So the solicitor is sending a letter to tell him not to make any further contact with me. He wrote that I was a nasty venomous liar and that I won't be getting away with disclosing the abuse. I am OK but his words knocked me initially. I know I'm right though about my memories, and the letter...
I'm not sure if this is the right place to put this but I have received a threat this week from my abuser. He has basically said I'm not going to get away with having disclosed to another relative about what he done.
I am uncertain who to tell and what to do now. I told my solicitor and am due...
Thanks @littleoc and @Still Standing :)
This is definitely the right thing I have done. I also have been watching a man on YouTube whose parents abused him and he explains narcissistic people and going no contact so well. It is good because he says we can pull through it, he is living proof...
Kind of doing OK, sleeping tonnes and unsure if it's because I'm calmer? Or if it's all the stress catching up on me. Or both?
Not been contacted and I'm happy about it. Lawyer has a good plan in place for if they do contact again and that makes me feel good.
Been keeping up the self care too...
Thanks Berlinda, yes, definitely closer, they were practically joined at the hip many years ago, I had thought their relationship was not so close anymore. I think it is too hard to hear about the abuse. I have made it clear if he harasses me then I will be contacting the police, then he said...
Definitely, and especially now because yesterday their sibling I disclosed to emailed me and now says that I must be confused about my own memories. They have threatened me, given me an ultimatum of two weeks to confront my abuser. I told them they are gaslighting me and that I am not confused...
Thanks @littleoc
I spoke to my abusers sibling earlier, initially it was only to find out if they still would want to keep in touch with me. When they said yes, I just... I broke down in tears and told them about the abuse. They were shocked but quite supportive, kept on asking me if I was OK...
Thanks everyone. I'm so glad I done it. I had been dreading future get togethers with my abuser and now I don't have to worry about seeing them again. Somehow my home feels safe again, I'm a bit calmer. I hadn't realized how stressed I had been being in contact with them. This is one of the most...
I discovered this year that I can't cope with fireworks anymore, honestly, my heart was racing so bad. I will likely order a takeaway? And go to sleep, I'm lucky that where I live, it shouldn't be too noisy.
Thank you all for your words of advice and support. I emailed them yesterday. It was short, I just told them I want no further contact with them. I thought about saying it was for my own mental well-being but I wanted to keep it short. An hour later I did get bombarded with them telling me that...
I feel it is time for me to start a diary. There's a lot that I need to deal with now. One of the most important things is to cut contact with someone who abused me when I was a child. My therapist said what I should do is send them a text or email and just say that I don't want anymore contact...