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    News Us politics - read first post before comment

    Umm. Sorry but ms Sanders was not correct. She often is not correct. Taking the children from their parents is not a law it is a new policy announced by Jeff Sessions as such, intended according to Sessions to deter people from crossing the border illegally or from requesting asylum which is...
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    What does it mean to be a good person?

    My answer is similar to the one right before mine. I am a person. I accept my dark side and boy do I have a dark side...but I do my best not to act on the impulses born in the dark or to even entertain and obsess on them. If i ignore the selfish or mean spirited side of me it will have more...
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    What's your weirdest ptsd tip?

    This is similar to walking on carpet in bare feet . While sitting, I put both feet on the floor and stomp a few times. It brings me back to the present and distracts me from the emotional response I am spiraling into.
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    Trying to reduce the maladaptive coping tool of self contempt

    Nuremberg, I can relate to thinking I have the power to cause people to hurt me. It just seems so unlikely that all of these people who hate me could be random. But that is my distortion. Others choose to behave as they do and those who do love me insist that I am not so horrid as to bring...
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    Physical illnesses as ageing due to stress and anxiety.

    Hamburger and all who responded, Thanks for bringing this subject up. In some ways there is nothing to be done as I am 65 years old and very ill but it does help to explain why I have been so ill since early childhood. Thanks
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    Sufferer Sad, hurt, crazy, and confused - sexual & physical abuse, murder, & recent stressors

    Lost Soul Yes I agree that we do not want to be banned and this seems like a great site. The moderator got back to me very quickly. I understood him or her to say that I can share resources as long as I have no connection or might benefit. I do not. These resources saved me and my marriage...
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    Sufferer Sad, hurt, crazy, and confused - sexual & physical abuse, murder, & recent stressors

    Lost soul, I'm so sorry for what you are going through. Your feelings are perfectly normal and just " accepting what happened" is not a solution. Discovering that your life has been a lie goes to the heart of our sense of reality. It can cause extreme distress. You are coping well in my...
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    If You Didn't Have A Chance To Build A Self Before Complex Trauma

    Fiona, Thank you for your response. What I wrote is a bit confusing, I will elaborate. Initially, until over 30 years ago, I had no memories whatsoever of life before age ten. It's hard to believe but I really didn't give it much thought. Again, I didn't know what I didn't know. Then I began...
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    If You Didn't Have A Chance To Build A Self Before Complex Trauma

    In some ways I feel less in touch with myself than I perceive others to be. I don't remember much about my childhood. There are many reasons for this and without memories my sense of self is limited. I do not remember teachers names or even much about where I lived growing up. My mother moved...
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    Family

    Snowflake, Thank you for asking this question. My brothers and I can finally discuss some of the more benign forms of abuse that we suffered through as children. It has a very healing effect on me. However, I struggle with my relationships with my adult children. Oddly, part of the reason is...
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    News Us politics - read first post before comment

    I am hoping that it is ok to write about this in this thread. I have no desire to cause distress but I am struggling with news reports that say that children are being separated from their parents when they present themselves at the United States border seeking asylum. I fear for these...
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    Sufferer I feel broken - ptsd & mdd

    Nobodyyyy Hey, Im so sorry you are in pain. I don't know your story but in all likelihood your pain comes from some genuine trauma. So what you are feeling is normal and it responds to treatment. I agree with those who suggest therapy. I know its hard to make those arrangements sometimes but...
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    Gaslighting vs transference vs over-reactivity vs ???

    Dogwood Tree, Are you asking if you have a right to feel as you do? You do! I don't think you need to know if you were being gaslighted so much as to know that the interaction made you feel devalued and caused you pain. I think we sometimes think we must prove the others motives in order to...
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    Sufferer My wife and ptsd

    Hello Adam, Welcome. I'm new also and I hope you find the support you are looking for here. I do agree with what most have said regarding your wife maltreatment of you as you describe it. I also know how hard it is to leave especially when children are involved. Do look into some things you...
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    Leaving after 5 intense years

    Leah Hi I’m new but I wanted to say that I had a very intense relationship for years with a therapist who felt like a mother to me. I healed so very much with her and after almost 10 years it ended badly. I will always love her but the transference - mine to her and hers to me made working...
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    Is there a reason...? is there something you’re supposed to accomplish? or just fate & random?

    Hey @ladee and all who shared their thoughts, Im up all night due to having had to take prednisone before my procedure today. So it seemed like a good time to write. I found all of your responses interesting and diverse. For some we are here and there is no grand scheme and for others finding...
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    What Are You Grateful For Today?

    My kind nurses
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    Is there a reason...? is there something you’re supposed to accomplish? or just fate & random?

    Hey@ladee Wow! Your wisdom is showing. I will need some time to process these words. I gratefully accept your tender hugs and I amazed at your articulate compassion. I’m struggling to see the page through my tears. I will not be on here until later as I have a medical procedure today and...
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    Is there a reason...? is there something you’re supposed to accomplish? or just fate & random?

    I have a rare disease that makes my immune system almost useless. It is not known what causes it. I do not know this to be true but I believe I am so ill due to constant unrelenting stress in childhood with no way to process or resolve it. Frankly, I think that this illness is so rare because...
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    Why did you choose the forum name you use?

    Hey @whiteraven, That is a great story. Thanks for sharing. Hey @The Bat-Fax, I was thinking about how I had no idea what happened to me as a child prior to age 33 years! I didn't know. It took a long long time to remember and process it all.
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    What Made You Happy Today?

    Hey@ Tornadic Thoughts! I heard from my grandson today. I love him so much!
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    Sufferer My life - d.i.d. & cptsd

    Hey @littleoc, Sigh... I too am very happy to have found all of you and I look forward to getting to know you all. I do so wish this had been available to me in my younger years but alas computers were not even available to me in my younger years. K sara. :rolleyes: Thank you for your kind...
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    What Made You Angry Today?

    hey@ladee I'm sorry for your sadness but it is necessary to allow it at times. To do otherwise would be untrue. Life has been hard for those of us with trauma and unfortunately it keeps on keeping on. I hope you are feeling better and if not feel free to vent. I also worked so very hard to...
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    What Are You Grateful For Today?

    I am grateful for grateful people.
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