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    I Just Wanted To Say Thankyou

    I have used htis site for a little while now and remain bewildered as to it's layout, systems, language, methods...I find it more stressful to negotiate this and the moderators (even more exclusionary language and acronyms??) that I have decided to call it a day. So thank you to each one of you...
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    Ptsd Forum Network - 2013

    Hi Anthony, just a note, I'm a bit dyslexic and I can't read the lists at the top. I love the forum for the strictness about double spacing, it helps me. I have never managed to read all the instructions. I don't know how to use the site properly and will never be able to do so. On other...
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    News The Lastest News Report On Ptsd Has Me Seeing Red

    I am sorry, I don't seem to make myself clear here: My point is that it is easier to use the word British when you might first think of saying English. historical problems here are still played out with violence. I have a house in Scotland I am too scared to return to. I am Scottish/English with...
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    News The Lastest News Report On Ptsd Has Me Seeing Red

    I am not meaning to be critical. This is emphasized with the smiley. I am making a serious point. If you're not from Britain how are you supposed to know this guy has an Irish accent. I have an English accent and lived in West Scotland for 5 years. We were sworn at regularly. I was frequently...
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    Lets Talk About Sex, Intimacy And Self Image

    Hello Rockyspine, You remind me of my younger self. What can I say. It gets easier and it gets harder. For me, I couldn't recognise an inner self. I just became whoever the person I was with wanted me to be. It's taken a long time to shed myself of the false identity. I used to be very...
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    News The Lastest News Report On Ptsd Has Me Seeing Red

    Just a little side line here. In the original posting you are not sure if the Professor is from England. It is much better to say he is from Britain. The Scotts, Welsh and Irish are understandably upset to be referred to as English or being from England. This Professor has an Irish accent, but...
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    Thinking Of Confronting My Family...

    My situation was not as severe as yours, but there were some similarities. My family refused to believe my ascertations. When I had my own child I established some rules. ( I was told not to be so ridiculous, but insisted it was up to me to decide how ridiculous I wanted to be) When a rule was...
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    Today I Helped Stop A Mugger

    I think it's not the physical pain I find frightening, it's the way the violence makes you think about yourself. So if this guy had hit me, I would have still felt pleased that I'd tried to help the woman. So my identity would be enhanced not shattered. Thank you all for your support.
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    Today I Helped Stop A Mugger

    Thank you. I really am so delighted that I did something like this. When people shout I shrink and run away because I expect to get hit. I know I took my time with this and was aware of my thinking (great leaf excercise in mindfulness therapy). First of all I looked at what was happening. I...
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    Today I Helped Stop A Mugger

    Today out shopping a man mugged a young woman, and a second man chased after him and tackled him to the ground and held him in a headlock. Lots of passer bys stood in a circle. But the two men were struggling and I was worried someone was going to get badly hurt. So I sat on the muggers legs...
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    Thinking Of Confronting My Family...

    Hi Muzikluvr, I wish you only good things from today. You have been so strong. We are all behind you hoping on your behalf when you haven't the strength to hope for yourself. And yes when things are tough its all about your immediate family, x
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    What Do You Make

    Just changed my avatar to show the little bird brooches I make. This is a bit of a new project for me and I'm having such a great time. This week I carved out about 100 clay stamps to make bisque moulds for porcelain jewellery, and I'm going to play with silver pmc: I'm not sure if it'll come...
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    What Do You Make

    They are gorgeous, completely lovely. Makes me want to go get my knitting needles
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    Panic ~fear~exhausted~nervous Energy~

    I'm in a panic as my son has gone off to the theatre in Leeds with his college class (performing arts college), and now I see in the News that a gang of 15 men went on the rempage and attacked 10 students in 7 separate attacks, in Leeds, Last night. My sons class mates are 10 to 1 girls. And I...
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    Sigh.. Boyfriends And Sexting

    Brat, I am fully aware and familiar with the radical feminist approach to domestic abuse that prevails through the Women's Refuge network. I chose to post as I would like to voice an Essentialist Feminist perspective as equally relevant. It is not a case of you needing to explain more fully.
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    Sigh.. Boyfriends And Sexting

    I can't agree with the comment that abusive behaviour benefits all men: It creates a tension between the genders whereby abuse can become expected, and the relationship fails due to the expectation. I will state my position as an essentialist feminist: I do believe there are inherent differences...
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    Sigh.. Boyfriends And Sexting

    I am writing this to show the huge variety of responses to your situation: I find writing helps, perhaps you could write a letter to him...starting off assuming that you won't actually send it, so that gives you the possibility to be completely honest. I actually think people can change their...
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    Sigh.. Boyfriends And Sexting

    That might be where the ptsd comes in...I wouldn't manage to confront him as I would expect to get hit. But yes, such behaviour is incredibly hurtful.
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    Sigh.. Boyfriends And Sexting

    Oh how horrible for you. I wish I was able to tell you what to do to make everything right, but I don't. I'm so sorry.
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    Lets Talk About Sex, Intimacy And Self Image

    ((Burke)), Not knowing what you have been through, I hope I don't say the wrong thing, but I would like to say how my life is changing. I work as an artist renting studio space in a building which enables disabled artists. It was expected initially that most tenanst would have physical...
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    Cutting Off Family

    I avoid Christmas by working at the homelessness project, always a good atmosphere, feel-good factor and yippee... no family !!
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    Lets Talk About Sex, Intimacy And Self Image

    (((Lizio))) Now, I know this isn't my normal take on things, but I think there are some fabulous men out there! It's just a case of finding them, then managing to fall in love with him and for him to fall in love with you, and then the sex would be great! Not too much to ask surely? I'm pretty...
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    Uk Nhs Therapy

    mmm, it's very sad, the 'going around in circles' and 'hitting your head against a brick wall' required before you find the therapy you need. I do wonder if there are loads of people training as Doctors, because their parents are Doctors and it's expected, but not actually appropriate to the...
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