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    I slept with my therapist, now what?

    @Valley yes I completely understand why you went back. You have to do this on your terms. I remember a switch in me and I became angry that a person who was supposed to help me would hurt me even more. Especially this person who knew all my hurts, the fact that she would do this made me think...
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    I slept with my therapist, now what?

    @Valley you say you didn’t experience transference in therapy but say you had immediate attraction; that is erotic transference. Everything you said I felt. The jealousy the attraction, I didn’t understand it but there was this pull towards her. I believe this is all because you felt rejected by...
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    I slept with my therapist, now what?

    @Valley i know exactly how you are feeling. I felt the same way about her. I was in love and I am happily married and never interested in women. It was erotic transference not feelings for her! Please realize that. It was torture for me and I understand and see the torture you are dealing with...
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    I slept with my therapist, now what?

    @Valley i understand how you are feeling, I was in the exact same spot last year. I felt I couldn’t live without her but in reality looking back now I wasn’t living with her. I was always trying to make her happy, impress her do whatever she wanted. It was not me and made me feel worse about...
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    I slept with my therapist, now what?

    @Valley lets find another way to talk. I’m not sure of the best way but I totally understand what you are going through. It was the most painful and confusing thing that I have had to go through! I cut off ties completely with her blocking her in everything and everyone we knew mutually, I...
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    I slept with my therapist, now what?

    @Valley im sorry that you are going through something similar, it’s awful to hear others issues with therapists. It is such a betrayal of trust that should never happen. The abuse that we have suffered from that causes us to need therapists in the first place is enough to deal with. Do you need...
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    I slept with my therapist, now what?

    @Muted i am so proud of you too! What you did is very hard! I agree with @osiris and getting another therapist! Without my new therapist I never could have done what I did. She has helped me understand what happened was wrong and that it wasn’t my fault. That this therapist took advantage. At...
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    I slept with my therapist, now what?

    Thank you @osiris and @somerandomguy i appreciate your thoughts but I’m okay now. I have worked to see that it wasn’t my fault and I was taken advantage of. It still bothers me that there are people out there in this world that do these things. I am more concerned about @Muted right now. I am...
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    I slept with my therapist, now what?

    I also should say and I didn’t admit to it on the other post. We had two sexual encounters. She was a massage therapist in the past and she told me she could help me with my trauma by giving me a massage and releasing the trauma from my body. At first I said okay and she took me to her bedroom...
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    I slept with my therapist, now what?

    @Muted i was the person that posted that thread was-my-therapist-now-my-best-friend. I have been following this post and I wanted to tell you I have been exactly where you are now. We were both female and I was never attracted to females. I am married and have 3 children. I couldn’t understand...
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    Was my therapist now my best friend

    Thank you @hithere. I do feel the freedom! I can tell you understand by the comments you are making. I do feel foolish by what happened and the fact that it took me so long to see it, listen to others and do something about it but I am trying to understand the dynamics of what happened and learn...
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    Was my therapist now my best friend

    I don’t plan on contacting her again. I am all done! And I have not thought about what to do if she contacts me. I guess I would listen to her bc I don’t want to be rude but I don’t think we can move past what I said to her. She is pretty narcissistic and didn’t know I told anyone so I think...
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    Was my therapist now my best friend

    Thank you @Justmehere and @littleoc! This took a lot of work but I did it. I feel good overall. I needed to do this for myself. I am just upset with myself for allowing this to happen and I’m also upset that people like this exist. I’m a work in progress......
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    Was my therapist now my best friend

    Just an update. I have not seen her for a while then heard from her again wanting to talk. Then she would make me wait weeks until she had a few moments then I would wait weeks again. It was a power play I felt. Well, yesterday I wrote this to her and I’m done. I also blocked her on all social...
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    Was my therapist now my best friend

    @hithere im sorry that you had to and are going through this! I totally understand how you are feeling. I am the same way I feel like death but making it through the days. It’s so frustrating not to be able to get it out if your mind!. I am rooting for you too!
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    Was my therapist now my best friend

    @Justmehere thanks for the support! It does really hurt more now that I can see how it all played out. I feel so used. And everything she said just hurts more because now I know it was a lie. I’m sorry you had to deal with a wonky therapist too. It’s sad that you have to worry about that when...
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    Was my therapist now my best friend

    Well, it has happened we have not seen each other in a few months and I have not talked or texted with her in a few weeks. I’m seeing everything more clearly but I feel awful. She just blew me off when I wanted to talk to her about how i felt. I feel like everything she said was a lie. Then...
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    Was my therapist now my best friend

    @wishforescape everything you said rings true to me. I think if she was always mean this would be easier. There is always hope it can go back to the way it was at the beginning. Plus bc I was the patient I always feel maybe it’s me maybe I am just overreacting. I am working on my childhood...
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    Was my therapist now my best friend

    We have still been messaging. I have not been able to tell her not to message me. I have not seen her though. I still think about her all the time but it is more just feeling so hurt and used. I wish I could just not think about her. It’s still a work in progress. Thanks for checking in.
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    Was my therapist now my best friend

    @Scarlet13 it’s good to hear that you are better able to listen and accept your thoughts as valid. Everything you said is true it’s codependent, I’ve lost my sense of self, I don’t want to hurt her and I don’t want to make a mistake. I am trying to listen and believe myself. @hithere thanks...
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    Was my therapist now my best friend

    @Scarlet13 yes I have been struggling with this relationship since the beginning and that is so frustrating. I do talk about this with my new therapist and at the beginning she was trying to be supportive and wasn’t telling me how bad the relationship was for me. For the last year since things...
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    Was my therapist now my best friend

    @Scarlet13 just wow! First of all I’m sorry to hear about your abuse and your neglectful relationship with your mother. Sometimes I feel that was more harmful than the abuse. My mother was unavailable and ignored so many signs. That’s so hurtful. I know what you say makes sense. It’s...
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    Was my therapist now my best friend

    @hithere i completely understand your regrets. I worry that I will have some of the same but it is so helpful to hear that you feel the benefits outweigh the regrets. It also makes sense that it is the attachment of my younger self that feels the pain. That makes sense. Thank you for your response!
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    Was my therapist now my best friend

    @hithere im so sorry you are still dealing with the aftermath of this relationship. I totally understand everything you said because i feel or felt th same things. Hearing that you still regret leaving honestly scares me. That’s my worry. Both your ideas are ones I will consider. I can’t tell...
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    Was my therapist now my best friend

    @Sideways thats a good idea to say I need space and to keep it vague I will use that. @scout86 i am not good at sticking up for myself at all. Usually I question whether I am reading the situation right and I usually then give the person the benefit of the doubt. I have been trying more and...
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