I’ve been fighting for my marriage for so long. I need help finding a solution.
My husband is struggling very much. He has stopped therapy and is adamant about not doing anything else. He doesn’t work and basically is in bed all day. He feels like I have not been helpful and have in his words...
Wow that is so helpful. I grew up in a very emotionally disconnected family. I’m very uncomfortable with negative emotions and I have begun the work to sit with his trauma and my own. You are right my instinct is to try to fix it.
I have a lot of work to do in this area. Thank you for spelling...
Yes! It seems like the more kind things I say the worse things get. He doesn’t believe them about himself and therefore I’m an idiot if I believe them.
The holidays are super tough. I was shocked that we got through Christmas but this year New Years is the trigger because he is disappointed in...
Yeah, I needed to hear that. I’ve been dealing with this for so many years but occasionally I forget I don’t know why, but I believe him.
Maybe I am hanging onto the fact that if I could just do something different that I could help him and his pain would be gone and this life would be a little...
I’ve never heard it put that way. You’re absolutely right. I know that I can’t fix his mental health. Well cognitively I know that. Emotionally sometimes it’s really hard to remember.
I am blamed so much for so many things. But the thing that hurts the most is that I’m always told that I’m not...
Thank you for sharing this. I’m in a similar boat asking myself what I did wrong. What set him off? Etc. Will I ever exist? I am going to check out that thread.
Am I suppose to sit here and watch the person I share my life with get swallowed into this pit of despair? The constant suicide ideation. Complaining about what he doesn’t have while doing nothing to get it.
I know why he is stuck. I get it and it’s awful. I empathize and sympathize. I guess I...
oh man, the depression and suicide ideation is the toughest. I would love help with that more than anything.
I have no idea after so many years of how to help. I guess that’s why I’m here to see if anybody has any answers in that regard.
I’ve been married for a long time. My partner has CPTSD from childhood trauma.
I can give a book about our history of background, but in an effort to keep this brief, I just have one question. Has anyone successfully been able to support their partner and have their partner feel supported by...