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  1. rightkindofme

    Parenting and schooling

    I decided when I was 17 that I wanted to home school my future children. I went to college, got a teaching credential, went through a masters program and then taught in public schools for years. I have been a lead teacher or assistant teacher at every level from preschool through basic...
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    Friendships

    I lived in one area more on than off for 30 years. In that time I was super outgoing about building friendships and I carried the load with many dozens of people. My Christmas card list was just shy of 100 people long and that's because I limited it to people I had seen in person in the last...
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    Nonomonogamy

    I am not going to get specific, because this isn't the forum for that. But I was wondering if other people here had experience with not being able to stay monogamous. Everything in my life is on the up and up. I don't lie. But I have conflicting feelings about what my behavior means about my...
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    Unconscious Hitting

    Maybe unconscious isn't the right word. Dissociated? Unaware? Oblivious? The other night my husband and I were in a martial arts class and at one point I was a complete jerk and I smacked his head. It wasn't part of the drill. I was being a show off jerk because I was proving I could get around...
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    Tui Na As A Form Of Physical Therapy

    I really thought about where to put this. It didn't quite seem "discussion" or "social" to me. I'm asking about a therapeutic modality. I'm not sure if this forum is meant to be rigidly for talk therapy. I saw an acupuncturist today who suggested Tui Na. I'm reading random websites but I was...
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    Holy Moly I Got A Troll To Apologize

    I was on Twitter, talking to a gal I know. It was bonding over trauma stuff. Like you do. Troll dude started being... not so nice. Dismissive. Implying that "microaggressions" were the limits of what had happened to us. I got real blunt. Dropped a few vicious details about my history. He...
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    Lost An Axel, Didn't Freak Out!

    So I'm on this epic road trip across the United States with my 4 year old and 7 year old children. We are camping on a trailer in a tent. The trailer lost the axel. As in... it fell off. When I got it into a parking space there was one bolt left on the springs holding the axel to the trailer. I...
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    Trip Is Going Well!

    We started out in California, went to Oregon and then Washington. Backtracked through Oregon on the way to Idaho then Utah. From Utah we briefly touched Idaho then went through Wyoming, Montana, and South Dakota. Now we are in Minnesota. I am learning so much about my country! The weather is...
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    Communication Problems

    My husband is autistic. He misses subtle little cues. Mostly I handle this by responding to things with all the subtlety of an anvil to the head. He's thrilled that I will pretty much write scripts for him to follow to be supportive. But right now he feels like he is drowning and not getting...
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    Privilege And Self-worth And Changes

    This is going to sound really weird and some people are probably going to think, "Poor little rich girl, shut up." I can live with that. With that introduction, I am currently really financially privileged. This is weird for me. I grew up very poor. I have a lot of poor-people habits. I appear...
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    Felt Proud Of Myself.

    I'm having some interpersonal issues with someone in my life. The full circumstance isn't important. My therapist wanted to delve deep into defending the other persons point of view. Given that I've already spent a lot of hours writing about their point of view on my blog I was cranky about...
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    Road Trip Progress

    I am going on a 160 day road trip with my kids. My kids will be 7 and turning 5 on the trip. I'm more than a little crazy for doing this, but it will be wonderful. At this point I have arranged reservations for 128 out of the 160 days. That feels really exciting!! We leave in 11 weeks and 6...
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    Childhood Many Boundary Violations In A Short Period Of Time

    I don't know about other people, but I find that I tend to have the same kind of problem over and over for a while. It's like the universe decides, "How about if you deal with the same issue on repeat seventeen times in a week? Will that be fun?" Lately the issue is physical boundaries with...
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    Great Conference This Weekend

    I took my kids to a writing conference this weekend because they had child care. It's been magical. I am talking to smart people about neat books! I'm talking to other writers about our systems and tweaks and things that help! It's so fun. Yesterday I moderated a panel on overcoming...
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    Childhood, Coping Skills, When You Are Traumatized

    I have the... perhaps pessimistic belief that everyone will see some trauma in their lives. Not everyone ends up with PTSD. People who do end up with PTSD do so for a lot of different reasons, some of them genetic. I have a long family history of lots of mental health problems which leads me to...
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    Hitting The Road.

    Starting in June I'm taking off with my kids. I'm running away from my life. I feel very weird about this, but I've been talking about it for years. No spontaneity here. We are starting in northern California and turning east first. I have a friend in Salt Lake City; he was my best friend in...
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    Medical Big Problems With Doctor.

    I have been having major issues with a large HMO in the US. (That means a managed health care system as opposed to me being able to see any doctor I want while paying everyone individually.) My general practitioner had to give me every referral and he was not real willing to do so. He would...
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    Ready To Start The Rejection Process!

    I am very excited. My second book is done and my editor had several suggestions of publishing houses I should start with. Eep! This book might actually hit a wider audience! Eep! I expect to be rejected by 50 publishing houses. I have to expect that or I would cry and quit after 5. Oh man. I'm...
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    Rapist Is Semi-famous

    I put this in education because this is coming up through my home school community. I wasn't sure where else it might go. I'm a parent. I home school my kids. I'm very active in that community. A mailing list for my general area that I am not all that active on has recently had an announcement...
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    You Have To Take Something.

    I had a very hard conversation with my therapist today. I've been weaning off of pot for the last month. I have gone from being a pretty heavy stoner to having a pill every other day. I wish I didn't need meds at all. I would like to be just sober. But at this lower dosage I have terrible...
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    Working On Second Book

    I'm writing my second book. I'm probably 10,000 or so words in and I'm feeling very anxious because I know that this book needs to be pretty short and I am going to have to do a lot of cutting. Editing is the hardest part of writing. Which words actually detract from my overall meaning. AHHHHHHH...
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    Public Apology

    I need validation. I need validation more than I need to breathe. Sometimes this leads me to making decisions that work out and sometimes not so much. Eight months ago I went to someone I have known for 13 years in the bdsm community and asked him to write up a public apology talking about the...
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    Finishing A Mural

    I have been painting a mural all month. I am 45 hours in. (I have had ~5.5 hours of help from other people. Some of which I need to go paint over today because they did a horrible job. Ha.) It's a cool mural. My neighbors are driving by and saying thank you. It feels like my whole neighborhood...
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    About To Go Talk To A Long-term Acquaintance.

    All stories in my life about people are complicated. When I was 18 I got involved in the bdsm community. I met a lot of people through there. In that time and in that place I accepted a lot of behavior that was really inappropriate because I thought it was required in order to gain admittance to...
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    Post-wedding Drop.

    I officiated a wedding today. I used to be a high school teacher and the bride and groom were my students. We bonded. That's why I picked the "relationships" section. I am told I did well. I spoke passionately and with conviction and love. I was upbeat and positive for most of the reception. I...
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