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I hope tomorrow is better @itsKismet. It honestly seems to be a total crap shoot. I've had times where I've had many friends, times where I've had no friends, and times where all my friends were dropping out of my life so fast I could keep track of it, or I kept meeting so many new and amazing...

You'd have to ask him. My experience is that it's like a switch. Just like how at a certain point the stuff I'm getting from interacting with people doesn't outweigh the stress that that brings, after a while the comfort of isolating doesn't outweigh things like loneliness or need for human...

It depends on what you like to do. Volunteering if you have time will put you in front of people and can help with depression. Picking something you're passionate about (animals, children, what have you) can also keep the loss of interest in everything at bay and can give you some stability of...

Sometimes it is worth it to take a break to process. Sometimes it is not. I think as long as you have rapport and can go back sooner than planned if you feel you need to it is worth a try. Personally, I am in the process of moving but I want to get to a point with my T where I can go in...

My ex tried it while he was working full time and going to school full time and simply didn't have any down time or energy left over. He seemed to like it, but thought it got bland/boring after a while. I also know from my own juice and water fasts that part of what we get out of eating is...

I'm so sorry you feel this way but very glad you have come up with a solution that feels right for you. Who cares if others get it? A couple of my trauma anniversaries are in the month before my birthday so I can at least sort of relate. It always seems to be a toss up whether I'll be able to...

I made a clean break from my first and worst traumatic situation. But then I ended up in a dysfunctional and emotionally abusive relationship. I left him 3 times. Each time he convinced me back. The next relationship I had was physically and sexually abusive. I went back to him once. I'm still...

Right? Mine works so hard and is amazing, but he's so derpy. I mean, he'll be looking behind him and run into bookshelves. Or suddenly forget how stairs work and be terrified to walk down them. And he has such a fluffy undercoat, so for the past couple months when I've seen him it's been like a...

@FridayJones That's the problem: there is NO requirement legally. The requirements are that the handler is disabled under the ADA definition of a disability, and the dog performs tasks to mitigate that disability. End stop. There is no legal requirement for any sort of ID, card, papers, doctors...

@FridayJones the problem is they have no legal bearing. It's great for the people taking your money to 'register' your dog and if they give you an ID it looks all official and it gives you something to flash at people giving you trouble. But that also creates a problem because then that...

I don't have a solution for you, I hope you get some useful comments from other members. But I just wanted to let you know that you're heard. I'm pursuing a relationship currently and finding it really hard to let go and own my feelings. Love to me is a hard concept partially because I recoil...

@desiderata310 I'm sorry your trainer isn't working out.

@Bookoffee I'm willing to share some of what I learned when I was doing research. Your inbox is full though, if you want to shoot me a pm I can try to help if I can though.

I'm in the process of having my service dog in training placed with me. We test for public access in August and he can come home assuming no oddness and we pass.

You don't make light of it. It's not light. But there's also a difference between putting blame on her, assuming that the relationship is now doomed because of reactions one or the other of you might or might not have, etc. Basically, you can discuss it without catastrophizing or attempting to...

Well, it's not a disease, but it is a disorder. I think I agree with @Meadowsweet and her preference for the word disorder rather than illness just because illness IS typically used in cases where there's something to treat. That's not always the case, and that might just be a personal bias...

I have always had awful symptoms around my period. But there isn't any pre-PTSD experience of that for me. It took me ten years and it getting significantly worse, but I finally have a diagnosis and am being treated properly. Several Drs assumed it was psychosomatic before I finally got someone...

Legally speaking in some states she won't have protections until she's finished with training. It does depend- only service dogs are federally protected and some states do have a specific portion of their own laws addressing dogs who are in training. Once she knows tasks and (recommended) can...

I have only ever been assaulted by men. One of my therapists had a spot on his intake evaluation for "your feelings about men" and "your feelings about women". He read the first one and said "why on earth are you seeing me if that's how you feel about men?" My response was "read what I wrote...

I was ordained as an interspiritual minister and at least in my seminary we talked a lot about spiritual wounds from past religious affiliations. That can happen in a lot of ways from institutionalized abuse to well meaning people using faith to guilt or injure to individuals in power in a...

This has consistently been the most challenging thing for me to make people understand. Welcome. I hope you find this forum helpful as you continue your healing.

I don't have any advice, but I just wanted you to know you aren't alone. For me the body memories and pain are bad enough but it's the regression and losing things I know how to do that is hardest when I'm in that place. Pain and depression is one thing- it's unpleasant but I can manage. Losing...

Coping, grounding, and when push comes to shove just trying to numb out and get through it if that's really what's needed. At least that's the only way I've found so far. I just got done with a crazy stressful month, and it's probably going to take me a couple weeks to recover from it. But it...

I absolutely relate. I think it probably is pretty common just from what I've seen on here and other places. I know I was conditioned that any expression of negative emotions was going to end poorly. And since I was always depressed or anxious there weren't a ton of happy emotions either most of...

Welcome to the forum. Sometimes it takes a while to be in a place where you can accept any sort of help. Congratulations on starting the journey.