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    General Help Me to Understand This One - Husband Wants Divorce

    Hi It's been awhile since I posted...things were good annd Yeah it's over...only it's not. Anyway, I looked in this AM and read the post from Dazednconfused...and I felt like giving her a huge hug. You sound in such pain. I happen to agree with Andrea42..Start saving yourself and your...
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    Who is The Voice of PTSD in the USA?

    Hi Scarlette..I think THIS may be the voice of PTSD. In NY they talk about it because it seems like the entire CITY got it on 9/11. But my husband has lost some friends and his job because of the culture of denial ..."Hey Sylvester Stallone never got PTSD and he went through alot in all his...
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    General Is PTSD Permanent?

    Hi Trish...My husband has PTSD but other medical problems as well. He gets disability for it. You should check into it...We're in NY so things might be different in other places. Right now we are planning a vacation. Everything has been paid for and I laid out all the plans....and I have my...
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    General Coming Out - Telling The Families About The Problems!

    Hi Manhattan...It sounds like you are going to dive into the deep end of the pool...The military and PTSD...wow. But what do you mean that he is pushing you away hard? Dealing with this can be so heartbreaking...read the other wives posts.... Are you in the military, too? Speaking for myself..I...
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    General Where Do I Fit?!

    Andrea...of all the posts I've read yours really hit home. I go through the same feeings when my husbands PTSD flares up. Helpless, lost and wondering if I'll ever see the man I married again...I've wanted to leave...I've wondered if I would be better off alone...But it passes and there he is...
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    Acceptance or Defeat? You decide.

    Hi Cd Bunny..What a story...What you went through...I had tears in my eyes as I read about your ordeal. Congrats on coming through the other side of it...Be well.
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    General Is PTSD Permanent?

    Hi Jen...I know what you mean about being stuck with it...not to mention the changes in the person you love. Timing Shopping is one thing. It also means we don't make many long term plans. Our social life is curtailed, by necessity ...But you have to fight for yourself too. don't get lost in...
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    General Boyfriend is an Iraq vet

    Hi Katie...My husband has PTSD and I know how frightening it can be to not know how to comfort or calm. I spent four years saying "snap out of it" or variations on that...until I realized that all the questions and asking was making it all worse and causing him even more pain. He still hasn't...
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    General Spouse Introduction - Veil's Hubby

    Hi Johnny, I'm real new, too. I hope to get my husband reading the posts too. I think the knowledge that others are going through the same thing will help. How did Veil get you to sit down and read?
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    General Coming Out - Telling The Families About The Problems!

    Hi Thank you all. Kerri-Ann that part about friends dissapearing is so true. My husband lost some of his oldest friends who couldn't deal with the changes in him...It didn't help that the goverment was saying everything was fine...and he was telling everyone he had glass in his lungs.The...
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    General Why Won't the PTSD Sufferer Get Help?

    Veiled....I'd like the name of that book. Was it Feeling Good? Nam: What you said was EXACTLY what he said last night. He told me he died when he was buried at the WTC. I think my acceptance lately is helping. I thought if we accepted it, he would never get "better"....Now I think accepting it...
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    General Why Won't the PTSD Sufferer Get Help?

    Hi everyone I just peeked in...I've been wondering the same thing about getting help. I just spoke to my husband and asked him if he thought that this was it for him for the rest of his life? Wasn't it worth trying again to get some help? ...We've been down so many dead ends in the last five...
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    General Coming Out - Telling The Families About The Problems!

    Hi Andrea42- Thanks for your response. Yesterday I sent a group email to my family telling them what's been going on. (I think they thought he was just getting "weird") There was a flood of supportive emails from the women in my family. My nieces in their 30's were especially wonderful. My...
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    General Coming Out - Telling The Families About The Problems!

    Does anyone have trouble telling your families about your spouses problems? I have only 1 brother and his family...Our parents are dead. My brother is very hearty he went through Viet Nam apparently with no after effects. He absolutley can not relate to my husband's problems...so I just cover it...
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    General You Try To Be Nice... What Do Other Spouses Do?

    Kerri Ann...I can relate..we moved while my husbands mother was in the middle of dying and he was starting a new job ...and working nights....On the day of the move he kind of flipped out and the moving men said "lady, I don't know how you handle this" Sympathy from the moving men..Sometime you...
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    General Anthony & Anyone Else... - Viewing PTSD

    What if? What if your spouses dr's wont talk to you. My husband has a wonderful DO that diagnosed him and really managed to help him But when Mike really lost it and I called for help he said he couldn't talk to me because of confidentiality....I was frantic last weekend for some help he wasn't...
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    General I am Making His Life a Living Hell!!

    Another wife's view.. Hi Andrea42...... I read all those posts from you and I could have written them myself. I've been on Zoloft for almost a year. It does help me alot. It helps me to be able to ride the roller coaster my husband is on since 9/11. This month has been the worst. There is no...
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    9/11 Wife - Husband Hurt in WTC Disaster

    Thanks so much for the welcome. I'm still reading everyone's post to get a feel of the boards...Like I said I'm new to this. We just passed the anniversary of 9/11 and my husband had a very rough time...Hyper anxiety, no sleep strange behavior (he shook talcum powder all over the bathroom to...
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    9/11 Wife - Husband Hurt in WTC Disaster

    I'm still real new and nervous but a friend suggested I try to get some online support. My husband was hurt at the WTC when the first tower collapsed. He is still gentle and sweet but he has gone from being a little quirky to really eccentric. He is reclusive and nervous and obsessed..It's hard-...
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    Poking Head in to Give Shy Greetings

    Hi...I'm a little nervous about this. We just passed the anniversary of 9/11. My husband was working as a newspaper photographer that day and he called to say he was going to the WTC. He was caught in the collapse of the first tower and went from being a fun loving surfer /photographer to being...
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