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  1. Mach123

    Photography Club

    First time this year barefoot. I got lucky when I took this I couldn’t see the camera in the sun.
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    Sexual Assault Can pedophiles become non-pedophiles?

    In therapy I learned that trauma survivors often re create the experience. I have at different times thought my whole life was a sort of re living it. I have a mechanistic view. We are all programmed to a certain extent . Maybe the robots will be less encumbered. No one really knows how it...
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    Relationship What would happen if I just went home?

    All’s fair in love and war. I’ve been up and down in these things and none of it was really what I’d call a lot of fun. Watch your back and hope for the best while expecting the worst that’s my advice. Getting picked up on the rebound always made me feel better immediately but it didn’t...
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    Dealing with unavoidable exposure to triggers - cycles of facing them/ dissociation and dysregulation/ avoidance, ad nauseum...

    I do the same except I try to look at each thing as realistically as possible and see what can I do about it. You said isn’t there a better way? Always. But the way you are doing has gotten you this far . When avoidance fails this is how I parse my thinking . Sifting always . Look for the...
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    What Did You Eat And Drink Last?

    Weekends are for doughnuts
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    Is ‘You’ll know when it’s the right time to end therapy’ just a big myth? (And how do I unattach from my therapist to end therapy?!)

    Good luck I let mine go awhile back. I don’t like not having that but looking for one is just not really? It’s just another thing that’s not getting done right now. But I can’t talk to anyone else at that level and I need that. There are lots of things that are therapist only. So quitting...
  7. Mach123

    Gardening

    I have some experience with rats but unfortunately for you there are not many nice or easy ways. The rats are intelligent and tenacious. If they are eating and warm and dry they will tend to stay. The professionals use bait stations here. Although they frequent the neighborhood and all our...
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    When Is Your Personal New Years?

    No but I’m happy. It’s easier. Since I have a Christian Hindu world view lol, they say the same thing. Don’t want anything, that’s the highest state. I’m getting better at it. Partly because I like you am older than those other parts of life. So I’ve been telling myself get used to it ...
  9. Mach123

    Gardening

    My Christmas cactus cuttings are rooting there are little white roots. I’m always trying to root everything with only limited success. I was surprised!
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    Therapist didn't show and I may be done

    I think you’re controlling yourself and handling it remarkably well. Things do go wrong and people make mistakes but I think therapy appointments have to be held to a higher standard. Good luck with whatever you decide but you’re doing great IMO.
  11. Mach123

    Photography Club

    The tree before and after, the windstorm and the potpourri. The tree got more fragrant with my putting on the lights and the needles did well because it’s live cut . Heating the pine needles in water on the stove worked well. Very fragrant. We do the decorations later we used to do it all...
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    Current Weather

    Massive wind storm overnight and during the day combined with very heavy rain. Power including street lights out in different places and trees blown down and on wires everywhere so roads closed. I took advantage on the way home and collected pine branches of the type I know to be very...
  13. Mach123

    Gardening

    Now it’s indoor garden 🪴 season. At bjs the other day i just couldn’t resist a Christmas cactus and a small poinsettia. I just had to rescue the latter. My wife, who got both as anniversary presents, is hell on plants. She has the opposite of a green thumb, whatever that is. So I had to...
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    Current Weather

    We got a dusting of snow overnight and I got the outside Christmas lights up yesterday just in time.
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    Feeling trapped in a life filled with ongoing adversity

    Hi I read your post and yes I understand. I’m actually working with one of my adult children currently to sort of help or be an adjunct therapist . Because I’m not depressed anymore or at least nothing like I was . I don’t know if I can be helpful with this but I’d like to try because I feel...
  16. Mach123

    Gardening

    Everything is done, it all came out of the compost bin, and now it’s all back in there. As I was pulling the wild flowers out in the front yard I had to pick a few that were still hanging on.
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    A set back - I should not drink when focusing on getting my mental health right.

    I wished I hadn’t ever used alcohol as medicine which in retrospect was all I ever did . Unfortunately like with most people in spite of them not being able to admit it, your servant tends to become your master . Whenever anyone says if you had it to do all over not drinking is always near the...
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    Seperated, but struggling to talk to my partner about what to do with our house

    Never getting divorced now after almost 34 years for just this reason. Too expensive! The lawyers take the money or way too much of it . Good luck anyway I hope you get out of it ok.
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    Gardening

    So I guess these are all cosmos in the front. I thought they were 2 different plants. All have reached 6 feet and higher. They came from a $10 bag of wildflower seeds I got at Lowe’s. The less feathery ones are trying to bloom now it’s quite a different flower. They are putting on a real...
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    I'm a horrible human being...

    I’ve been reading your stuff for years and you aren’t a horrible person. I wish you could get some help though. I’m in the states and I have to say I have gotten a lot of help. But I took advantage of it I hope and I tried to work hard at it out of gratitude . I feel bad if people who need...
  22. Mach123

    Gardening

    About 30 from 6 plants some of considerable size.
  23. Mach123

    Gardening

    I’m wanting to close the garden out but everything keeps growing and pumping out flowers. It’s been cold but not a real frost yet.
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    Gardening

  25. Mach123

    I've been in bed all week

    I’ve been in bed all year. It happened slowly. I don’t panic about it because with my age and health I can make a fair case (to whom)? I have a job. I almost never say that because my wife spent so much time convincing me I didn’t. The people who tell me I don’t (have a job) are like I was...
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