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I love fireworks. I just need to know they'll be happening and not be too close (or have my ear plugs but they only do so much with explosions). I like the displays as long as I'm with safe people to combat the crowd fear. I actually asked one of those people this year if we could go to...

Interesting thread. I'll come back once I can think on it a bit but what I've noticed lately is that if my inner critic is silent, it's a sign I'm present and grounded. I also have a lot of issues connecting to my body, so if I can actually feel all my limbs when I check in (instead of knowing...

I might be interested - I'm a bit like @FridayJones on this one, I normally like to watch how others are using it and then star. But I'm very familiar with WordPress and particularly if there would be the option of monetization with ease to the user that is a strong draw. I'm just not tech savvy...

This is what happened the last place I lived. So I'm very much hoping to find some sort of balance.

Haha- you obviously know my struggle ;) Like, obviously I can't just totally unload on everybody. But it also seems like a serious cop out when I say something so understated as "I've been busy and I'm tired" instead of "I've felt like I'm dying for weeks and I just can't be around people...

I've actually gotten a whole lot better. I think it's more that I'm trying to build up a social network and I'm trying to learn ways to hopefully not distance people while still putting my needs first. I admire people with social graces- there's a difference between being too...

So I'm a people pleaser, and I always take on too much or do things based on what other people want and not what is best for me. I'm currently really stressed partially due to trauma anniversaries and partially due to a move. A friend who I would very much like to be close to asked me if I would...

Yes, I think that's what I'm running into. The difference is I think in the last year I've really implemented a number of good coping techniques as well as some strategies for reality checking and avoiding quite so many cognitive distortions. So it's like I'm experiences all of the body stuff...

It is different. But you will find people who feel it is more painful having had a healthy experience and being unable to get back to that place, possibly ever (because as @Chava says, that's the truth of trauma- some people won't). Ultimately this is one of the really fine points to demonstrate...

Not sure exactly how to explain this, but I'm in the middle of the worst couple months for me as far as trauma anniversaries go, and am moving. I feel like the way I'm processing is very much based in the disorder and a symptom spike. The work I've been doing, my coping methods, my intellectual...

Uh.... I've had "normal" people suddenly block me without reason and never speak to me again. The worst one was my best friend of 6 years. Everything was fine, then everything was not. Should I never be friends with someone who has psychologists for parents again? Who lives in her state? Who is...

I absolutely relate. I was on the road for about 14 months. No one from where I'd been living for 6 years even checked to see if I was okay during that time, no one where I was going was looking to connect more before I got there. It was really hard feeling like no one cared at all, especially...

This probably isn't standard, and may not be entirely kind on my part. But if there is interest, then that person needs to at least know my diagnosis and be interested in learning. Even if I have to teach them. If they are interested in actively pursuing information and asking me about what they...

I think it's a spectrum. Some people seem pretty open about their experiences, emotion, what have you. I'm always more suspicious of that in a way because I appear to be an open book, even with my trauma. It's just the things I do keep to myself are relatively few, but you'll never get them out...

Sometimes I find I'm craving something specific if I really ask myself, even if I WILL eat everything in the house if I let myself. If I just am stress eating and I'm not committed to having carbs or cheese or sugar (which are normally my personal stress foods), then carrots and other crunchy...

Most of the time when I end relationships the person I am with doesn't understand. It probably appears to come out of the blue for them. I try and try to communicate my needs in my own way, or learn through their actions that they aren't going to give me what I want. So I get more and more...

It's common from what I've heard and my own experience. I'm not sure that it's healthy vs unhealthy, but it does make sense. Your brain won't remember things that don't seem to be needed until something makes you remember them later. That's fairly common for everyone. When trauma happens...

Made my day. On one where I needed a smile. :)

This may seem basic and may be answered in another post of yours- I've not been reading as carefully as normal lately. You mentioned instability on your meds, that you'd been forgetting to take them. I assume you're ensuring that you are now. Is this a normal symptom spike for you? If not if...

He can only be diagnosed by a professional. Self diagnosis is unreliable at best and dangerous at worst because even with a traumatic event that fits the Criterion A definition, there are still an array of disorders that could result, and many have similar symptoms. To boot, many non-trauma...

I also have memory problems. A place for everything has really helped me too. I find it so hard to keep a clean home, but if I don't everything goes to hell. For the really important stuff you might put down somewhere odd and need to find in a hurry something like the tile app can be really...

I think this is wonderful. I try to remind myself of this, because I will openly admit that people who don't understand but have self diagnosed or been obviously mis-diagnosed (no crit-A, T who doesn't understand trauma and reaches for the trendy diagnosis for natural grief or loss) drive me up...

Also about the worst way to make sure that the incident doesn't repeat. People are stupid. I would have flipped out, but maybe if they do seem nice at least that will help if it happens again. You can still be angry but maybe it won't be quite as scary. Dealing with stupid people who don't...

I grew up as an agnostic, and now I'm an interspiritual minister. A whole lot of that is helping people figure out what sort of faith is right for them, whatever that faith is in. I lived in a Hindu/Buddhist fusion sort of community for a while. A lot of the focus in those paths is on service...

I'm going through service dog placement and the program focuses a lot on peer to peer support, one on one and in the broader group. Consistently clients tell the program that outside of the dogs that portion of the program is what is most beneficial. You get to really hear and see you aren't...