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So I've seen a lot of posts recently regarding service dogs. I'm currently working with an organization for placement, and expect that this will be a 4-12 month process from where I'm at. I just wanted to have a space to update the few people I know may be interested and to make myself give...

They shouldn't unless it's an alert of some sort for the handler. In which case what I've been taught is one soft bark is acceptable. Any more than that can be considered unruly behavior and the handler can be asked to remove the dog from the premises. Given this, most trainers I'm aware of...

I echo that this is about personality and upbringing more than PTSD. It's not about whether these behaviors are common to people with PTSD, it's about whether these behaviors are common to people. They are common to a subset of people, and since that subset includes military and emergency...

Just found this thread, really good list. I can't think of many to add because my main examples have been listed. I just finished watching Flashpoint straight through and I thought the treatment of Ed Lane's PTSD was really well done. It's actually one of the main storylines, and they develop...

@FridayJones that's a good thought. I use a compression top under my uniform for aikido and have noticed I stay present better on the mat with it vs a normal shirt. Hadn't thought to utilize that and see if it helps in other settings though.

@aka I thought it would mostly be helpful for sleep, but I didn't even realize how much I fidget and have nervous ticks until I started using it while I was working at my desk and noticed when the weight not only calmed me, but stopped me from moving about so much.

I just finished a huge sewing project. Well, not huge, but it felt huge to me given where I've been at lately. I made two weighted items: an 8 pound 30x34 inch lap pad, and a 10 pound 16x60 inch shawl. I'm actually really proud of the shawl, which I laid out well and did nice edging on, plus it...

Something that's been difficult for me is learning to let things about how other people have behaved toward me go without reasons and explanations. I look really hard either for a reason or for remorse. Like, to a level of fixation that is ridiculous. And unfortunately whether it's neglect...

Agreed, it doesn't really matter what is 'wrong' with him, you aren't happy. Nor from your description should you be. That's what matters, particularly if there's no active work on his part. As for the symptom issue, it sounds like you hide at least some of your depression symptoms. I do the...

I've mentioned it to my T. He thought it was a good thing for me to have. I wasn't sure whether he would. Silly I guess. Help is help.

Thanks for the reply @AngelkeeperJ/AKJ. You're right, there aren't words but the support is really appreciated. I taught him how to Skype. He's a tech phobe so that was a long struggle. He has hearing issues so it's really hard to have a good conversation on the phone but on Skype at least he...

So I'm not in touch with my parents much. My mom verbally abuses my dad and taught me to treat him like he was stupid from a young age. When I got older I patched most things up with my dad, mom and I had all out brawls involving throwing things and screaming and slamming doors for a few years...

If he can't talk he needs to be in treatment and/or not in a relationship. There may be communication techniques you can use that will make it easier for the two of you to communicate. Some people need to hear or say things differently. If you're just guessing, it's unlikely to be very...

None of this is about the reality of whether you're safe. IF you're highly trained, armed or able to get in close range and trained in hand to hand, IF you're able to react quickly enough to a situation going down and IF about a million other circumstances. I mean, if there was going to be a...

A bit more blunt than I might have phrased it, but accurate none the less. I think you need to examine that. Because you will have to. Even if he's in treatment, this is a long road. Are you in therapy? If your reaction to him withdrawing is panic attacks, perhaps you need to be. From your...

Yep. I also don't think any of us can help you much on this. You need to have a talk with her and you need to figure out if you can heal your hurts and if she can understand or at least respect a boundary that you set. If not, you need to consider whether the relationship is worth it. But...

It's a really hard time of year to have to put or keep boundaries with family in place. I think it's really good you've been sticking to what you said, and doing so in as polite and non-confrontational a manner as possible. I'd recommend having her post the package to you, but if you can't or...

@joeylittle thanks for that sum-up. I also think that was part of the issue I took with the topic coming up. The other part was that it assumes that women who attach quickly to romantic prospects (and I guess I was inferring the connotation of some level of desperation there which may or may not...

Oh my goodness I understand this. One of my close supporters is this way. He's become less close because of this. I have had to really stress the things I can't handle. Like, To the tune of "Here is what I'm saying, can you repeat back what you hear?.... I need you to understand that this is a...

Few thoughts: as for the work exchange bit this is common in certain communities for certain services but it seems like a horribly bad idea for mental health, particularly in a home office situation. I guess maybe I could see that if a structured practice had something they needed done that...

Ask him what he needs and listen. If he doesn't know what he needs have some questions, or phrase it differently. "What don't you want me to do right now?" is sometimes way easier to answer then "Would this help?" If he says he's not afraid in crowds, take that at face value. Probably he isn't...

Yeah. Took me some time to figure that one out. The other things he'd done had actually caused me to finally decide he might be dangerous and start rejecting him. A couple other people were sort of aware of his obsession level also, but nobody thought he'd go that far. I realize it's...

Yeah. I also can't explain that one and was frankly rather irritated by it so I took a step back from the thread. I'm awful at this. My best friend who later drugged me when I didn't accept his advances once backed me up until I had literally crawled onto my kitchen counter wedged under my...

This is how I feel when I come up against pushback when I use the word torture. I've been holding off replying because I do not want to offend. I was not physically held captive: they transported me between my home and their place of operation, but for a period of about 8 months I was sexually...

That's an interesting question @Simply Simon. I'll go ahead and answer because even though I was in my early teens the abuse was my first 'sexual experience' on any level, and I think for me that's part of what's made it so damaging. I don't know that I really think of it in exactly those...