Welcome Farine,
This is a great place full of supportive people and information. I am glad you have found us here.
I look forward to seeing you around--posting away.
Take (self) care.
Lily
Absolutely, I too was in an abusive relationship...one that almost ended my life in 2003. I went through a 3 month period of agoraphobia. I felt alone, underserved by the justice system, and out of control. My family was not very supportive--I'd lost all of my friends too. It didn't help that...
Happy Belated!!
Don't mind the meltdown, amethyst, its your party and you'll cry if you want to. LOL- all jokes aside---My birthday wish for you is all the happiness your heart can take.
Lily
Millicentcat,
Welcome to the forum. Yes, I've been there. Most of us have. I am glad you found this site as well. It is terrible to feel alone. Just remember that you aren't alone----we are here for support--for ourselves and to support others. I found this site 2 years ago and just recently...
sandboxvet,
Although our traumas are not the same, everyone here can tell you most of the symptoms are. So in that aspect, there is a deep understanding of what PTSD does to our minds, our relationships, our careers...... Welcome to the forum.
FL
Welcome to the forum. You are right, PTSD is very selfish. I understand the worry about the perceptions of others. We are all afraid of being judged and of being labeled as damaged, weak, and sub par in the careers/life we've chosen. I am glad you have found this place and hope you find it...
Hi Jenna,
Welcome. I am glad you found us here.
There is no deadline in getting better. We all heal at our own pace- never let anyone tell you any different. Jen is right. This is a great place to start in sharing what you are comfortable sharing. The first post is always the hardest...
Welcome to the forum.
What you think are healed wounds, may just be bandaged. Therapy has a way of making repressed emotions/ issues surface - so that we can rationalize, process, and truly heal. I am glad you made the decision to go to therapy. It takes time and effort, so do the work and you...
Jenny is right about her comment about post partum depression and hormone levels trying to "level out". Please take care of yourself. Let your DR know what you are experiencing, perhaps he/she will have some answers.
FL
She Cat is right... I have to question why your reports of what is going on (or not going on) at home is being ignored. IF he isn't being honest with his DR, then their medical relationship is NOT effective and is probably counterproductive. I can't believe she told you to mind your own...
Dear Boxers,
Please read as much as possible here. I am glad you have found this place and are being proactive in gaining "yourself" back.
Best regards,
FL
I have been gone for a while and I'm glad this is still being read. UPDATE: This truly has worked for us. We are finally engaged and I can actually say- we have a functional relationship that I look forward to for years to come.
Hi blarneystone,
I too have had extreme bouts of escapism over the years. There are times I've actually packed my bags to leave, hell, I've even packed the whole house (a couple of times)... not necessarily to leave the kids, but (at the time- I felt) a very unsupportive uncaring partner...
I voted yes. I too suffer from the defensive "B" mode especially when I'm feeling backed into a corner or when I percieve someone trying to take advantage of me or getting over on me. I suppose it is part of the hypervigilance aspect of the illness.
I voted "depends". Prior to trauma, I watched disaster and fantasy movies. Now I am drawn to war movies. don't know why but I suppose I could be dealing with my stuff in a "removed" way.
I've heard this a dozen times. I think it is the most deplorable, most insensitive thing a person can say. Some people just get off by being mean.
I've heard "well, your should have done this... or done that" about my trauma. It's kind of like saying, I deserved it because I didn't do this...
I've heard the "ancient soul" one too. Must be because I've become a master of analyzing situations and predicting possible outcomes....
The "strong" comment gets to me too, but I never let them know. I'd rather I seem strong,despite it being a lie, than to be seen as a weak target.
I am very familiar with the military culture. When my parents where going through their tough period, and Dad came to me, I told him; "Think of her as a fellow soldier, not a subordinate but someone with equal rank especially when issues arise." In parenting, this is also important, as you...