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  1. Wendell_R

    DID Just life with DID

    Yes, I think this is a good thing. If you think of dissociative disorders as a type of fracture of our personality, parts talking to one another is like knitting things back together. It's a big step towards integration. Having the parts come up can be exhausting. It can also be really hard...
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    I got out!

    I find that when I am upset and can distinguish between what is in front of me that is upsetting and what that triggers, the feelings pass quicker. I look forward to seeing the art that you create!
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    I got out!

    That looks like a lovely plate of food! I like the Yorkshire pudding & the potatoes there. And a half cider sounds good, too.
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    Talking about sex in therapy…?

    I had a CBT therapist before I had a trauma therapist, and we spent a number of months working through a textbook on sexuality. The fact that it was a textbook helped to make it a bit more distant and not as frightening, so it was exposure therapy. That therapist was very calming. It was...
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    How to stop dissociating during sex

    When I have a little meltdown with Mrs. W, what's useful is, first, to acknowledge that I'm uncomfortable and to stop. That helps to break the fight or flight cycle. I find that I can then calm down and just lie still, and let the weird thoughts seep away. For me, then focusing on the...
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    DID Just life with DID

    Hi, @HealingMama . You're experiences sound a lot like mine! It took me a long time to accept the importance of my parts and the fractures in my personality, even though I was highly functional in life and didn't have amnesia/time loss.
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    I got out!

    It will be nice to have all your memories of that day for days that are a bit gray. Glad you had some fun!
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    What Did You Eat And Drink Last?

    Cinnamon graham crackers. I was very quiet so our dog would not hear me and come running down the stairs to get some.
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    I got out!

    Enjoy all the experiences of the exhibit and travel and the city!
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    I got out!

    Everything that @Sideways said ^^ ! It will take time, and you'll need to go slowly. But now the biggest hurdle is gone. Going slow is frustrating, but has the advantages that you get to see what works and what doesn't work, and who you feel connection with, in a safer way. Hugs from...
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    DID Just life with DID

    I, too, have found that this forum has been really useful for me to feel less alone. Absolutely a weird and dizzying experience! I've gotten better at describing it, and better (in safe places) at letting the parts have some external affect.
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    Is it possible to spend years dissociated?

    Yes. It has taken me time to learn who is speaking, and sometimes that is still a chore. I think it has helped me to have the different parts come up and speak to my therapist, or to have two parts intentionally conversing with one another in a kind of dialogue. Each needs to find his or her...
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    Is it possible to spend years dissociated?

    I have had the same experience about my parts. The more we sense being a community of voices, the greater our mental health. It's when I don't hear the chatter of different parts that I know I'm slipping into greater dissociation, my stress level goes up, and I feel detached from others.
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    Do you use the light or the dark theme on the forum?

    For a number of months my brain couldn't get straight the difference between the "Alerts" button and the "Change style" button and I randomly changed from dark to light and back again when I was trying to look at my Alerts. I think I'm finally trained and have settled on dark.
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    I got out!

    Letting those little things back in our life is really a big step, @Teasel ! It's good to go slow, see how each step goes, and it makes sense that it's scary. Hugs!
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    I got out!

    Big, big steps for you! So proud of you. I wish I could be there and take a stroll with you.
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    EMDR aftermath, Extra session?

    You know if you have the flu, life is miserable, but if you rest and have some soup, you'll feel better in a few days. But being trapped in hell in a box is a whole lot more to handle. So I would think that if the 'trapped in hell' sensation is intruding significantly, now would be a good time...
  18. Wendell_R

    Is it possible to spend years dissociated?

    It took me years and years to recognize the degree of dissociation I had because I was outwardly functional. Yes, when the feelings come up (which has happened to me as different parts have emerged and started to talk with the others), it's pure hell for about three months. It feels that...
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    DID Suspected DID thinking about changing jobs - help me weight pros and cons

    Hi, @AnD. I am sorry I haven't been able to get back to you--I have been busy at many things recently, and I wasn't quite sure what to say, either. I think an important thing is that we with parts need to manage our energy. We need energy to work with the parts, whether they are in a good...
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    Sufferer Hi, new here gulf 94-95

    Welcome to the forum. I'm sorry that you've had some hard experiences, and that you had to keep that under wraps for so long. Good luck on your journey.
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    Today Is A Good Day Because...

    Today is a good day because one of my young teen parts gets to listen to Taylor Swift's rerecording of Fearless. Having two chocolate cookies at lunch was also nice. Thanks for starting the thread, @EveHarrington
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    Today Is A Good Day Because...

    Today is a good day because I took a walk in the park with my daughter and dog.
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    EMDR with OSDD (formly DDNOS) alters

    I think the process for me was for some of the most comfortable parts to begin to talk to my therapist. With time, I learned to talk to one at a time. The roundtable idea for me came much later, and although I can cycle through my parts now, it's exhausting. I found it useful to make pages in...
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    EMDR with OSDD (formly DDNOS) alters

    I have done extensive EMDR with my parts (I have 13 of them), both in person and by video, and it has been very useful. We did a lot of EMDR lite to get the parts used to the EMDR process, because it was very frightening to begin with. Now, it is not so bad. Sometimes we work on specific...
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    Undiagnosed EMDR recommended?

    If the traumas are mild or are not the source of PTSD, then the EMDR course of treatment may be correspondingly short. Maybe the question to ask your therapist is what would EMDR potentially offer you? I have PTSD, but in my own treatment I can see that EMDR can be a tool to promote greater...
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