Thank you. I think this is a good community to learn from PTSD. You are right that perhaps I should not ask so much if anyway I still choose to be with her and believe her.
I will stay in the community to learn more about it. I do believe in her,and that she is giving her all in this moment...
Hi! these boundaries have been enforced for many weeks and they have been respected without any problem. This week she is going to visit her family for the first time since 2019, and still, we will be in touch every day
I don't think she was trying to make me jealous, she was crying a lot during our call afraid that I was going to leave her.
This is the only person she can rely upon in Germany. Meaning, that she says he began changing after their divorce but she does not want absolutely anything with...
Thank you, I know how to set some boundaries.
I mean, her life has not been easy, and I'm meeting her yes or yes. If I don't, I will always regret what might have been.
Since she commited she has not been speaking to other guys.
What is her real CPTSD? It is being left behind...
Ok, she wanted to speak on Skype some minutes ago as she was feeling bad. And so, we did.
She tells me that her ex husband would like her in general not to date other men, but she had another relationship after being with her ex (she divorced two years ago) she also said she will...
That is true, I have not met her in person yet. I don't know if she is playing games. So far what she has told me, has come up to be true. I stopped coming here in the last two weeks because there was not anything strange to speak about. We communicate daily while we are both...
I mean, he is not physically intimidating and he does not look like uncivilised person by his looks and profession.
Sure of course. I'm not going to cut with her because has shown to be an exceptional human being. I just would like to know, how to handle the ex husband aspect
Yes, I am happy...
Thank you. So you just think is a bad idea to visit her?
Lol it was crazy advice I had been given.
Uhm, so you just think it is a bad idea to visit her? She has not been offensive towards me on anyway, and we often speak, I mean every day.
I just wonder if it is simply a bad idea to visit...
Good evening, it has been quite a while since I posted here. Ever since, we have got closer and I definitely think on visiting this August. However now an unforseen problem has arisen. As you know, she is not a German native, but from a different Central European country. She went there...
Like that I value her further and feel the need to go quicker to her? I understand. Today we spent a good time talking and laughing. Was time for some language lesson :)
I wish you a good week ahead!
Thanks for more amazing advice.
Well, I think this morning there was a bit of an issue. I mean, I general enter to that webpage of meeting people from other parts. Previously she had left a message on whatsapp telling me how much she loves me and all was all right. Then I wanted to joke a...
I mean, I told her that if she wanted to be free, then she could openly be so, since we haven't met in person but she keeps insisting that only wants to be with me. And for a part it does seem true, like we spend a long part of the day together.
But she had told me she only used that social...
Hello, I told her that boundaries probably were better to not exist since we have not met in person. And that she should strive for her happiness. Then she said that she believes her happiness is with me, and so won't date from here until we met.
Interesting. I mean, I see no problem that she sees her ex husband. They were together for seven years and are both foreigners in Germany. It would be worse if she only spoke the worst about him.
Things are ok. The important thing is to have learnt to keep my boundaries.
It is good to...
Good evening from my country!
From what I said last time, do you think she really cheated? right I know, it is very difficult to believe that she would sleep with someone in the same bed and not have sex. She insists, and insists that she did not.
Two days ago I decided to take a more...
I agree in all points. But she was not blaming me for all. From one of our first conversations she told me that she CPTSD, and that it could be very problematic and that if I was willing to take the risk on that. That day was going well, we spoke until late and she began having this...
It definitely sounds better on paper than done. I mean, it is not really like she molded herself as how I wanted her to be. When I say that we understand each other, I meant that even from the beginning, what she spoke regarding existence and her own mental angsts, resonates with me from...
Thank you. What I try to mean, is that time she was indeed very enthusiastic that I would go there, and then in a sudden evening instead of saying let's talk, I simply said let's end everything. I know that for someone with CPTSD that can hurt a lot.
But I also know that then she found a way...
Good morning from my country,
I'm a 32 y.o. man from a Latin American country. Last March I met online a girl (28 y.o) from an European country that is studying in Germany. I met her on a language exchange webpage, and I decided to message her because her profile seemed to be different...