bogus after attending this particular...

Thanks @Hooper but my question wasn't whether they could report. It was what they could/couldn't. Reporting retrospective abuse is hugely different to reporting me as a threat. @Danyel Lee Gaede I'm in Ireland. And from what I know, she's out of line. Bear in mind she works mainly with serious...

I guess you should consider why you applied too. And if it was because you felt it would be a dream job for you, is it fear holding you back or something else? Whatever you choose is okay. Try not to overthink it before it happens (easier said than done I know). Why not take literal baby steps...

I also witnessed my father abuse my mother from as far back as I can remember. One example that stays with me from under the age of 3, is him about to kill her with a sword (I can't tell was he serious or just on a power-trip). He was holding her down, myself and my older siblings all pleading...

That's great @macbeth - I find decision making really difficult too and am always apologizing for no real reason! Always worrying I'll hurt someone's feelings with my choices or something. Well done for putting you first - it's great you could take the positives out of both situations. You're...