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    Social Worker Suggested In-patient Treatment. I Am Freaking The Frag Out

    Take it easy with all this. It's great you've engaged in finding a qualified person/s to help, but at it's best recovery is a controlled journey, your body acts as your own inhibitor when things get too much. A good therapist will respect this and get you to respect it also.
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    Social Worker Suggested In-patient Treatment. I Am Freaking The Frag Out

    Manor Hall Centre for Trauma, Scotland. Funding depends on your local NHS. It's trauma specific and up to date on it's treatment methods. Pretty pioneering really. The therapeutic staff work as advocates for survivors in and educators of the justice system and publish studies to progress the...
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    Social Worker Suggested In-patient Treatment. I Am Freaking The Frag Out

    Why don't you ask her where it is she's thinking of? Not all in-patient treatment centres are what you imagine. Get the facts before you 'freak c'est chic' about what you may or may not be being offered. The only reason I say is that I've been for treatment at a place that is opening as a...
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    How Do I Cover Up My Weekly T Appointment At New Job?

    I've been in a similar situation. Just say you have a fixed appointment on a Monday. You will of course work your expected hours per work and more if necessary but not at that time. You don't have to justify it, or elaborate. If they push you and you feel you must just say it's a medical...
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    Unfamiliar With This Feeling

    Try not to freak out, it is very common and in fact natural in these perverse circumstances. I know it feels dangerous, in the sense that, relinquishing control to somebody so traumatised would be. And you say your not ready, well I don't think anyone who goes through this would say at the time...
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    Other Is Not Telling The Same As Lying?

    I think the fact the your husband is in law enforcement changes the social media/internet issue. It's understandable that he needs peace of mind about his own and his families safety if he's dealing with pretty unpleasant people who may bare a grudge.
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    Other Is Not Telling The Same As Lying?

    I wouldn't take FridayJones' comment too personally to heart. You have been honest about your past trauma, which is more courageous than a lot of women are with their husbands. You respected him and your marriage enough to be honest. The fact is that you can't flay yourself alive with...
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    Other Is Not Telling The Same As Lying?

    From your original post it seems that you can't bring yourself to tell your husband how your past trauma still affects you of your own volition. Then when the pressure gets too much and you breakdown and you have to tell him, his reponse does not exactly inspire confidence and security. You...
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    Other Is Not Telling The Same As Lying?

    I think not telling about a forum is not really an issue, compared to say what my mother did, marrying someone and not telling him about her abuse by my father in a previous marriage. That is one BIG omission. I'm sorry that you husband didn't react how you need him too. I think that if it was...
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    A Question For The Community

    And no, I don't post here very often anymore. :)
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    A Question For The Community

    I think there are watershed moments, significant shifts that allow you to get a step closer to acceptance of the pain. I don't necessarily want to pin point hear those milestones. I've never attempted to write all of them down and they stretch over a long period. However, I think that yes, you...
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    A Question For The Community

    I wish I could say I had some control over it, but I didn't, it was out of my hands really. You don't choose to run, you have to and you keep doing it until you can't take it anymore. When I burnt out, I effectively regressed into who I was hiding, a very afraid, traumatised child. And I had to...
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    A Question For The Community

    Yep, that's the one. Thanks for finding it and posting the link. :)
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    A Question For The Community

    I consider myself recovered. I've had ptsd since 1999. It's only in the last few years that I've made the most significant steps. Those steps were the exavt opposite of creating distance. I moved 100's of miles away from my home town in 1999, it didn't cure my condition, you past does not stay...
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    Dealing With My Mother

    I say blow your top. Your both grown ups. You have a right to defend your opinion. Respecting your elders doesn't really come into it.
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    What The...

    I don't think you handled it badly. Righteous indignation seems totally appropriate. Frankly it's a press worthy story. I'm glad you blew your top with that Lt. Govenor, someone needs to shake them up.
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    Sex Therapy

    Exactly...forcing yourself to do something you afraid of, doesn't actually stop you being afraid. It's not like you see on TV when someone who is scared of spiders does exposure therapy. You've been raped and the idea that 'exposure' therapy in this context will prove you are better, is the very...
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    Sex Therapy

    oh and the thing about boundaries....When you set a boundary, you are by definition giving something away about yourself. You have to state that you don't like or want something and by definition you expose the fact you have a problem with it. By saying you have a problem with intimacy, you...
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    Sex Therapy

    I don't want to come across as obstructive but what you wrote struck something in me and I just wanted to chip in with it, as something to consider. There is a difference between genuine intimacy with a person and sex. Physical intimacy comes from emotional trust, intellectual intimacy. In the...
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    Moving Out But Scared To Tell My Landlord

    Give yourself a minute to relax and move and get settled. It's a big deal what you just did. I'm sure with your determination to make things better for yourself that the job situation will come. :tup::tup::)
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    Moving Out But Scared To Tell My Landlord

    Yes! You did it! So it's going to be awkward for two weeks, so what! Like you said you regretted it as soon as you moved in, so what's another fortnight! And that's an amazing piece of organisation under stress. So glad you found a new place to move too so quickly. I bet the time will fly by...
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    Moving Out But Scared To Tell My Landlord

    How did it go? Have you had to get it done yet? The man sounds thoroughly unpleasant and you're obviously pretty nervous about him. You will get out of this situation and it will be a massive relief when you do. I'd use the environmental conditions angle too, like Richter said...it's affecting...
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    Service dog in a house with a beloved cat?

    Perhaps your kitty could write down a list of pet peeves and your could submit to your pooch for negotiation? :D
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    Duty Of Care

    You say you don't feel hungry and you forget to eat. I understand that. If your anxious and caught it dissociative states for long periods, then food doesn't enter your head because hunger doesn't register. You have to make sure you don't get weak though. If your tired all the time and you don't...
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    Other Looking for book recommendations on torture recovery

    An interesting and awe inspiring guy, that Viktor. I've not read his work but looked at summaries of his research areas and what he contributed to the field, Good recommendation I reckon.
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