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I've been thinking a lot about family in the past couple weeks. I'm not sure if anyone will understand or will have responses. But I had to get all of this out of my head. My family of origin, while not physically abusive, is toxic at best. I rarely see or talk to my parents. I do speak with my...

@missy meier You can say all you like that those "truly" following Christ don't engage in these behaviors. That's true. The experience of many on these threads has been that people who identify as Christian have done serious harm in one way or another. That is also true. No one is calling you...

My parents were Catholic and Methodist growing up but both were mostly out of the church by the time they had me and decided not to raise me religiously. I was more or less raised agnostically- when I had specifically religious questions growing up my parents did their best to give me...

I've been trying to for weeks. My friend and I have actually been laughing some because the two of them got married a couple weeks ago and were gone for a week for the honeymoon and I knew better but was convinced they'd come back and decide they were done with me. And it's been okay, but now...

Right? I was beating myself up for screaming/not being stoic and my friend finally had to tell me that was an appropriate response to being slammed into a brick wall and to seriously just leave it be. But a few seconds after we stopped sliding as they got out to check on things/let people who...

I don't know. I've noticed lately I seem to have a delayed physiological response to a lot of bodily/mental stress. Obviously in the case of a car accident you don't really expect to be able to assess injuries well right away because of the adrenaline. But I've also noticed with blood draws (I...

I was wondering if this is a common trend among sufferers. I was in a car wreck yesterday. I was a passenger and my friend was driving, and her husband and four year old were also in the car. No one was seriously injured, but we hydroplaned and spun out and hit the barrier several times. I took...

I'm working on actually finding a trauma specialist- I've had around 7 years of therapy off and on but never really processed the trauma well. But it's taking time and there have been a couple mis-starts. I'm hoping maybe once I start school I can find someone with appropriate specialization...

It's been over a year since I last self harmed. I stopped mostly because of the stigma/other people's opinions, but partially because at the time I recognized I was escalating in severity and needed to find other outlets. Benefit began to outweigh risk. Currently, I am socially isolated...

My understanding is that licensed marriage and family therapists as a category are dying out in the US, and that this is much of the problem. They may be good at relationship counseling, or at group work in some cases, but given the prevalence of mental health issues in the general population...

Dental fear/anxiety is really common in abuse survivors. More dentists are aware of this in recent years, here's an faq from one organization. http://www.dentalfear.com/santos.asp I've had some success asking to always see the same team of tech/hygienist/dentist and being very clear about what...

I really like the road ID interactive ones. They link to a profile with your information, any documents you want to store, etc. So I have the fact that I'm a service dog handler, and a request not to separate me from my dog on mine, and then the information for the service that they can...

I've been struggling a lot symptomatically. The holidays are really difficult for me, but I also have been dealing with a lot of intrusive memories and processing from my primary trauma. There was another girl involved, and while I talk fairly freely about most of what happened I can almost...

There are some dual diagnosis 12 step approaches that adjust steps 1-4 in particular to suit a trauma background. What I can't understand is why the approach isn't more common given how many addicts do have trauma or other mental hath issues. That said I currently frequent some 12 step...

I basically interrogate therapists I screen. One of them actually laughed about it with me later, because I have a list and I will call and run down the list. "This is the basic nature of my trauma. What sort of experience do you have treating trauma survivors?" "Here are the highlights of my...

The comment was in relation to programs and certs. There is no legal oversight as to how programs train their dogs or even how owner trained teams are trained. Certainly this is very true for programs: adi accredited programs with contact training hours into the hundreds and support for the life...

I struggle with this also. For me, if I have something, anything, that has a set duration it helps. When I was in college I could see to the end of the program. Beyond that, normally not, but at least as long as I wasn't drowning I could carve out that chunk. Now that I have my service dog...

Personally, I would be inclined to ask her for references of trauma specialists in the area. It sounds like she's likely not one. It's completely overwhelming to start over, but it may be best. She has to set her own boundaries on what she feels capable of handling, but if she can't handle your...

I'm sorry this happened and I can relate to not wanting to date/be close to people in case I freeze. I agree this was assault and I want to stress it wasn't your fault. I'm also going to leave this here, because sometime the advice we need to listen to the most is our own given to others:

I subscribe to spoon theory, and I just know that being around children uses up extra spoons for me. It gets difficult because I think particularly as a woman of child-bearing age people expect me to want them. Small children I struggle with for some of the reasons outlined above. My main trauma...

That may be what the landlord requires for service dogs (The Fair Housing Act is different than the ADA) or it may be for emotional support dogs. But @Jet is right. What you're talking about under US Federal law is absolutely not a service dog. It sounds like from what you're describing as far...

Yeah. Pretty much exactly. While owner training is a protected right under the ADA, that does necessitate actually training. Not just any dog is a service dog. And the number of really well trained dogs who have the temperament to do the work is low. If you don't need public access, then you...

I think it depends on you. I normally say something cheeky like "so there's a requisite conversation before you take me out on a real date" followed by "really, no, we need to talk about some shit". I'm not very socially skilled, but it just seems to me there's never going to be a good time to...

I've been rejected enough times (or found a partner to be a woefully poor fit over trauma related issues) after becoming invested in a relationship. So my personal approach is to litmus test early on by bringing things up in conversation and watching for reactions that will give me a good idea...

How do you know this? Most people who ask about interpersonal boundaries like this actually care about consent culture. It seems more likely she would be sad that you've been putting up with something that makes you uncomfortable, and she would then know to stop and to proceed with a lot more...