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    Relationship First time post

    Agree 💯 . Lots of red flags. No contact. Get out. Stay out. To the OP….I get the intensity of this. The almost instant connection that you felt. I really do. My PTSD sufferer, who also has Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD), told me he was ‘ALL IN’ (yup, those exact words - your post...
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    How to protect yourself from abusers?

    And I’m the opposite. I have a very clear line with family and friends but with intimate partners it has been murky. I didn’t start out that way. I had very clear boundaries and thoughts on relationships and what I wanted in a partner. Then I married someone who seemed perfect…..and he very...
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    Childhood Can you block things off into different spaces

    I understand your thought process here. I was in therapy for 8 years (1 year on then stopped for 3 years then back on 4 years) before I mentioned my CSA to my therapist. I was in marriage counselling with her (and had individual counselling with her) throughout that time. I wasn’t ready to...
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    Relationship Dating combat vet who ghosted

    No need to apologize. This is meant to be a safe place to vent and to share. To support and be supported. Everyone here has their own unique story. I have learnt a lot from the sufferers and the supporters here. Peace
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    Relationship Dating combat vet who ghosted

    Actually my response is for everyone. To take or leave as they wish.
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    Relationship Dating combat vet who ghosted

    Wow. This is a blast from the past. This is so reminiscent of my philosophy and experience. This is exactly how I behaved when my sufferer ghosted me. The first time. The second time. The third time. The fourth time. The fifth time. The sixth time. It might have even been more than that....I...
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    Coping Strategies - What new hobbies & activities are you doing as part of your healing process?

    I learned to ride and go out on my motorcycle as often as I can. Winter months in the north are tough because I can’t do that. But any activity, especially outdoors, helps me.
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    My ptsd partner left me - now what?

    I think it is amazing that you are reaching out on here. Look up anhedonia. I have no idea if that fits with what is going on or not, but it may be helpful.
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    My ptsd partner left me - now what?

    Hello slewis94. It has been a while since I have been on this forum, but your post caught my eye. I will also apologize for the berevity of my reply, but I did want to praise you for your loyalty and raise some questions for you to mull over. It sounds like you love your sufferer very much...
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    Relationship Chronic break-ups

    When actions and words do not meet up believe the actions. People can suffer from both PTSD and NPD. Unfortunately there are some similar behaviours.....just driven by different things. Ultimately it doesn’t matter because the pain for the ex supporter and partner is the same.....and it is up...
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    Relationship Chronic break-ups

    I always feel a little reluctant to respond to some of these specific questions because there was the added issue of NPD with the sufferer I was with, but I am going to give you my opinion based on my own experience because, after all, that is all we have. Do yourself a favour and go no...
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    What would you choose?

    Find a puddle to splash in Horseback ride or elephant ride?
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    Why do we take the blame?

    Child sexual abuse I remember almost being glad, while it was happening, that it was better that it was me rather than my older sister/another child because I was strong enough to take it. I could push it aside and not let it affect me. I was 5 years old at the time. Several times I put...
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    Relationship Chronic break-ups

    ??Just mentioning it for the OP.....
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    Relationship Chronic break-ups

    Please know that I am coming from a loving place with all of this because I have been there. Everyone’s relationship is different and no one has the right to judge it. We can only talk about our own experiences, and from what we have learnt from our therapists, from this website and from the...
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    Relationship Chronic break-ups

    Sorry, I can’t read all of the posts in detail because it is too triggering, and I haven’t managed to go back on my own post to update it so I can’t just refer you to that. But I just want to mention narcissistic personality disorder and suggest you read up a little about that to see if you see...
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    Relationship What are the hardest parts about a PTSD relationship for you?

    Yes. This. Walking on eggshells to keep the peace. Suppressing my own wants and needs. Dimming my own light and being hesitant to be my authentic self. I learned that if I didn’t this would most often lead to one second being the love of his life and the next he would explode, giving me every...
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    What would you choose?

    Easy. On a horse. Ocean or Lake?
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    What would you choose?

    BOTH! Fine. That’s cheating.....LOVER (maybe this decade). African safari or diving the Great Barrier Reef?
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    Relationship Need to Vent

    I’m sorry that you are going through this. It is such a difficult time of year. Words don’t mean anything when the actions don’t match up. I wish you peace in the New Year.
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    What Song Are You Listening To Right Now?

    I love the acoustic version of’s on YouTube (posted it earlier but can’t remember the date).
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    is it obvious to other people when i am in a dissociative state?

    I agree that, in some cases/people, it would all depend on how observant they are and how well the other person knows the sufferer. It was always clear to me when my sufferer dissociated, but I can tell you no one else had a clue. I wanted to keep it light but also acknowledge that I was...